How did it go? If you fly across the country just to meet someone, you must really be interested in the person, right?
2006-07-19 05:25:45 · 26 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I almost did (he was paying of course). We were very serious about one another for 3 years talking on the phone, exchanged pictures/web cam, spoke to family members, wrote letters, everything except meet face to face in person. It was very strange for me b/c I never thought in a million years I'd fall for someone I met over the internet so I tried to make up excuses and deny my feelings (yes, I was stubborn!). I became so close to him, we had a lot in common. He wanted to meet, always asked and I declined each time. Still, he never gave up on me. Unfortunately, I met someone from my school and started to date him. I did not want to take that big step fearing of going to the next level with this relationship. Therefore, I did not fly to see him or allow him to come see me. I was afraid of my strong feelings for this great man that I did not permit myself to have the pleasure to meet him. I was in denial. Anyway, I'm glad I met my new guy, he's awesome! I have cut all contacts with the internet guy and have moved on, i'm sure he has to. It's been 7 months since I last heard from him. The last email he sent me informed me of how much he cares for me and wishes me the best of luck in everything I do and he mentioned how I broke his heart but will always have a special place there. Once again he offered to start fresh and give this relationship a try b/c he really believed that I was his 'soulmate' and that there was potential for something serious. He is in the military and before heading to Turkey for year he wanted me to come along and live with him. I did not respond to that letter.
People are so quick to judge others from the internet but yet we're also from the internet so it's a 2 way street, not just one! He is NOT just a man I met off the internet, people are quick to assume so much b/f I met him there. I did not ask to meet him, it just happened one day and we clikced very, very well. I was more comfortable talking to him about anything than I wa with my closest friends. He's been a big part of my life and I was in his. When he was deployed to Iraq for 6 months I was constantly sending him letters and care packages. I made him feel secure and loved. When I was entering college he made sure I had someone to talk to, sent me letters as well, spoke on the phone a lot. He never failed to tell me how much he cared. We were always there for one another emotionally although not physically. My only regret is that I wish I had given him the chance to meet me when he constantly asked to visit more than I can count. I was a coward back then but have matured now and I am glad how my life is right about now with my new guy. Remember, these are people just like you and I behind their monitors w/ feelings. I was somewhat careless to acknowledge that before. Ok, sorry I got off topic here LOL.
To answer your question, just because he wants to fly across country to meet you in person does NOT always mean that he is in fact interested. He can be after sex ONLY! Some men will actually go through all trouble for a great one-night-stand. It's disgusting. Do not get the reasons of visiting confused. Go with your gut instincts. If you trust him and really like him go for it! I'm not suggesting you meet him in person after 2 weeks of chatting, you need time. Atleast 6 months. Anything can happen in between that. There are dangerous predators on the internet! Be careful!! We are at risk everyday anyay if you think about it. Going out, bars, clubs, school, anywhere there is a chance for danger lol. Just be cautious. Take your time and be patient. Make sure he feels the same way for you as you feel for him. Make sure whatever your decision is that you will not regret it later in the future as I did. Be honest with him now and don't keep any secrets. I know my internet guy-if he hasn't yet, will indeed meet a lucky woman. He's a great catch <3 But i'm a strong believer in the concept that 'everything happens for a reason.' Good luck!
2006-07-19 05:43:10 · answer #1 · answered by NO♥NAME 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes, please be very very careful.
Firstly, how do you know that person is FLYING??? you know you flying.. how about the other person?? maybe it is someone next door?
Also, make sure of you meet, you must meet in VERY public place, don't ever give personal details, till you check the person out 100%.. get they home address, home numbers, where they work (call work) etc etc etc...
You don't want to end up in someone suitcase.. I know this is scary but just remember that the 'unknown' is very attractive and quickly rubs off.
And please remember.. advertising hot lips such as on your picture can make someone 'see you' as very hot and cheap (no offence intended), easy going (a bit too easy I would say).. so before you go and see the person in Private make sure you know what are the expectations from you and can you fulfill it.. as after all, someone can get angry and this is the least you want from a total stranger.
2006-07-19 05:27:16 · answer #2 · answered by Desert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I have not...but I've thought about it. I have, however, had people fly or drive to meet me over the past years...it's quite flattering that someone wants to meet you so much they'd take the time and/or expense to do that...but conversely it's a lot of pressure because if you two don't "click" well in person as you did online/phone it can make for a pretty awkward visit and the traveler may leave thinking he or she wasted their money...
Be careful...use common sense...although most people you meet online are probably harmless, there are those with ill or deceitful intent...take care of you...
2006-07-19 05:29:46 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mhhh fOr a romantic relationship!
Listen some people in here think that internet people the ones who chat and meet eachohter online are killers.....Come on that is not so true, i am not saying there aren't bUt think of this, you could meet somebody today at the supermarket, he could act nice and everything, you get to know the person for some time, at th end he is a pervert, a killer or God knows what.....What i am trying to say here is that, if you meet someone online it doesn't mean that they are killers, or terrorists. Lot of them got married and they have a family together.....yOu could be at a bar and meet someone and they could be evil......So i suggest you be really careful, you meet him somewhere in public, do not be alone with him.....aT least for some time, and try and see really careful what is he really looking in you.....Luck to you!
2006-07-19 05:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by Lesley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. And currently we are living together. We chatted for over a year and shared just about all there was to know about the other person. We didnt "hook up" in some chat room. But it was also quite some time before we did decide to meet in person. Trust is very important. I have no regrets. My adventure continues!!
2006-07-19 05:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by DJ Damien 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i never flew to see someone, but I have met up with someone I met online years ago. And trust me...meeting them in person is truly meeting them for the first time. There's only so much you can know by chatting online. Or even over the phone
2006-07-19 05:29:27 · answer #6 · answered by sookieruthie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never flown a plane but did go on a wild blind date from Madras to Bangalore to meet the lady whom I met on the internet. She didnt have the looks but had the vitals in her geography
2006-07-19 05:29:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!! I've done it, it couldn't happen, but we're trying again in a month.. I live in venezuela, and he lives in NC. Of course you have to be really interested in that person! Very probably they believe there's a great potential in the relationship. Lucky the people who live in the same country, it isn't so hard that way. It's definitively rewarding.. Great chance to test chemistry.
2006-07-19 05:29:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive flown to a few places to meet people on the net before and flown someone to where i live. it was great.
2006-07-19 05:30:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I havent. But a guy friend of mine met a girl online and flew to Russia to meet her. He spend a week over there with her and he said they had a great time but she wasnt willing to leave Russia and he wasnt willing to leave USA, so they decided to just be friends.
2006-07-19 05:29:15 · answer #10 · answered by bree30 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋