my mom is unhappy all the time. i feel like i am taking the blame for all of her stress and unhappyness. she does not respect me and even flat out called me stupid. i am not happy and am quite tired of hating myself and crying. i know my dad has no control over this and is trying quite hard to make me feel loved. it is not working because i am being called a "selfish, self absorbed brat" and feeling bad a lot more now than ever. am i just over reacting? am i a brat? i dont know where to go or what to do? please be honest. oviously talking to her is not working. she wont listen to me. yes, i can be difficult and even bring things onto myself at times. i keep telling myself this and i dont know if it really is my fault and this is just one part of life that will pass. i don’t normally feel like I am more to handle than the average teen, but very well might be wrong. I feel like I need to know if I am the problem and only I can decide this, but I know I will never find out.
2006-07-19 04:43:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your mom sounds like she is suffering from major depression. And no this is not your fault. Maybe you should go speak to a school counselor. When I was a teen, my mother was suicidal and tried to kill herself many times. I went to the counselor maybe twice a week and found it very helpful.
2006-07-19 04:48:43 · answer #1 · answered by sexxymexxy926 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a lot of teens go thur what your going thur , your at the age where your getting more freedome each day sometimes u as a teen over react and dont no how to handel , reason why this is going on is becuase your in the teen world . you really dont understand the ups and downs of the real "grown up world" most likley your parents are correct , look at this problem from a distance ok and try to cop with it and understand your mom and dad and work with them and if you have to take 5 mins out of your "teen" life you must. guess what when you become a mom and your child growns up you will be on the other side also .
2006-07-19 11:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by jamietogood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're a fairly normal teen.....at least you're not blind to the fact that you're difficult. Here's what you do. If you feel she's being unreasonable - bite your tongue. Realize that her life isn't easy and when she comes home she doesn't need a stroppy teenager bouncing around. If you've tried to talk to her and she's not wanting to hear it, it's most likely your track record in talking to her. Why should you get to be difficult and she has to be nice? Still, when you're 21 and you look (or maybe when you have your own kids) back you'll realize that adults have stress and while it's not your job to make it any easier, you shouldn't make it harder.
2006-07-19 11:50:50 · answer #3 · answered by Lex 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not the problem, so please stop worrying. You are like any other normal teenager. You should still press upon your mum to have a serious talk with you, and ask her what is making her unhappy? What is stressing her out?. When she opens up to you, she might start treating you better.
Also emphatically express to her, that you do not like being called stupid because it hurts.
2006-07-19 11:52:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anya M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what other problems you mom might have or what type of stress she might be in you may want to investigate what is there that is stressing her out (besides you).. see if you can help/assist her with anything to relieve any stress
try to find out what is her languange of love
here's the link to see what her or anyone's language of love might be
http://www.selectsmart.com/FREE/select.php?client=lovelanguages
2006-07-19 11:54:19 · answer #5 · answered by Oracle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel trust me. all i can say is try to help her a little with what ever it is that is making her stressed and if you cant help with that then try to help with other tings that will make it so the one thing is not so stressful. and no it is not you fault and you r probably no worse then any other teen.just remember that a lot of parents do to they children what it is your mom is doing to you.
2006-07-19 11:51:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r in deep soup. do a self introspection, talk seriously with your mom and dad. ask your mom what she really wants. then u will figure out who needs a psychiatric treatment....u or your mom. act accordingly
2006-07-19 12:01:06 · answer #7 · answered by midas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋