I am 32, married to a wonderful woman and expecting our first child. I have been offered a comission in the Army and want to take it but worry about how Military Service will affect my family. Any thoughts?
2006-07-19 01:55:32 · 20 answers · asked by aj_swanson 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I have talked to my wife extensively about it and she says go for it. I am going into the army. We both are going in a little blind as to what it takes to do this and are nervouse. thanks for all the answers.
2006-07-19 05:07:31 · update #1
no, you are not crazy. My husband joined in April. He did it bc he felt it would be best for us. If you feel it is best for your family (housing, food allowance, health insurance, travel) then you should. But, Im not gonna lie, After spending every day with my husband for the past four years and then being with out him for over 4 months has not been much fun, sometimes its pretty depressing, but I know it is much harder for him then it is for me. I pray every day that God will keep him safe when he goes to Iraq. I am scared for him and cant imagine how he must feel.
2006-07-19 07:39:50 · answer #1 · answered by lora 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, why don't you ask your wife? Some love the life and others can't stand it. I have seen divorces when it is the latter.
On the plus side she will have a huge support system from the base, access to excellent healthcare, a very decent income, and a husband she can be very proud of. On the negative side she will have to deal with raising a family alone for long periods of time and worrying about you being hurt or killed. Granted the latter is not a HUGE risk, but it is a risk, nonetheless, that any caring wife can't help worrying about. Have you tried visiting a base with her and talking to people to get a feel for the lifestyle? That might help make an informed decision. But bottom line: you have to sit down and talk to your wife.
Good luck to you. I know it isn't an easy decision.
2006-07-19 02:10:35 · answer #2 · answered by kathy_is_a_nurse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think simply the fact that you asked this question shows that you have doubts.. Make a list of pros and cons. Discuss this in depth with your wife. Discuss this with your most trusted friends outside of the military..
If all else fails - flip a coin in the air.. while it is in the air, you will know what you are really hoping for..
Personally, I wish that all the soldiers of the world were home in bed, but you must do what is right for you and your family.. but let me ask you this - do you believe that your government will not needlessly put you in harms way? Do you believe that your govt is acting for the good of the many, not just a few w/special interests? You do not say what country you are from, but I think the question remains the same..
good luck to you...
2006-07-19 02:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no! Good for you if you are thinking of doing this, but take it from me, go Air Force, it's safer and you will have more chances to go to school-if that's what you want to do. If you have a child on the way, this might be a better way to still join the military and not spend your entire military time in Iraq. If you have any questions, email me at murfymurfy420@yahoo.com.
2006-07-19 02:00:03 · answer #4 · answered by Chris M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, man, you're crazy. How can you leave your wonderful (your own words) wife and child? There are other options for you to choose from, aside from the Army. For sure, Iraq's going to be your destination. Do not just think twice. Think a million times before you decide. Good luck.
2006-07-19 02:02:08 · answer #5 · answered by Cham G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not crazy at all . If you arein the army you will have security for them You will give them housing, free health insurance , good schools and all kind of other good stuff. Depending on your MOS you might be going to Iraq or you will be home every night. My husband is a late joiner himself. He joined with 26, nows in 10years and will be pinned E7 the next few month
Good luck
2006-07-19 02:03:46 · answer #6 · answered by gonecrazy_fl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will't inform you approaches to stay your existence, yet getting popular contained in the marriage formerly complicating issues with somewhat one appears like a sturdy theory. i comprehend he's not via installation quickly, yet i'd genuinely wait until eventually after both of you've been by a deployment formerly you even imagine about having somewhat one. countless the suggestion i'd grant you with relies upon on your husband's plans at the same time as contained in the military. As you're speaking about reenlistment, i assume that he's enlisted, and not in any respect an officer or warrant officer. At 19 and married, i assume that you've likely graduated from severe college, yet have little or no college. Is he making plans on going occupation military? Are you making plans on going to varsity? You *can* have somewhat one excellent this second, besides the undeniable fact that the deck is quite a lot stacked hostile to you. i'd get settled into the marriage, get a minimum of an affiliate's degree, and climate a deployment formerly you initiate making significant existence alterations like having little ones. now to not sound lecture-y, yet having little ones is a huge selection which will truly carry something of your existence to a grinding halt. you want to experience free with the position you're in existence formerly anchoring your self down with somewhat one--and also you want to be prepared for contingencies. Can your marriage live to inform the tale a deployment? are you able to develop a baby in the journey that your husband receives discharged or isn't allowed to reenlist? Can one among you develop the youngster if something might want to ensue to the different make certain? do not get all cocksure which include your marriage. absolutely everyone contained in the military thinks that their relationship is particular, and that statistics do not prepare to them. human beings also prefer to get complacent in military careers because they imagine it is a definite paycheck. both one among those notions are useless incorrect. You and your husband prefer to sit down and make some severe lengthy-time period plans. somewhat one might want to be on the accurate of those plans, no longer the starting up.
2016-11-06 20:01:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't miss the most important time of your life as you witness first hand the miracle of birth and having your very own flesh and blood look up into your eyes and smiles for the very first time! You cannot relive it ever again with this child!
Plus joining the army just means you'll be risking your life for some rich asswipe who wants to get away with murder for their own economical gains.
2006-07-19 02:08:12 · answer #8 · answered by canguroargentino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of factors. Your position will dictate most of it.
Deployment is a real likelyhood.
The benefits are great. I just got out after many years, to join the reserves to retire. I just was tired of traveling around and wanted to settle. You will never have to worrry about your family being taken care of. Their lifestyle will be nice.
The main factor in the military is separation.
GL to you and your family.
2006-07-19 02:02:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have to be sure you're willing to miss all the first moments of your child if you are sent overseas. And will your wife be ok with being a parent all by herself while you're away? It could be hard on her. I'd say you should talk to her about it.
2006-07-19 02:03:57 · answer #10 · answered by Christina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋