My guy got angrey with me when l turned up at his house un anouced, we'd been going out for nearly a year, so l didnt think it mattered if l turned up once with out letting him know?
2006-07-19 04:10:49 · 35 answers · asked by London girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
l was at lose end so l thought l'd just pop round, no other reason, l know some people like you to call first, but he was really funny about it.
Oh and if my first answer doesnt care, why take time to type an answer?
2006-07-19 04:16:39 · update #1
that cause he's really a closet queer and don't want you to find out about it. he probaly had his boyfriend all greased up on his hands and knees when you showed up. i think you shoul have come over here instead as i woulda answered the door naked and ready to SEE you
2006-07-19 04:14:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
From what you said he is probably cheating / but maybe he was looking at porn (it all amounts to the same thing).
However it is very possible that you have the problem. Is this the whole story ?
Did you tell him you were doing something else (Because then he would think you didn't trust him).
Have you been spending a LOT of time together?. (Because then he might just want some time to himself).
Was he in the middle of something? Like some work or study etc. ? (People can get very annoyed if they suddenly have to stop doing something important to them.)
Some people do find it rude to call over unanounced but not friends and certainly not boyfriends/girlfriends.
2006-07-19 06:43:51 · answer #2 · answered by ghd45 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you stop seeing someone all dating rules that you used to abide by go out of the window.If you were still dating he probably wouldn't mind you dropping by unannounced but now your not dating he probably feels a little threatened by it.The best thing to do is call him first and arrange to see him as this would stop any awkward situations occuring,imagine how you would have felt if he had got another girl there! I mean could you cope seeing him with another girl?
He shouldn't have got angry with you though he should have just explined calmly why he didn't want you there and i know it's hard but your just gonna have to accept what he tells you.
2006-07-19 20:54:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as you can see alot of people who really just cheater instigators suggested that his cheating, which don't get me wrong is very much a possibility but I mean you never know the house could've been a mess a complete mess you know how guys are and you come over and see that and like damn you trifling. Then again that is rude also just to stop by unannounced so he might have just felt disrespected, or what am i kidding he most likely is cheating now that I think about it, I mean if my girl just stopped over unannouced I'd like it it might lead to some unexpected sex or something but he gets mad i mean something most likely is going on you need to check into that DONT STALK HIM!!!!! but keep your eyes open.....
Sincere
2006-07-19 04:26:45 · answer #4 · answered by datflyguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears to him that you are 'checking up' on him. He probably views this as you not trusting him. A man's home is his sanctuary. If you go there uninvited/unannounced, he will feel like he is losing his only private place left. Just tell him you're sorry and don't do it again. A simple phone call (even if it is 5 minutes before) to say, "Hey, I was in the neighborhood, do you mind if I stop by?" is 1000 times better than just dropping by.
2006-07-19 04:22:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well now you know!
Oh well, at least it gives you the chance to work out that 'ground rule'. Maybe he doesn't want you to come 'round before he's cleaned the place.
Anyway, it's not the end of the world, maybe you could just say that you didn't realise it was such a big deal for him and just clarify if he wants you to call ahead every time.
Simple!
2006-07-19 04:21:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him,some men are odd like that.It does not mean he is up to anything.Has he done anything before that u have thought odd or secretive.Some people r open others not.Go with your gut feeling and do not think the worst.He may be worried about something and cannot express it.Time will tell.
2006-07-19 05:31:56 · answer #7 · answered by pedro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry hun but if he wasnt pleased to see you he must have been doing something he didnt want you to know about or he was planing to and you ruined his plans.
Do you often visit him at his house, not sure how old you guys are but does his family know about you perhaps he is shy to let them know he is dating maybe his family would rib him about it.
Best just to say sorry i know you havent done anything wrong but just say "sorry if i was a nuisance that time i just thought it would be a nice surprise" he will probably explain his reasons but only you know wether you can believe him or not.
2006-07-19 05:27:34 · answer #8 · answered by sister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds quite dodgy to me.
I'd pop round unannounced more often if I were you. Especially late at night after the pubs/clubs have closed, if you know what I mean. Good Luck.
2006-07-19 07:49:06 · answer #9 · answered by Treat Infamy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't THINK he was cheating on you. More than likely he was either busy or just wanted some time to himself. Guys like to allocate their time, girlfriend time, work time, sleep time and especially eating time, (never ever interrupt a man when he's eating, it's like taking food away from a hungry attack dog!). lol.
You should never go around unannounced. It's rude and it's like when worlds collide, like that Seinfeild episode. Men like to keep things separated.
Bottom line:You threatened him by invading his space so he attacked.
2006-07-19 04:24:35 · answer #10 · answered by Ben R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be hiding something. Why should he care if you show up unannonced?? Thats crazy. The only explanation is if he had a possesive and unsecure girl in the past. Good luck.
2006-07-19 04:14:45 · answer #11 · answered by timberwolf2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋