My husband and I have been married for a few months now, are financially secure and have a 2 bedroom condo, but I keep going back and forth on the idea
I am 24 he is 26
2006-07-19 04:04:25 · 16 answers · asked by GD-Fan 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should have children whenever both you and your husband think you're both physically (well, you're only 24) and emotionally ready.
2006-07-19 04:07:31 · answer #1 · answered by rogue 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well your married and financially secure that sounds like a good start but its not everything. Having doubts and asking other people what they think you should feel, is probably not a good idea as everyone is different. You have only been married for a short time so spend some quality time with your husband as having children can take away a lot of your free time. Babies need all your attention and can not fend for themselves so ask yourself if you are ready to deal with that just yet if not then there is always later you are still young.
2006-07-19 11:20:01 · answer #2 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mrs F,
I think the experience of a lot of people is that when the time is right, you know it. I'd just make sure that both your husband and yourself are ready to start your family (neither one should be dragging the other into parenthood).
It's very important to take a good honest look inside to see if you and your husband have dealt with your personal demons to the point where you feel confident that you can raise emotionally healthy kids. The world is strewn with messed up kids who were messed up in large part because their parents had them before they were emotionally ready.
It's a big commitment, so think about it very seriously, but as a father of two, I can tell you that the rewards are more than worth it.
P.S. My wife and I were married 14 years before we decided the time was right! ;-)
2006-07-19 11:17:32 · answer #3 · answered by anonymous_surfer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you unsure about having kids? Is it that you think that you haven't been married long enough? You need to figure out what the reason is that makes you unsure that you are ready... If you can't figure out what the reason is, then you have the same problem many people do, you're waiting for the "right" time. If that's the case, just go ahead, if you keep waiting for the perfect moment, you'll never have kids.
2006-07-19 11:10:49 · answer #4 · answered by Mmenard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep on going back and forth, that means that you are not "ready". When the time is right, the two of you have to be agreed on everything - you have a lot of talking to do before making this decision. It's a lifetime commitment!
2006-07-19 11:10:10 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend some time just the 2 of you. Take a trip, and spoil each other. Be sure that you are both ready to have kids, because they can take over your life.
2006-07-19 11:08:17 · answer #6 · answered by ht_butterfly27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep going back and forth on the idea, you're not ready. You shouldn't have kids until you are 100% certain that you're ready.
2006-07-19 11:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by tangerine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm 24 and my b\f 27 and we have 3 kids and we not married but its all go but there are down side to it to we dont get to go out much are spend alot time together so live it up for a little while.
2006-07-19 11:28:14 · answer #8 · answered by OceanBlue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you feel you really want a baby. Sounds like you should wait since you have doubts. Talk it over with your man he can help you decide. in the mean time enjoy your time once have kids around you'll miss it.
2006-07-19 11:43:12 · answer #9 · answered by jose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go ahead and have kids, Just wait a few years then have them. I suggest waiting for 2 years total.
2006-07-19 11:08:19 · answer #10 · answered by Betterwithpie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you keep going back and forth on the idea then you aren't ready, wait until you are know 100% that you are sure that this is what you want to do.....
2006-07-19 11:07:08 · answer #11 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋