I have a bit of a problem, or at least I think I have. I am estranged from my father due to an abusive difficult childhood. I am getting married in February, and they asked in my 'giving notice' session, what my dads name was and what he does. I told them his job and his name.
I read in the booklet we got from the register office that your dads name will be on the certificate, is this true? How can I make sure it isn't on the certificate? Also, will his name be mentioned in the ceremony? He obviously wont be present, but will his name be mentioned by the registrar within the ceremony?? I am a bit worried as I want my big day to be the most special day of my life, but this is really upsetting me as I don't want him to be part of that day.
I would really appreciate replies. Thanks.
2006-07-19 03:47:04 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Your fathers name will only be on your birth certificate if your mother put it on when she registered your birth.
You do not have to have his name mentioned in ther ceremony - it is your wedding and it is up to you what you want - write to the registry office prior to the wedding and tell them, but the weddings I have attended have never mentioned parents. It is very general as it is specific only to you and unlike a church wedding they do not have a lot of background details. You can get a copy of your birth certificate by writing to the registrar in the area that you were born giving them your name and date of birth - It does not cost a lot and it will help put your mind at ease.
Go ahead and have a great day and hey if by some error he gets mentioned, don't let it upset you - you tell yourself that that's the last time and walk into your future with your new husband and not the ghost of your father.
2006-07-21 05:03:33 · answer #1 · answered by geegee 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The fathers name is on the marriage certificate. Talk to the register office and see if there is a way to avoid this. I have no clue if you can or not. Also talk to the person that is doing the ceremony they may be able to help you with understanding this more and telling you more information.
Good luck!
2006-07-19 03:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your situation. My father is in prison and I have had no contact with him in 7 years. I had to give his name for my marriage license, but his name does not appear on my marriage certificate. I got married in TN. I don't know about all states. Just ask the person performing the ceremony. They will know. Good Luck.
PS, try not to focus on that. His name shouldn't be mentioned at your wedding unless you ask for it to. My mother and step father were present and the were not mentioned.
2006-07-19 19:06:37 · answer #3 · answered by mrslang1976 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want your father to be a part of anything, your wishes need to be respected. His name may well be on the certificate, but his name does not have to be mentioned at your ceremony. Only you and your future spouse decide that.
2006-07-19 03:54:24 · answer #4 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, stop worrying. This is just a piece of paper. His name is on your birth certificate so it may as well be on your marriage cert. Best thing to do is stop allowing your dad to spoil this happy time of your life. In life we have lots of forms and lots of details. Doesn't mean we find them important - its just what we do.. You have a great wedding and a very happy life. You may get a piece of paper with your dads name on it but you'll just fold it up and put it in a safe place and never read it again. Another point is..just say 100 years from now you have lovely grandkids searching for their history..they need these details. Fill in the form and just be happy. Without this bloke you wouldnt exist and you've made a life you love without him. Power to you. Be happy!
2006-07-19 12:52:26 · answer #5 · answered by Jackie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certainly will not be mentioned, but it is a legal requirement, and if it is on your birth certificate it MUST go onto your marriage certificate. It is necessary in case there is, at any time in the future, any question of inheritance, allows lawyers to see who should get what if they have to divide up an estate.
2006-07-19 04:22:14 · answer #6 · answered by mike-from-spain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husbands father was never part of his life and when we got married his name was not put on our marriage certificate.
You do not have to have this mans name on your wedding certificate. Ring the register office - explain the situation and they won't put it down, it isn't law and its up to you.
Have a lovely wedding day!
2006-07-19 11:37:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a legal requirement in almost every state on the license application and marriage license, but only a couple states actually have it listed on the certificate itself.
The only way you could not have it on the license would have been to tell them that you didnt know who he was, but then you could be prosecuted for perjury because you would be lying under oath. Its not worth it to take the chance.
2006-07-19 10:17:26 · answer #8 · answered by Paradise Weddings & Travel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this depends on your state. I got married in PA and our parents names were on the application for the license, but they aren't on our actual marriage certificate. Talk to your officiant and explain your problem. I'll bet they come across this all the time.
2006-07-19 08:08:16 · answer #9 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will only go on the certificate, it will not be used at all in the ceremony.
You should have told them you dont know who your dad is, then they wouldnt have anything to put on there!
2006-07-19 03:59:03 · answer #10 · answered by OriginalBubble 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋