alright i have a problem and need help im in love with this kid and we went out for 6months and then he broke up with me for no reason we remained friends but we were always fighting hes mean to me and somtimes i kno he doesnt mean it but its hurts me inside to even think he can think of saying the things he says to me i dont kno what to do and since im so in love with him i cant ignore him he thinks he can tell me what to do and make me change because i love him so much but its frustrating is there anyone out tehre how can help me get threw this??
2006-07-19 03:52:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey..it hurts but love is not meant to cause sorrow. Be strong and realise you deserve MUCH better than this. You are not alone.
2006-07-19 03:55:15 · answer #1 · answered by Linda B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out why your have such a low self esteem. You just said he treats you bad. This didn't just start it was all through the relationship whether you choose to admit it or not. This guy is abusive. And you are Abused. There was a reason why he broke up with you....HE DOES NOT RESPECT YOU NOR DOES HE LOVE YOU. Love does not hurt. God did not intend it to be painful. He's controlling , abusive and more than likely his self esteem is lower than yours. People like him use people like you to build themselves up. What better why to make yourself feel better than to belittle someone else? It has been my experience that people who want to control others have no control in their lives. So they need to feel important and in control by downplaying the worth of others around them. You need to be supported by family and good friends. Or a counselor who can help you.
2006-07-19 04:07:36 · answer #2 · answered by alluring617 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can help yourself get through this by cutting off all communication with this guy who doesn't respect you enough to be decent when he talks to you. He has no regard for your feelings. Honey, you just can't be 'friends' after a big emotional breakup - it's immature and unnecessary. Break up for good. Tell him you won't take the pain he causes you with his words anymore and back it up with no communication. Tell him you can't be friends or anything else to him because you respect YOURSELF enough to get over him. You will hurt for a little while but if you get busy doing things for yourself, and putting yourself first for a change, all of that will turn around and you'll be ready for a new relationship soon. No one can treat you that way unless you allow it. Now get up and be a woman and tell the dead-beat to "beat-it".
2006-07-19 03:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Q1) Y in the international did he forwrd it to you??? Q2) Do you propose they stay locally or thy actual stay together? Q3) How lengthy considering they chop up? this autumn) How lengthy have you ever 2 been "together"? This Q will improve better Q than A in my suggestions i'm afraid. there is no ordinary answer. My reaction to the unique Q as revealed (the first bit) became "it is called protecting HIS ideas OPEN" After reading some thing it were given so much better wondered & i imagine my gut reaction remains the right one yet i do not imagine he's actuially dishonest on you cos in the different case he may under no circumstances've forwarded you that e mail.He'd be telling you he's reduce all contact, the undeniable reality that you stay in thoroughly distinct parts of the rustic & prob only see one yet another hardly potential he ought to assert in spite of he needs, yet he's axplained each and everything to you & saved it, quite, above-board, my significant issue is that he's stringing this different detrimental female alongside as a fall-decrease back, in case he comes to a decision he isn't any longer as into yu as he thinks he's. best of success & desire in spite of you ascertain is the right determination contained in the destiny.
2016-12-01 22:03:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do something to boost your self-esteem. Why are you willing to settle for somone who treats you that way. You deserve someone that knows waht he wants, and treats you well. If he treats you like this now it will only get worse with time. He has already demonstrated that he likes to take advantage of your feelings and weaknesses. That is typical of controlling behavior that is linked to all forms of domestic abuse. You sound like you are young, there are alot of guys out there that will treat you what you are worth, but you have to feel like it first. Don't settle for anything less than the best. Because you are worth it.
Good Luck!
2006-07-19 04:01:22 · answer #5 · answered by Little Tree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im going thru a similiar sitiuation.If you can go to my question, please do, I have gotten great responses. On the other hand, my ex was not abusive to me, and your relationship sounds abusive. You should be thankful that he let you out of it. Because him being mean could turn into something worse like him puttin his hand on you. He isn't worth your heath physically, mentally or emotionally. Good Luck
2006-07-19 04:28:03 · answer #6 · answered by goodgirlabout2gobad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no point. Once you are in love no one can tell you to get out of an abusive relationship. You wont do it. You wanna hear how you can stay with this person. it wont work - but you will probably find that out when they hit u.
2006-07-19 03:55:34 · answer #7 · answered by Surely Not Bassey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are in love, you are supposed to bring out the best in one another, try and cut off a bit of contact with him, see how you get on with out him for a bit.
2006-07-19 04:14:27 · answer #8 · answered by London girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's what you get for falling in love with a kid, you need to get yourself a real man, who is going to respect you, the kid broke up with you cos he doesn't love you, why go through all the trouble for someone like him disrespectful and mean
2006-07-19 03:57:51 · answer #9 · answered by Lil mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awe baby gurll .. its ok .. im sure he still loves u just wait and see.. but u cannot let him no ur soo much in love with him that he will think oh.. she loves me soo much i have her wrapped around my lil finger... no hunnie ur the gurl! u have to tell him what to do!! lol .. n e way just act differnetly around him be like omg i met this guy the other day hes really really cute!!! and then he would be like oh .. and then just act like ur over him and im sure he will come crawling back to u
2006-07-19 03:57:24 · answer #10 · answered by ily_______&?; 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋