I haven'lt heard from my married lover in 2 weeks, the longest it's ever been. Don't know if he is o.k and just busy or if it is over ,, wherther he has dropped me or his wife has found out, don't know if I will hear back from him at this point and can't risk his privacy to contact him by phone, etc. I'm not looking for criticism on the situation . In the time I have been with him, I have made love with him more times than with any other man, including my ex husband. I enjoyed a deep intimacy with him and miss him terribly. I am trying to meet other guys (single guys) and I have a date today but they are all just guys that I could like as friends but I really don't see any attraction to them. If the guy I meet today turns out to be nice and all, l could be friends with him but am not so sure I could have the same feelings I have for this other guy. What can I do to feel better but at the same time keep his memory in my heart if it is over?
2006-07-19 05:37:42 · 9 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to know that your MarriedLover was never yours to have. You simply "borrowed" him for a short time and that time might well be over now.
Smile at the time you spent with him, feel the warm fuzzies when you think about your level of intimacy, but allow it to fade. He might never contact you again but you have to have the strength to walk away.
Just walk away. =^)
2006-07-19 05:44:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby, i know how you feel. But if it's been that long since he's called or even tried to contact you i would say it's time to let him go. Whether his wife found out or he just lost intetest doesn't matter at the moment. What matters is you and you feeling better and more like yourself again. Let this be a lesson not to get involved with married men. They have too much baggage and you don't need to add to that.
As for you not finding the attratcion to the other men you are seeing is normal. You are still thinking about the married man and these other guys just don't compaire. In time that will change. Like most things, you will feel better in time. One thing that may help you to get over him quicker is to go out with a few girlfriends and let the dating scene go for a minute. When that right guy comes along you will know. Believe me, when love is meant to be it will let you know. Good luck. I hope you feel better and get back to being yourself.
2006-07-20 03:10:31 · answer #2 · answered by babybro35 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the married guy....Never touch him AGAIN!! Shame on you
Getting over him:
Start thinking about all the times he HASN'T Called.
All the time he said he'd be there and wasn't.
Think about him with his WIFE and not you, he chose HER you where just a fling(He's a PIG)
If he was with you, he'd be cheating on you just like he was with his WIFE.
You maybe thinking about the fantasy of being with him and the good times. But if you look at the entire relationship, he really wasn't that into you. He used you for sex, YOUR BETTER THEN THAT!!!!
You can't Just get over someone in 2 weeks, but you can distract yourself. Keep busy, hang out with friends or family. Whatever you do...DO NOT CONTACT him. He'll kiss your butt and tear your heart apart again and again and again. WHY? Because YOU LET HIM
Good luck, I hope you've learned your lesson about messing with a married man(I mean azzhole). Take care
2006-07-19 05:50:30 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop dwelling on it and move on. Anyone with a 1st grade education could have told you this was going to happen so move on. You'll never like anyone else until you allow yourself to forget the married dog that dropped you like a street worker.
2006-07-19 05:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by jdscorrupted 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it's hard but u need to move on. anyways from the get go u knew that this relationship was not going to get u anywhere cause his taken!! u need to find yourself a man that's single so he could give u the time and love u deserve.. Good luck girl!! Pretty sure u'll find someone..
2006-07-19 05:49:10 · answer #5 · answered by mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do u expect when u tangle with a married bloke?theres going to come a time when he wont be able to contact u or he will get fed up of u and look else whereif he can cheat on his wife he wont have any compulsion about cheating on u
2006-07-19 05:43:39 · answer #6 · answered by Sherry Baby ( Ethan's Mama ) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to take time, that's all. You have to realize that this guy doesn't love you, he loves his wife and you need to move on and figure out what you want in a relationship. Focus on loving you.
2006-07-19 05:54:45 · answer #7 · answered by Peace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny i hope you feel beter ive been down that road and it didnt work out for me if he dont call in the next week then email me its tink_king89@yahoo.com my name is tinkerbell (emily)
2006-07-19 05:42:00 · answer #8 · answered by tinkerbelll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guilty conscious....you'll get over it ?.......?....?.....?
2006-07-19 05:41:41 · answer #9 · answered by THE Jester 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋