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Question

like a month ago my gf said she loves me and i dident say it back.. she was all over me around that period.. but like last week i said i love her to, which i do! ive told her quite a few times but now shes a bitt distant. like shes backed off a bitt...
did i do somthing wrong?? like dont girls wanna hear that?? im confuesed help please

Answer 1

She is like every other girl and that is confuseing. She probably has planned this out for weeks now with her friends and this is some twisted plot to rap you around her finger.

Answer 2

Well that's the irony with guys vs girls especially as sterotypes go. Guys tend to not really look at the big picture and when girls give subtle hints about things to guys they dont take notice and need a more direct approach to things. Girls tend to take notice in every little detail of things, like if a guy normally says "yes" to things and suddenly says "I guess so" then she will probually think something is up(which it might be----but even it if isnt, she probually will---trust me----I know, Im a girl^_~). And so when a girl communicates to a guy she tends to do it in subtle ways and so the guy doesnt realize what she thinks she's communicating to her and then the guy does things straight forward more to the girl and doesnt pay as much attention to the little details and so the girl gets the wrong idea somtimes.
^_^I'd say just have a good talk with her about it, tell her you feel like she's growing distant and ask her about it, then when she answers you then talk to her about it and explain everything to her. Dont be afraid to say you're sorry. ^_^

Answer 3

Girls want to hear that sweet word! Be sure about that. maybe the reason why she has been a bit distant from you is just because she said "I love u" and you didn't give it back to her (at that moment). Maybe she thinks that if she tries to appear distant to you, you would get more attracted towards her.
Or...maybe there is smth else (smth that you may have done or said) that may have upset her....????
Well, the best thing to do is : TALK TO HER, and ask her about what worries you.
But be sure that saying "I love you" does never have a bad effect on people!
Good luck!

Answer 4

Most girls DO want to hear it.(I seem to be exception). She may have lost interest in you since you had not told her when she told you, however.
Why did you not tell her when she told you, if you actually do love her? The only acceptable excuse is that you were not sure at the time. No matter what most men think, women DO NOT like to play games. It is stupid for a man to risk being with someone he loves because he feels he has to play games, or stay aloof. It it were not for people thinking that they had to play games in relationships everyone would be able to find someone to be happy with.
Do you know how difficult it is to tell someone how much you care for them, & for that person not to tell you the same? It hurts. It REALLY hurts. You may have hurt her feelings so much that she feels she wasted spending time with you & she may have even made the decision that she has to draw away from you to protect herself from being hurt even more.

If you really care for her, you need to try to talk to her about this & explain to her why you hesitated to tell her you loved her when she told you.

Answer 5

well when she said i love you to you, you didnt say it back and me being a chick, i know she must have felt like sh*t because when a guy is hesitant or doesnt respond to i love you, it can mean a lot of different things, like it may mean that he really doesnt love you or it could mean he is unstable in the relationship...girls do want to hear that guys love them but the thing is, now it seems like you are just saying it because she is distant...dont be confused, stay in control...keep trying at it but dont say i love you just to get her back...you have to have feeling with it and you really have to love her...explain to her that you really do love her and make sure its the i love you thing thats bothering her and not anything else, because you may have done something stupid that you didnt realize you did, that is bothering her and that is the reason she is distant...dont worry, if she really loves you then she will be close with you again but only if you try with love and real feeling...

Answer 6

first of all buddy, you dont just tell a girl you love them unless you do!! The girl will find out later that you dont love her and that will be the end of the relationship. not because you dont love her but because you lied. 2nd if she told you she loved you then that must mean she does and girls like to hear the "L" word but only if it really means something. she probably got distant because you didnt say it and then you did. she prolly doesnt know if your being truthful.

Answer 7

She was probably hurt when you didn't say it back and now has doubts about whether you really mean it since you finally said it. Have you discussed this with her? Time to sit down and have a little heart 2 heart!

Answer 8

She doesn't feel that you are sincere about and only saying it now because you felt pressure to do so. You could talk with her and explain why at that time you didn't say you loved her. She is now insecure in the relationship and is not sure where it is going.

Answer 9

You know some girls are like glass when they break its really hard to repair. Well when girls say that they love you they mean it. You made one mistake, when she said to you that she loves you and your answer was wrong. I say alot of times to my friend too but he doesnt says back then i am really hurt.Love the one who loves you not the one whom you want to love. Remember time and tides wait for nobody.

Answer 10

Girls/Women emotions are up and down for very little reason..so you may have caught her in a down mood that day..as long as your saying the right things, they can't use it against you later...say one off color thing during a down mood and she'll not let you forget it the rest of your life...hang in there..it can be a bumpy ride sometimes.