i had an affair with a women from work fell in love and then she got married to the man she was cheating on. we never went out never had sex just kiss. it's been 2 years since she had been married and now she is starting to flirt again and we kissed the other day. she say that they fight all the time and she had kixck him out a few times as well. ok so he my question what should i do, should i go with this a be bad or am i looking to get hurt again. i know she loves me and i love her cuz we fell in love and never did anything with each other but spend time at work. i love her more than anything but i am so confused please help..
2006-07-19 04:00:07 · 17 answers · asked by jet2002jet2002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your just lookin to get hurt again. it looks as if she somes to you wen she is happy with her life. your just a pick me up. you can do a lot better than her!!!
2006-07-19 04:02:58 · answer #1 · answered by soccer star 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I will answer this two ways. First what goes around comes around so if you ever plan on getting married, and you want your wife to be faithful then don't mess with another mans wife. Now you make think what if I get married, and she (your future wife) cheats any way. What I will say to that is at least you will have a clear conscience. At least you will know that it's not karma, and that you have just married an unfaithful person because karma is a bi**h when she comes back around to get you because she fights with a vengeance.
The second thing is this young lady wants her cake and ice cream and she wants to eat it to. She is missing something that she has managed to find in two men. Maybe he is finically secure, and maybe you are her mental and emotional support. The bottom line is all of her needs are being met, and If you ask me I think that is a little selfish.
I will say this to you. I told my boyfriend you are a grown man and you can do what ever you want to do I just have to decide whether or not I am willing to deal or put up with it. So that's what I am saying to you if you are ok with enabling her to continue to drain you emotionally and mentally without you ever having the pleasure of having sex with her, without ever being able to fully be apart of her life or better yet just keeping you at your current title (The man who I use to help me escape from the life I have chosen even if it's just a few hours out of the day) then go for it.
2006-07-19 04:54:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her that as soon as she files for divorce, you are all hers.
Respect yourself more and don't settle for being the rebound guy that she runs to every time its not working with the man she married.
An additional note. Are you sure you want to be involved w/ a girl who has so little regard for a relationship, let alone marriage, that she feels cheating is the only way to fix her problems?
I'd think about that long and hard.
Good Luck!
2006-07-19 04:06:55 · answer #3 · answered by Just a Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to move on. You need to find a girl to have a stable relationship. I believe that you love her or think that you love her but if the love was geniune she would not have married that guy 2 years ago. Good luck and don't fall into the cycle again as I fear that you will get hurt.
2006-07-19 04:06:18 · answer #4 · answered by JennyWho? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your only going to get hurt again. Nothing good can come out of something that stated like this. Dont waste your time.
2006-07-19 04:03:34 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO BABY! dont .. im telling u now .. dont .. cause if she files a divorce on him and goes out with u .. what makes u think she wont do the same to u??
2006-07-19 04:04:29 · answer #6 · answered by ily_______&?; 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably not going to leave her husband for you. It's just a diversion for her. Leave her alone. She made her decision two years ago.
2006-07-19 04:03:53 · answer #7 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your looking to get hurt again, get yourself a single woman. they rarely ever leave the one they're married to
2006-07-19 04:02:34 · answer #8 · answered by Mz. Tanning Bed Junkie! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that she is just using you as a crutch when her life is bad, so DO NOT fall for it. Tell her that you will continue with this when she is single.
2006-07-19 04:07:54 · answer #9 · answered by sexy lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your looking at being hurt again just walk away from her that's the best thing you can do
2006-07-19 04:05:00 · answer #10 · answered by lasondraperry-graham 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it, she is just being selfish. Tell her you will only see her when she is serious and no longer in another relationship. You deserve at least that.
2006-07-19 04:03:35 · answer #11 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋