About a week ago I met a guy here on Yahoo! Answers, he's been my boyfriend ever since. This weekend we're going 2 Michigan for a short vacation. It'll be near where my bf lives. I want 2 meet him and we (me and my bf) have the plans made, but how will I tell my parents once thay get there? My parents are strict and my dad just showed me an e-mail he got about a girl that had a "friend" on the internet and he turned up at her house. he was actually a police officer, but it showed her parents everything he had found out as being her "friend". I'm really scared 2 tell them after that. I figure if I can show him to them in person there, it might convince them easier. Please give me any suggestions.
2006-07-19 02:11:48 · 8 answers · asked by wolfgirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, i'll B w/ my Best friend, she's going w/ us. I'll make sure 2 use the buddy system. I was really cautious going in2 the relationship when I answered him. I keep asking him questions 2 find out stuff about him. My friends were worried @ first too, but I told them about our consersations and stuff, and now they're not as worried.
2006-07-19 02:57:22 · update #1
a week isn't a very long time. But any way, tell your parents or if u have an older sibling tell them get them to meet him with you. And then take him to meet parents you could always say u met him there on vacation.DONT MEET HIM ALONE! Even if u say to ur parents the situation and you want them to meet him with you then that will show you being responsible and they will liuke that.good luck.
2006-07-19 02:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by xx6hannah6xx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really do not think it is a good idea to just go and meet him without your parents knowing!!!! Tell me what will happen if your bf turns out to be a lunatic and you did not tell your parents and he abducts you or something??? Remember he can tell you that he has black hair with blue eyes and that he does this and that, but you do not know for certain, he can lie about all the things he told you thus far!!!
Every day you get people that chat to others on the net and the other man/woman turns out to be very different than said!!!
There is even child molester and rapists waiting for the right moment and person to come along and make their day and give them what they want!!
My Advice: Tell your parents and ask them to go with you!! You guys can meet at a coffee shop and talk and your parents can be there without your bf knowing anything! Your parents can do their own thing, it is just for your safety!!! Your father should know that you are very responsible in telling them and asking for their help and in that way they feel involved and proud to have a daughter that know wrong from right!!!!!
So girl just be honest and tell them!!!
Good luck!!!
2006-07-19 09:23:42 · answer #2 · answered by kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright girl, I know of your woes. I met my old boyfriend on the internet. He was really sweet and I fell in love with him after a while. I was scared to tell my parents about it just like you because they wouldnt approove. Get this guy to PROOVE that he is who he claims he is first. Get him to write a sign that says your name on it or something that only you and him would know and tell him to get a photograph of him standing holding it with a digital camera. And not just one picture, tell him to send more than that to you. Make him take pictures of him with things he's talked about. If he can do that then it's a good sign(you might should do the same back for him so he'll know you are who you say you are). Then break the news to your parents. They'll probually not accept it so much at first but after a while they just might give in seeing that he is the guy in those pictures. Now if he's a stalker he could just be faking the pictures with a cousin or something but still. You never know. if your parents agree with it, try making a phone call or sending him a package in the mail and have him photographed with it or something. I had my b/f make me a video tape of himself and send it to me as proof. And if your parents agree tell them that you dont have that much to loose because you can plan the meeting spot at a public place and have everyone with you(with a crow bar in tow! hahaXD). There are so many nuts out on the itnernet, but just think- there are a whole lot of nuts in real life out there too. And for every nut there's even more people who are normal so your chances are greater to meet a normal person than a stalker^_^. Besides, if he is a stalker he's probually tried pressing you into talking about more intimate things and such as if he's trying to use you. Just be careful and play it safe and Im sure things will turn out alright^_^. Good luck with it though! I wish you happiness!! But beware of long distance, my boyfriend and I were together for 3 years with no problem, happy as can be, he swore his faithfulness to me but then he found another girl who lived in his community and Im 2nd best. If you can commit yourself to it and trust that he will too, and you can get over those rainy days where you'll be wishing you can be with him, and you have a way to visit him for about a week or two about once or twice a year at least, then things might go alright^_^. So watch out and try not to let your heart get broken.
2006-07-19 09:24:30 · answer #3 · answered by Kitsune 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok #1 it was not too smart hooking up with someone over the internet, your parents are righ to be wary of internet predators, because the girl in the email was lucky, not everyone is
#2 why you hook up with someone in less than a day, you don't even know him all that well, you must be young.
#3 After seeing that email, do you really think your dad would be the nicest person in the world to meet if you were supposed to meet him after taliking to "his little girl" over the net, i think not
2006-07-19 09:35:59 · answer #4 · answered by Paktown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do dont meet him alone!!!You really dont know this person.Anyone can be anybody they want to online.Tell your parents anfd have them meet him with you.That way you are safe and your father is glad that you let him know rather than hide it from him.Good luck God bless:O)
2006-07-19 09:16:51 · answer #5 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK WtF are you thinking meeting a guy U talked to from the Net???????? haven't you read and news and ppl like this...
The only way you should meet him is if you KNOW ALL about him and let your parents call and talk to his parents....if your scared how you'll dad will feel, he'll feel worst if your DEAD
good luck
2006-07-19 09:26:16 · answer #6 · answered by truthfinder1960 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have lost your mind. You move too fast and are too damn trusting. You just met the dude online last week and your meeting him and want to introduce him to your parents. geesh. coo coo coo coo
2006-07-19 09:19:41 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bring him ato your parents house dinner anjd then go up to michegan if he doesn't show he's trying to do something to you.If he does show up and seems good go with him but if comes and acts suspicous dont go
2006-07-19 09:28:32 · answer #8 · answered by spazywaffles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋