how close in age should my kids be?

Question

is this scenerio possible?
I want to have a boy. 3-5 years later, a girl. 9 months- 1 year later, another girl.

Answer 1

It really depends on if you can handle taking care of little ones so close together. I have 2 still in diapers, and its pretty hard. I think the best time to space is 2 to 2.5 years apart. It just a struggle to have an infant and to have a 1 year old that always wants your attention.

Answer 2

Anything is possible, but probable? Your mate (or your dr if you pay a lot of money) determines the sex of your baby. Also, if you havent had any children yet, you might find your opinions change after learning how much it takes to take care of them. I had 3 close together, and it was work work work, you didnt get a chance to enjoy the little cute things, cause you were always doing something for one of the others. when my youngest of the three was six, I had another baby, and I LOVED IT. I could enjoy all of those things. Being up at night was "our time", where as when I was younger, with 3 little ones it wasn't fun. Someone always needed something. You just have to leave yourself open to re-evaluate your plans, if you feel too stressed after one or two dont feel like you must stick to the plan. I had another baby this yr because I loved it so much, so now the one who planned 2 maybe three, has 5.

Answer 3

If you have enough money to select the sex of the children - it's possible. Otherwise it luck of the draw. You get what you get and when you get them.
But ideally they shouldn't be more than a year or so apart in age. It will be more of a sacrifice on you, but then they can grow up together. My sister and I were 7 years apart. When I was born, she had her own friends and didn't want a baby around. Then when I was 7 - she was 14 and into boys. She didn't want some little kid tagging along (which I did). Then when I was 14 and into boys - she was married and had 2 babies. So we never really grew up togehter and really never got to know ea other until I grew up and got married!

Answer 4

Hun, it's nice that you have that planned out...but lemme tell ya, it NEVER happens just like you want it to. I have a 5 yr old boy, a 2 yr old boy, and a 7 month old girl. I enjoy them being so close in age b/c they get along so well. My older sister and I are 5 years apart and growing up we never got along. Of course, we do now, but we had many arguments and fights. We hated each other.
And, the good thing is, I'm 25 now and when my oldest is 20 years old I'll only be 39, so I'll still be young, then I can party and do my own thing!

Answer 5

I think they should be about two years apart. This way they will be very close in age and go through the same things pretty much at the same time. Plus if they cant talk to you as a parent with some issues. They always have someone close in age to talk to that they should be able to trust. But as for your scenario IDK. YOu better tell your male partner to keep thinking about the sex you want and maybe it will happen but i doubt. I was saying that because the male sperm determines the sex of the baby. But if ur lucky you will get a boy and then two girls. But whatever happens im sure you'll be happy. Babies bring so much joy!!!!!


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Answer 6

Number one unless you are going to spend some money to have a lab determine the sex of your child, you will not know the sex of your child until the ultrasound. My boys are 22 months apart. They get along fine with that much of a gap. Some that I have seen that are 12-15 months apart fight all the time, and rarely get along. Two yrs apart or more is best not only for your children, but for your body. Pregnancy is hard on your body, and you have to think of your health as well as the baby you are trying to bring into this world.

Answer 7

i would say that it is possible...i have 2 kids and my son will be two in november and i just had my 2nd and he is two months now.... the most fertal time for a new parent is right after she has a baby...although my son was already 8 months when i found out i was pregnant with my 2nd son. there is no right or wrong age that has to be between your children. BTW my 2 yr old is doing a great job with the whole new baby thing...he is a very helpfull big brother and he loves to give his baby brother kisses and heaven forbid if his baby brother cries! he comes and gets me right away and gets mad if i don't hurry up! he is a big help and loves his baby brother. i wanted my boys to be as close as possible in age but yet far enough apart to do the "hand me downs" thing. and as to one of the other answers here poeple who have children close in age that fight all the time probibly had an issue with thier older chil when they brought thier younger child home as a baby...it is called " not properly preparing your oldest for the new baby". I always included my 1st born in my pregnacy and always reassured him that he would be a great big brother and that mommy and daddy will still love him just as much even when the new baby arrives. it all has to do with how you parent.

Answer 8

well picking the sex doesn't always work out as you plan. I was always told about 3 yrs was best but I had mine just over a year apart and it's been wonderful. Once one learns something the next is on his way. But no matter what or when you have them you'll love them just the same.

Answer 9

ill tell ya i have a ten year old an a 17 month old my body is taking a toll cause of the years in between in any case give your self at least two between so you can still have your youth an strenght to keep up with them cause toddlers are so active an infants are kinda layed back so while you still can go for it!

Answer 10

well that depends if you want to have two girls really close in age( this will cause a lot of conflict when they hit adolescence), and a potentially over protecting brother over the youngest girl. but you have to keep in mind that this scenario is almost impossible unless you are thinking about adoption. You should pray on it.