I'm 18 (i am girl, my avatar isnt me), and ive known my boyfriend for 5 years now, were really close and in love but we met online, were dieying to meet eachother, but its hard cuz i live in venezuela and he lives in NC, im going to miami soon with my family and its a great chance to do it, should i tell her hes going and be forced to meet him in fornt of her, talk to him for 5 minutes and thats it? or should i let him stay in my same hotel and talk to him whenever i can escape from my family? also take in count that if i tell my mom shes likely to freak out and it could ruin her vacations, shes too overprotective, and doesnt like my boyfriend too much..
2006-07-19 05:23:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Be honest with your Mom about your relationship. If you lie to her, it will not make her want to support you and your boyfriend. In fact, if you are sneaking around behind her back, she will probably become angry with you and your boyfriend, and will continue to disaprove of your relationship.
If you tell her the truth, you may not get to see him as much as you like, but it will show your Mom that you respect her, and it will give her a chance to trust you and respect you more. If she can see that you are handling the relationship with maturity and honesty, she'll be more likely to approve in the long-run.
PS. If you do meet him, ABSOLUTELY take someone with you.
2006-07-19 05:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by Go16 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion you really should be honest with your mom,maybe if you show her that you are mature enough to do that than she'll see that your mature enough to have a boyfriend.Maybe your boyfriend could go to dinner or something with you and your family so that your parents can get to know him and then they might trust you both enough to let the 2 of you spend time alone together.
I personally think by not telling them and sneaking off to meet this guy you could possibly be putting yourself in lots of danger,after all you said yourself you have never met this guy in person and your relationship up until now has been on line and everyone knows that sometimes people on line are not at all what they claim to be.
Remember honesty is always best and what ever you decide to do be safe.
2006-07-19 12:51:53 · answer #2 · answered by leila rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going on vacation with your parents, i think this means they are paying for the trip etc. Tell your mom, not on line, but face to face or at the very minimum over the phone, what to expect, and if they are against it, then scrap the whole idea. This vacation is for the family and they have probably worked hard and deserve to get away. Don't spoil their trip by being selfish. Take your own trip sometime and then do your own thing. If mom agrees to meet with the boyfriend, then OK, but no surprises.
2006-07-19 12:38:25 · answer #3 · answered by loufedalis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl this is tajay, since I'm more of your age and some what understand where your coming from I'm going tell you what would be a wise way of doing this. 1st off you should tell him to get a room in your hotel and try to make it the same floor, sec meet up with him one time before the 3rd advise I'm going to give. 3rd tell him to meet you at a place where you and your family would be, but tell him not to make it too obvious That he knows you. 4th tell him to comp lament you and your mother at the same time, but be careful of your dad try to get him away from y'all when he do say it. 5th tell him to make him self noticeable to your mom but make sure he is not annoying her, If he make himself noticeable to her then she would feel a Lil more comfortable with him rather then you just telling her you met him over the Internet. Also tell him to spark a light conversation with her too. last but not least the next day so call accidently bump in to him again and then later on ask your mom could you hang out with him around the hotel Try to be really sweet to her when you do, and if none of this work then you have to do what us teens do best sneak out (LOL)
2006-07-19 12:53:52 · answer #4 · answered by yaya t 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have known him for five years and your 18. the decision is yours NOT hers if she is overprotective she is worried about you but the baby is going to have to leave the nest sometime if you no what I'm saying. If you like this guy, whoever said you couldn't just stay with him. But be careful because he dump you later.
2006-07-19 12:29:44 · answer #5 · answered by Tony B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesnt like your boyfreind because most likely hes some weirdo 50 year old still living in his moms basement,chatting online with underage girls like yourself,if youve beeen talking for five years and he hasnt come to visit you,then theres a few possibilities,
first hes older and married with kids(most likely the right answer)
or
hes really not who he says he is(most dangerous answer)
or hes such a loser he cant find women where he lives(most funny answer)
2006-07-19 12:30:12 · answer #6 · answered by cote8377 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm....are you nuts? You met this guy when you were 13???!!! You should tell you mom.I hope you do not ruin the vacation. Good luck:)
2006-07-19 12:28:31 · answer #7 · answered by AQHA34 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell her, either way just tell her your not a little girl your 18 pratically an adult yeah she will freak out but i promise you'll be happy to finally get it out of your chest.
2006-07-19 12:28:10 · answer #8 · answered by labonitameli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id tell her.....cus even though u think u know this person...u never know who he might be....so just to be on the safe side tell her or someone else...n do take someone with u...hopefully a guy who can protect u....but be CAREFUL!!!!!!...n i hope everything turns out well :)
2006-07-19 12:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her now...if she finds out while you are on vacation EVERYBODY'S vacation will be ruined...trust me
2006-07-19 12:27:48 · answer #10 · answered by reddemonwi55 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋