Should kids be allowed to spend more time with their friends more than their siblings? If kids say that they don't want to spend time with their siblings and play with them, should they still be allowed to spend time to play with their friends and be with them?
There are some parents that don't let their teenage children hang out with their friends unless they spend a certain amount of time with their siblings. That is unfair. Do you think so? Kids shouldn't have their priviledges taken away because they don't want to spend time with siblings and family. Right? There is nothing wrong with not wanting to spend time and play with siblings, right?
2006-07-19 03:12:09 · 15 answers · asked by youngwoman 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Parents are God until you're 18. Suck it up.
2006-07-19 03:16:53 · answer #1 · answered by barelyliterate 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Here how it is kid. Your parents are right. You may not understand it because whether you realize it or not you behaving selfishly. I'm not saying that you’re a bad person all I'm saying is that right now you're only thinking about yourself and how this is affecting you. Stop and think for a minute how it may be affecting your sibling(s). Do you think that maybe they might be feeling unloved or unwanted by you because you don't want to spend time with them? How would you feel if your friends rejected you for someone else? That's how your sibling is feeling. You need to remember that family always comes first. When your friends turn their backs on you your family will always be there to support you. As you get older you will grow apart from most of your friends but your family will always be a part of your life so please learn to enjoy the time you have with them.
2006-07-19 10:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by zmebme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's my opinion that siblings should spend time together. I thought that was what the dinner table was for. My parents made us eat together and spend time together. It was great most of the time. I appriciate it more now that I am older. It keeps a bond within the family. Now I don't think that the kids need to spend ALL day long together, they do need social skills with friends. There should be a balance.
2006-07-19 11:17:45 · answer #3 · answered by Brandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids should definetely not be forced into playing with their brothers and sisters if they do not want too! Just like they shouldnt be forced to play with other kids!!! I do feel one family night out of the week u take all the kids to dinner and spend the night at a Bowling alley or fair or something the whole family can do so that you still have family time. BUT forcing a relationship on them is NOT going to work at all. Maybe if they realized that their little sisters and brothers really look up to them- want to be like them- see them as their hero- it would make it better!!!
2006-07-19 16:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep... I think you're right. Kids should be allowed to spend time with friends whether or not they spend time with their siblings. However, I think there should be "family time" where they are required to spend time (maybe just a few hours) with the entire family...perhaps on Sunday night or something.
2006-07-19 10:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're kid's a teenager, it's TOTALLY normal for them not to want to spend time with their siblings. Every teen goes through that, they'll grow out of it.
You shouldn't force them to spend time together, that's like putting 2 strange cats in a small box together: it only leads to trouble.
2006-07-19 10:17:34 · answer #6 · answered by Guppy Geek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my own opinion, (as brilliant as it is) I think that delivery is EVERYTHING. Naturally as children grow up, family time is less of a prioity. Now my oldest daughter is only twelve, but I predict that as she desires to spend more and more time with her friends, her father and I will encourage that, but will never tolerate language that causes hurt feelings to her brother's and sisters. I mean, we would never allow her to go to the mall with her friends if she tells her sister that she would not want to be seen with her. Does that make sense? I don't think it is too much to ask to encourage siblings to get along. Privileges will be lost if they purposely hurt eachother's feelings.
2006-07-19 10:19:37 · answer #7 · answered by sincerelysarah117 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with a teenager not wanting to spend tie with siblings, it is perfectly normal
but a parent should never allow friend time to interfere with family time...and a good parent would never allow their child to spend more time with friends than with family
2006-07-19 10:19:04 · answer #8 · answered by Cap'n Donna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think teenagers under 18 should have curfews of 10 p.m. on weeknights and midnight on weekends. I think they should be required to be present at dinner with the family unless they are at an extracurricular activity that has adult supervision. I think they should have mandatory household duties at the same level of those their parents perform. I think they should be required to keep their parents informed of their whereabouts at all times. And I think they should introduce their parents to all their dates and to anyone who enters the house. When they have moved out and are supporting themselves, the rules go away.
2006-07-19 10:21:20 · answer #9 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
making a kid hang out with their sibling isn't always the best thing.
I've learned over years that the more 2 siblings are together, the more chance they have for argueing and fighting
2006-07-19 10:18:23 · answer #10 · answered by Eng 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no point forcing them to play with each other if they don't want to so why punish them? I would encourage it but not press the issue. You could organize outings for your kid so they do some things together. Kids have minds of their own..... the little buggers. What can you do, hey?
2006-07-19 10:18:19 · answer #11 · answered by pieter U3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋