A cousin is coming to my house today by surprise to send me her weeding invitation. I am angry at her for certain reasons. Click there if interested.
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What do I talk to her since I don't know what to talk about with her? I don't want to feel awkward.
2006-07-19 04:25:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
life is to short to be fussing and fighting with family. if she is making an effort to come out of the way to "bring" you an invitation to her wedding that says a lot. It says that, "I am forgiving you, I am coming to see you... obviously I have no queries about what happened, lets be a family."
I am sure both of you will feel equally awkward being around each other... however, you yourself either need to approach it or let it die. There is not need dwelling on an empty past.........
Peace and Good Luck
2006-07-19 04:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshine_Diva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this:
Ok here is the story, my cousin is having a weeding soon and I don't want to go because I am very angry at her. She used to be my fav cousin, we used to have fun and joke around but when she turned 15 she started seeing this guy on his 30's from dominican republic, who was probably undocumented and was a plumber without certificate and couldn't read. All my family started to criticize her because we care , she got angry and cut communication with all of us for years. Now she is 21 and she is back with another dominican guy and wants to marry him. Now she is showing her face cause she is looking for money to support her weeding. In every family reunion her parents came except her. When I visited her she didn't come out of her room and didn't said Hi, and now she is looking for us.
The last straw was when my grandpa died in last December. She didn't come to the funeral, that was the ultimate insult for me and my family. That's how much she cared.
Should I care of going to her weeding?
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2 weeks ago
Is not that we are racists, My family is puertorican and we feel that these men are looking for her to marry her and gain her citizenship. If they were more educated and more responsible it would be fine. The new guy is too old for her too.
Plus my cousin is ugly and seems she has low self-esteem because she can't find a man and she may feel that dominicans are the only ones who would be with her.
2006-07-19 04:29:26 · answer #2 · answered by Puppy Zwolle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are so angry at her, why would you want to go to her wedding? Does she know that you are angry at her? Is she aware of what she did to make you so angry? If not, it's time to vent and tell her exactly why you are so mad. Do it in a way that you do not sound like a howler monkey. Just talk to her like an adult and see where things go from there. I am in sorta the same situation, but I chose not to go to her wedding. Hope you have some luck with this one.
-Lori
2006-07-19 04:33:37 · answer #3 · answered by one_sera_phim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what she hopes to get out of this marrage, and why can't she wait. Be patient and let her explain. Try not to act angry when she answers. Perhaps If you start the conversation out by asking about her life so far...keep the conversation focused on her, she might open the converstation. Let her know that you will try to understand and forgive her (maybe).
2006-07-19 04:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by lifeinquestion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her about her fiance- ask her about the good traits, if you don't approve after she tells you tell her. Talk out the problems that you got angry at her about. But do it in a friendly, maybe even nonchalant way. Be courteous and don't loose your temper. You said you used to be close, so if all else fails- take a trip down memory lane.
2006-07-19 04:32:19 · answer #5 · answered by sondra j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing good comes from hateful, negative behavior. Life is too short to carry on this ridiculous feud. Greet her warmly, kiss and makeup, support her, and act like a caring human being. Have you never made a bad decision?
2006-07-19 04:29:43 · answer #6 · answered by Incongruous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You catch each other up on what's been happening since the last time you saw her. Plus she has ulterior motives...she could have mailed the wedding invite.
2006-07-19 04:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, how about what you've done since, you last saw your cousin? You job or whatever?
2006-07-19 04:28:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel
2006-07-19 04:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by hotlookingbabygirl80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋