am 22 and just finshed my pharmacy degree .......am a good looking guy ....and have a athletiic fisuque ..and am 6ft .1 and by the way am not boosting ....ok now heres the problem ....am virgin and mum wants me to get married to some girl ...am not sure if i wanna marry her...she seems ok ...but havent actually got to know her properly.......i would find my own girl but i have a 1 flaw in my whole character.......and that is am shy around girls ..just am....am bold at everthing else ..but with girl its a diffrent story ....i think its becuase im virgin ....should i lose my virginity and that way be a more confident guy ....but then again i dont wana hurt anyone ....and oh yeh theres that girl issue to.....or do i just get married ..am proper confused ...sujestions please
2006-07-19 03:28:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
whatever you do dude, DONT GET MARRIED. you cant just marry someone the way your talking bout, it would never work. you have to get to know someone and all that kind of stuff first. and on the virginity thing, dont stress, its no big deal. with the shyness, you just have to move out of your comfort zone. from there on in everything gets easy.
2006-07-19 03:32:48 · answer #1 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage should only happen when you know that its right for you, and that you love the person you are going to marry, unless its your culture to have arranged marriages.
As for the loosing the virginity to become more confident, well im not a professional or anything but i don't think having sex can make anyone more confident. In fact it could just go the other way. I have always believed that people keep thier virginity (the people true to themselves of course) because they want the first time to be special. In order to be special, i think you should have feelings for that person that you are going to give it up to. I would re-evaluate the reason why you are still a virgin, and make your decision based on that.
As for the shyness thing, I know the opposite sex can be intimadating, but we are just people as well. When approaching a girl/ woman, just treat them like one of your friends. Be nice, gentle and sweet and be yourself. just keep in your head that you are good enough to be talking to them. Shyness usually comes from a low self esteem that people don't realize they have until they try to talk to the opposite sex. Just be you and know that who ever you are, your great, and your worth peoples time.
Good luck and enjoy.
2006-07-19 03:40:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think your only flaw is that you're shy you are wrong. You sound like a mama's boy if you have any issue about your mom wanting you to get married to a girl you don't know enough. Who wants to marry a man who isn't even a man?! You have your mom on your back about marrying a girl you don't know, it shouldn't even be worth mentioning because a REAL MAN wouldn't have that even be a consideration. 1st get out of the nest. Snip the umbilical cord. Than go out and do things you like to do (do you even have hobbies other than sticking around and helping mom out?) and naturally you will meet someone with the same interests as you.
2006-07-19 03:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never, ever, EVER marry anyone out of your free will! You marry ONLY when and who you want to marry! Being a virgin should not stop you from getting to know a decent, pretty girl. Maybe you should try dating older women (between 27 and 35). You don't have to "jump through as many hoops" as we have already been down that "awkward dating" path. And, an older woman will be easier to talk to and get to know.....try it and see.
But, whatever you do, do NOT marry that girl if you're not in love with her!
2006-07-19 03:34:33 · answer #4 · answered by Dee M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER get married to 'just get married'
Try to become comfortable around girls. See a professional if you must, to help you with your shyness. You dont need to marry this girl your mum has chosen. But it wont hurt to go out with her. You never know what that may lead to. Dont blame your shyness on being a virgin. You simply havent met someone you'd like to be intimate with yet.
2006-07-19 03:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't lose your virginity even to increase your confidence! it's just not rite! U hurt the girl and u will be so disappointed in urself for doing something so stupid! Losing virginity is best after u get married! u don't want to be responsible for a baby before you are satisfied of your single life rite??? the best way is to meet the girl and start to know her before marriage... it is the best way... to increase confidence around girls, u got to talk urself into speaking to them... just talk to them and get them to talk to u back.. humour them a bit and u will be fine... u will be happy with urself and confidence will build up...
2006-07-19 03:40:40 · answer #6 · answered by sihdinaa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush into anything.Ask for time and get to know this girl.If you like her then see what happens.Good luck.
2006-07-19 03:34:01 · answer #7 · answered by ponygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you a closet gay guy? And if not lose your virginity.what's the problem
2006-07-19 03:33:02 · answer #8 · answered by Jazzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋