hey there guys and girls
I've been with this girl now for a little over 5 months but we were friends for about 4 years, we finally got together when we sumed enough courage to make it happen. The problem i have now, is that she still talks to her ex and tells him she thinks bout often (i caught this happening 2 days before my birthday too). And he still calls her, "his girl". Now this guy left for another country and then only we got together, i feel like a substitute for when she decides to leap back into his arms. She tells me not to doubt her faithfulness, but how can i not if this is all going on behind my back? I struggle with trust as i've been burnt so many times before. I really care for her more than she knows and ive sacrificed so much for her and made such an effort in the relationship. (except for reading her emails, but i found the betrayals there). i really dont know anymore, do i carry on trying to trust her or should i confront her about this? plz help, thanks
2006-07-19 02:55:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you should let that one go. The fact that she's still communicating with her ex (in a way that bothers you) shows that she still has feelings for him that she may never have for you. She's using you as a back-up in case things with her ex don't progress any further. You should start seeing other people and see how that affects her.
2006-07-19 03:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by Landslide 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you break up with someone, doesn't mean you necessarily stop caring about them. This person obviously meant a lot to her, and it's okay that she still thinks about him, as long as she no longer has any romantic intentions or interest in him. Sometimes it's a little hard to let go of a bond you had with someone. It's a possibility that she still has romantic feelings for him, and if that's the case, you do have reason to worry. Just make sure she clarifies the nature of her feelings with you.
2006-07-19 03:08:09 · answer #2 · answered by sookieruthie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u really hav 2 leave her..wat 4 be a subtitute..i believe tat u can find a gal much much more better than her..but i should say final choices is on u..maybe u wil think worth 2 sacrifice 4 the gal..good luck..
2006-07-19 03:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by blur 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her now before she leaves you when he comes back..you already know in your heart that she likes him alot and will pick him over you..don't worry you will find someone else who will treat you better! you don't need this, i can tell its killing you! I'm sure she wouldn't like it, if she knew you were seeing another girl behind her back!
2006-07-19 03:00:47 · answer #4 · answered by HotBarbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be a friend
find another person
im like u have a friend for 7 years, n wat i get is 0
but i tell him him before u go that u love him...
so he knows how u feel and u will feel relife...
but is up to you if u still want to continue
or give up like me cause my friendship for 7 years is still going on..
and i start to open my heart for other person..
its hard, but its life...
dont just stay there, go on...
2006-07-19 03:07:34 · answer #5 · answered by fionagracia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell her how you feel, and maybe trust her until you see more unfaithfulnesss.
2006-07-19 03:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there and done that.....let her go
2006-07-19 03:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by Toby S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋