As I noted in my question I needed my boyfriend because I am alone in new city, he is much older and helping me a lot. Otherwise I would never move in with him and he knows that. But it's still bothering me, I don't like this kind of situation because I don't feel comfortable in it. I really don't want to move out at this point but this live in situation is a constant reminder that I am doing something stupid. What do you think should I do to make me feel better about my situation?? Again, it would be very inconvinient to move out at this point.
2006-07-19 03:37:38 · 4 answers · asked by nazyk6 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You point out that you really don't like the situation, you don't feel comfortable, but you don't want us to suggest you should move out.
Obviously, we can't help you.
If you think you are doing something stupid, move out. You said it's inconvenient. But inconvenient and impossible are not synonymous. There's nothing wrong with roughing it.
What would you rather do, something stupid or something inconvenient? Nothing worthwhile is ever easy.
2006-07-19 03:47:30 · answer #1 · answered by That Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't find your original question so bear with me...
Unfortunately people are creatures of habit,(we like to keep doing what we're doing and resist change because it's easy). What you have to do is break that cycle, which is easier said than done. So I recommend taking things one step at a time.
First of all, I would suggest if you don't already have a job to find one. This way you can become financially independant. Once you have established that you can find a place. I'm in a similar situation to a degree where I need to move on with my life but I realise that you can't just drop everything. This approach never works and you'll only end up having to move back in with him and you'll become more dependant on him than ever.
So take it one step at a time. Job, new place, move out and cut all ties if you have to. But I recommend you find the job before you find the place otherwise you could end up travelling for hours to work and back home again, (I've done it, so take it from experience it sux).
So get yourself motivated it's going to be a tough grind and there will be rejection along the way, (looking for work and a new place to live) but it will work itself out. You seem like a smart enough person, so you'll make it.
I wish you the best of luck,
Take care.
2006-07-19 11:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by Ben R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you hear yourself?
Inconvienient?
Stop being so weak - and do the right thing. If you don't want to, stop complaining. You're making the choice to live in an unhealthy relationship because it's "easy" for you.
Give me a break.
You can move out, find a roommate...a friend...you CAN find an alternate solution - you just have to work at it.
2006-07-19 10:47:45 · answer #3 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should move out rite now!! and come move in with me cause I LOVE YOU, i think
2006-07-19 10:48:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋