Was is it that when you have been dating someone for a few months, they stop doing the very things that made you giddy inside. The guy that I am dating now, we have been dating for 5 months. I fell in love with him because we had a intellectual and philosophical attraction, not to mention a great sex life. Now, seems like all we have is sex. He doesn't email me anymore and tell me that the day is wonderful because of....or that, he is happy because.... He use to tell me to live life to the fullest and use all of these inspirational words, now nothing. When I point it out, he does it for a few days, but then stops again. Does anyone know why people quit doing the things that won you over? Is it because they have won you over and there is no more chase?
2006-07-19 02:05:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As much as men do not like to admit this it is true maybe for females too. They are all gentlemanly and at your side whenever you needed them. And about sex when it enters the scene it dominates the whole picture and messes everything else up because before that the guy did everything just to ensure that you do not feel that that is what they are after. And we keep giving and giving to make the relationship work while all along we are damaging our self esteem.
2006-07-19 02:30:07 · answer #1 · answered by Ycul72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a couple of things. One possibility is that it was a front he used to help attract you and now that he "has" you, he doesn't feel he needs it anymore. Another possibility is that at first you saw it more than it was really there. (Doesn't sound like it from what you've said, though.) It could also be that after 5 months, he's trying to figure out how serious he is about the two of you as a couple and this is how that mental process is manifesting itself.
The truth is that there are things we all do when "courting" a new love. Some of it is to make ourselves more attractive, some of it is just the giddiness of new love. And many of these things fade, sometimes for no real reason.
2006-07-19 09:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 months and sexually active, there is your answer, you didn't give him anything else to look foward to, come on 5 months. That is where the real romance starts, and it also depends on how often you have sex, if you do so like twice or thrice a week you should have cut it to once twice, may be three times a month. You have basically cut the chase a little short, start making him work for his lovin, deny him what he wants in bed sometimes, make him wait and see how that works.
2006-07-19 09:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by Paktown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i tnink in the beginning people show their best side.. they will do anything to get what they want even be someone their not..once the prize is one the thrill is gone. people take love and relationships for granted..they figure ok its mine now i can relax and justgo with the flow, but thats not how it works.. thats the reason people look elswhere and leave their significant other.. u have to keep it fresh and fun its those little things that make the difference.. a email here and there, flowers for no reason, a card left on ur pillow or in ur car... those things that keep us .. we dont need to be everything to them just to know we are #1.
2006-07-19 09:11:53 · answer #4 · answered by wildspirit1313 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its because they are getting the sex they want and dont have to try and make you feel good anymore.Thats the great thing about dating before marraige,if it goes wrong you just move on,you will find your knight sooner or later or better yet when you least expect it he will find you!Good luck God bless:O)
2006-07-19 09:14:03 · answer #5 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ding ding you got it. Some people call it running game. The person he was is not who he really is. He did his best to win you over know he got what he wants so he doesn't have to try. If your not comfortable with his actions you should check him cause he probably is trying to hit it run
2006-07-19 09:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by ShawtyPhat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too longer a question, can't be bothered to read it as it is too hot today.
When you said falling out I assumed you were asking if anyone's ***** are so big they fall out of their shorts....well it is and it does
Please can I have the ten points now
2006-07-19 09:08:40 · answer #7 · answered by Ichi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sure seems that way to me.In fact, those words actually passed my BF's lips. We live together and that attitude needs to change!
2006-07-19 09:09:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's exactly it. That's why marriages rarely work out...they lose their spark. I suggest that you have relationships that don't last more than 1 month.
2006-07-19 09:09:07 · answer #9 · answered by betsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most ppl. do tent to stop doing those special things. Why dont you try to do something to spice up ur realtionship.
2006-07-19 09:09:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋