I have this guy friend that i recently admitted to liking him. he admitted it that he liked me to and he is real shy and quiet and very nice. but recently he went on a kayak trip and i have been having 2nd thoughts about him. should i just give some time to sink into me cause i want to see other guys too but i dont want to hurt him. what do i do?
2006-07-19 03:22:52 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are unsure of your feelings for him, so just put it on the back burner. If he really likes you, he'll prove it, then you can go from there. But don't wait around for him to do that.
2006-07-19 03:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all if U wanna C other guys than NO U do not love him. If U love someone U have no desire what-so-ever to be with another guy. Take the space that U need, U may find that U really do care for this guy. or U may find that the guy was just a crush.
Either way, if U are having doubts U dont wanna string this guy along U'll only hurt him.
Good Luck and remember love will come one day, U have PLENTY of time, and when it does, there is NO DOUBTING IT.
2006-07-19 03:40:18 · answer #2 · answered by HeartsOnFire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes. Just be careful not to hurt him too much. I mean, you can't escape from hurting him at this point but tell him something along the lines of how you really feel without being harsh about it. Go hang out at a coffee shop or something and tell him that you want to take it slow. Let him know that the attraction is there but that, that is all there is there for now. Give it time, things like this always fall into place.
Good Luck!
2006-07-19 03:31:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with almost everyone else here. If you are second guessing it, the answer is no, you don't really love him.
I think you are in love with the idea of being in love. When you found someone who you were attracted to and heard they liked you, your head got in front of your heart.
In response to what do you do now? You have to let him know. It is just wrong to lead him on in believing that you like him.
And, how do you do that? As it sounds like you initiated this elevation of friendship to potential boyfriend by telling him you like him, you have to be the one to fix it and you must be honest.
Explain to him that you are worried about losing the friendship and you might have to admit to yourself and him why you really initiated this whole thing in the first place. This is not going to be easy, but you have to do the right thing out of respect for him.
I think the worse thing people do when they start dating and then decide they don't want to pursue this is too not explain. It may not be the greatest thing to hear, that your boyfriend / girlfriend is just not attracted to you but a little bit of pain now saves a whole lot of pain in the future.
Good Luck!
Don't be too hard on yourself. You live and you learn. And, who knows, maybe he is not that into you either and you two can agree that keeping your relationship as friends is best.
2006-07-19 03:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by Just a Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the info you have given is not enough to know what really is going on. what about the kayak trip, why is it making you have second thoughts? how long have you guys been friends? im in a similar situation and its working out great. get back to me.
2006-07-19 03:33:09 · answer #5 · answered by joe luis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not ready to settle down. You don't love him or you wouldn't want to see other guys. be sure that you are straight with him. But I will tell you this. I was shy too.. This guy probably has a big heart and is selfless. He will put your needs in front of his own. Maybe that is exactly what you need when you mature into a woman
2006-07-19 03:28:42 · answer #6 · answered by bigblock_475_hp d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a big differece between like and love. You may like him as a friend,and like his ways, but I dont think you love him. If you were in love it would take way more then him leaving to change your feelings. Why dont you just stay friends with him, and the two of you guys do your own thing.
2006-07-19 03:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by motherof3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's your friend and that friendship is important, end it now. the longer you take the more pain it will cause. be honest and kind, let him know that you care for him to much as a friend and would hate to do anything to hurt him and that continuing this relationship would only cause him more pain in the end. it may hurt him now but he will be thankful in the end, especially for your honesty. and if not, you will at least feel better and have a clear conscience.
2006-07-19 03:27:45 · answer #8 · answered by HopeThisHelps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him about your feelings. He might be falling for you. It's not fair to him to be dragged along while you figure out what you want. He will respect your honesty and appreciate you being considerate of his feelings. It'll work itself out from there. Maybe tell him something along the lines of what you wrote on here. Good luck!
2006-07-19 03:27:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well why don't you talk to him, ask him if he wants anything serious or if he just wants to date every once and a while. Maybe you two can work something out, you never know maybe he feels the same way.
2006-07-19 03:26:54 · answer #10 · answered by Nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give it time, maybe your just scared where the relationship might lead. If after awhile you still want to see other guys. Talk to him and let him know what your feeling.
2006-07-19 03:26:31 · answer #11 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋