its going strong for past 2 yrs.we love eachother a lot.but i sometimes feel that just cos im aging...he's put in a situation to think of marriage at an young age.if i was young i wouldnt think of a marriage for another 3 yrs.if not we have no issues....we're a very loving couple.
2006-07-19 03:23:54 · 13 answers · asked by cherry 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my "fiance" is 7 yrs younger then me and so i completely understand what you are going through, he's in his 20s, i'm in my 30s. however, the difference is that he brought up marriage 1st. he wanted to marry me before i even considered it. we've been together a little over a year and he proposed to me after our 1st year anniversary and we are relocating. he won me over even after i was concerned about the fact that he was so young and i couldn't forgive myself if i took away his youth. he has his whole life ahead of him and i also wasn't sure how he could consider marrying an older woman when there are so many "young-ens" out there. i feared the future and what he would feel like after some time. in the beginning he pursued me, assured me that i was the one that he wanted for now and always. that i had nothing to worry about. trust me i tried to end it for his sake and my protection. especially since i had issues, which he was aware of. he stuck around and showed me what a man he truly was, how mature he really is. his actions prove he truly loves me since he fell in love with me. i finally decided to give in, to enjoy our love and not be concerned about what tomorrow may bring. he put the ring on my finger and that says a lot. he didn't have to, i didn't force him to or force marriage onto him. he did it all. i love him and can't wait to start our lives together!
2006-07-19 05:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by HopeThisHelps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 5 1/2 years older than my husband. Sometimes people say some stupid things about it, but men date and marry women much younger all the time...so why can't we? He was my best friend. He is completely different than any other man I have ever met. Our 2 year wedding anniversary is coming up. We got married when we were 21 and 27. We are soo happy! Go for it...your soul doesn't know age but it does know who you love! People are just jealous that you have a young hotty on your arm and their husbands are sitting on the couch being a lump! I wish you all the love and happiness that you two deserve! Good Luck!!!
2006-07-19 04:22:04 · answer #2 · answered by pashashoney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's about the age gap between my wife and I (ours is just a bit less) and I was 23 when we married (10 years happily married now).
The ages are not an issue here. However, if there are other issues - which I think you're hinting at but I'm not sure - then address and resolve those. Don't use the age as an excuse, because it's not a good one in this case.
2006-07-19 03:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by Steve W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the problem, he's obviously a mature young man. Why can't you try talking to him and seeing what are his plans for the future b/c your at that age where marrriage is the next best thing and maybe it is for hi as well. You'll never know unless you'll talk seriously about it. Don't worry about the age difference, a number doesn't mean anything and marriage is a individual decisions made by people at all different ages.
2006-07-19 03:27:42 · answer #4 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 years age difference is not much of anything at that age... and if you've been going strong for 2 years, there's nothing wrong with considering marriage. :) Good luck!
2006-07-19 03:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by Falcon_01 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl.......don't let age play a factor in your future. If you truly love each other, there shouldn't be any problem in taking the next step. If he loves you as strong as you stated, then he will commit if he isn't thinking about it already.
2006-07-19 03:38:50 · answer #6 · answered by Tee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can think of marriage all you want. You know better than anyone else if he wants to be married. If he doesn't, let it go. Word of advice my father gave me: YOU CAN NEVER KEEP A MAN THAT DOESN'T WANT TO BE KEPT. If he doesn't want to be married, don't guilt-trip him into it because that's what YOU want.
2006-07-19 03:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by Dee M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, talk to him about it. Do you know it is young for him? If so, wait for a bit. If you don't know, ask him about it. It's perfectly acceptable for couples to talk about possible marriages.
2006-07-19 03:26:25 · answer #8 · answered by Not done with love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever talked to him? If you plan on being with him for the rest of your life anyway, does it matter when you get married?
2006-07-19 03:28:06 · answer #9 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to make such a decision. It's not only up to you.
If it's something you both want, then go for it. You're both old enough to know what you both want.
2006-07-19 03:27:47 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋