my husband is out of town, i m really upset with him, he will not make it by tomorrow :( . Should i not talk to him for few days? or what m i suppose to do at this situation????
2006-07-19 02:36:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Make a surprise visit where he is at.
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2006-07-19 02:40:01 · answer #1 · answered by mikemadie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure that you are very disappointed that you won't be able to spend your 1st anniversary together with your husband. I think I would be a little upset and depressed if my wife was away for our 1st anniversary. I'm hoping that he did everything he could to be with you during that special day. Since you are mad at him, I get the impression that you don't feel he tried enough. I can't tell you that for sure. The only thing I can tell you is that not talking to him is not a solution. Since it's early in your marriage, it's good to learn that now. If you ever want to make a bad situation worse between you and him, don't talk to each other. The only time you should stay quiet is right after an incident happens and you want to have time to cool off before you say something you'll regret later. There's a scripture in the bible that says something to the effect of, "Never let the sun set while you are angry." In other words, try to clear up things before the day is over. The longer you hold it in, the angrier you get and the larger the gap becomes between the two of you. So let him know how you feel. Tell him how disappointed you are. If there's nothing he can do, hopefully he'll try to make it up to you by celebrating a day late or as soon as possible. Then, after you are enjoying your evening with your new husband (even though it's not on your anniversary), you'll be glad that you didn't give him the cold shoulder. And by the way, congratulations. May you have many more years together!
2006-07-19 10:07:15 · answer #2 · answered by Jimbo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Luana, There are lots of reasons a person may not be with the one they love on an anniversary. I care more about our anniversary (17 years on 1 July) than my wife, yet there have been times we could not be together on this important date. I have even been in situations when I could not call her, something I do almost every day we are apart. She knows that I do care about the date, and we try to make it up to each other on then next day we have off together.
Remember that it is more important that you are there for each other, not only for a specific date.
It is possible that your husband does not realize how important that date was to you. In that case, sit down with him and talk with him. Explain why you felt hurt. If he loves you he will listen, and grow with you.
Remember that a marriage requires 100% from both of you. And even then it is difficult!
God bless, Paul
2006-07-19 11:35:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give him the could shoulder! That willl only make things worse. If it's for work, chances are he's disappointed he can't be there as well. Let him know you're disappointed he can't be there, but still be understanding. Make an effort to make it a special day, whether its just a phone call or you arrange for something through his hotel or wherever he's staying - you could go and visit him! You can also plan for a special day soon after to celebrate - you could call it your 53rd week marraige anniversay.
2006-07-19 09:56:45 · answer #4 · answered by MandyT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is out of town because of work reasons, then I do not think you would have any reason to be upset. He has to work to support you. As far as not speaking to him for days... never do or say anything to him that you would not want him to do to you. A marriage is a hard and maybe long road to travel on, you can decide to travel to together as a team. If you decide not to travel as a team then you may as well take seperate roads now.
2006-07-19 09:42:53 · answer #5 · answered by Shawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First anniversay.....I'm assuming a year.....not a wk, month, or otherwise. Depends on why he's out of town. Dont be foolish if it's unavoidable. However, if it's by his choice, then you have every right to make him pay dearly upon his return.
And we know how to do that now dont we ladies??? :)
2006-07-19 09:53:42 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are upset but not talking to him will only make you feel worse. Set time for the two of you to celebrate when he returns. I have been there and we will be celebrating our 17th on the 4th. Enjoy eachother!
2006-07-19 09:43:41 · answer #7 · answered by Shelby L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congrats on the year.
did he choose to be gone?
don't be a rag guys simply just don't care about stupid stuff like birthdays and anniversaries valentines day sweetest day christmas easter holloween kicks butt, forget the rest
2006-07-19 09:42:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends if he is out of town for business or pleasure. If it is for work, forgive him, if not, give him the cold shoulder!
2006-07-19 09:40:37 · answer #9 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, is he out of town by choice or obligation?
2006-07-19 09:49:24 · answer #10 · answered by ♥monamarie♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋