my boyfriend of 7 months broke up w. me because he couldn't take our busy schedules anymore...i work all day & go to school at night & he works on the weekends. after 2 weeks he calls me & tells me that he misses me & loves me & that he made a huge mistake by letting me go. this didnt phase me & i told him that saying it would not make me believe it anymore because i believed him when he said that he didnt want to be with me. i told him that he needed to prove to me that he wanted me back. i got home from work last night & there were flowers delivered to my house that said "i love you so much & i am ready and willing to prove this to you now. i love you endlessly -ben". i thought it was sweet but i knew that i needed more than just a sorry and flowers for my heart to settle. he asked me to take work off tomorrow because he has some suprises for me. i love him but i want to be positive he loves me.
do you think he's sorry & that he truly knows he wants to be with me?
2006-07-19 02:11:51 · 19 answers · asked by brittany110586 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I don't think he truly knows he wants to be with you. From the looks of it you are almost 20 and he is probably about the same age. I think you have a lot of looking and maturing to do before you find someone that is mature enough for you. Also, think about this: After a break-up it is very typical for the pair to miss each other, that is human nature, and it is o.k. But what has changed in your lives that will make the relationship work now when it didn't before? Do you still work all day and go to school at night? Does he still work on the weekends? If all of this is the same, then taking him back will bring you right back into the same situation after the good-feelings you get from being back together settle down. It is o.k. to not cling to anyone too tightly until you get married! Just move on, no hard feelings.
2006-07-19 02:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by 1,1,2,3,3,4, 5,5,6,6,6, 8,8,8,10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loved you in the first place, he would have accepted your schedule and been cooking dinner or cleaning while you weren't home. Being supportive is a sign of loving someone. This picking up the peices crap is just that. He did you a favor and now its your turn to take time for yourself and ask if you even want another possible nightmare scenerio with someone else while your schedule is crazy. But as for this guy who after 7 months wants back, well he had 7 months to prove that he accepted your schedule. and to show that his feelings for you could withstand anything. Obviously, it wasn't. Good luck though....
2006-07-19 02:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by Baghdad Pete ! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he probably is sorry....looks like he decided 2 break up with u because he felt it was the best thing to do at the time and now he regrets his action....i'll let u know what makes me think so: i have this really good friend, a guy who had a relationship with one of my best girlfriends. They were together for about two years and even applied to the same university just to be together; suddenly he broke up with her....he probably felt 'tired' of the relationship....a few days later, he called me for advice and kept calling to talk with me.(They moved 2 a different country for uni so u can imagine how much he was spending on phone bills)....neway, he called saying he regreted breaking up with her, he missed her, he couln't eat or sleep...etc. i then adviced him to tell her how he felt (i would have told her about his calls and all but i did not want to get directly involved or betray his confidence)...so about 2 weeks after their breakup, he planned a surprise dinner in a fancy place to appologise and ask her to be his girl - again. she said no. now i know my girl and i know she was still madly in love with him, but like you, she wasn't positive and she believed him when he said he did not want to be with her anymore. She ended up getting hurt because she lost him and she did not save the relationship when she had the chance.
Think about it. if u're not 'positive' but u're still in love with him, why not take a chance and follow your heart?....it's better trying and taking the risk now than wondering what would have been.
Good luck......hope i helped you!!!
2006-07-19 06:51:19 · answer #3 · answered by Iamtheone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think He's sorry but only you know that. It sounds like he really just made a mistake. He prob. was overwhelmed withyou'll scheldule, everyone says things they dont mean. Give it another try. Dont pass up Mr. Right because you not sure if he loves you. You love him, Thats all you need.
2006-07-19 02:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by jdnsmama1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation with my ex fo 7 months. He broke up woth me for reasons untold and now he has that look again and I can tell he's about to ask. I don't knwo because after he told me that he loved me and broke up with me.
2006-07-19 02:28:17 · answer #5 · answered by Katie Bug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your schedule is stillgoing to be busy! so he'll break up w/u again. come to a common ground make a schedule for time w/ him and turn off ur phone and just be alone a couple days a week
2006-07-19 02:18:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. take the chance he was really sweet and he didnt break up for someone else only because its hard to be in a relationship where neither of you have time, see him.
2006-07-19 02:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what exactly do u want him to do to prpve it to u.. give him a chance.. we dont know what we got til its gone.. well i think he realized what he had and is willing to try his hardest to get it back, he didnt cheat on u or betray u, just a momentary laps in judgement...
2006-07-19 02:19:09 · answer #8 · answered by wildspirit1313 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happens with all
first he let u go then he realised
that somthing is missing and that somthing is not just anything
is this special some one i feel for that is u
give him another chance
dont be so mean ok
cheers
2006-07-19 02:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by ghost13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, i think you should first see what he's gonna show u, after a while see his reactions, and check out to see his expressions while he's around you, but if u like what he does with you, and YOU yourself feel convinced that he loves you, then go for it, there's nothing stopping you =)
2006-07-19 02:16:49 · answer #10 · answered by mychiqui93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋