I have a friend who is so sweet and caring to me. He likes to be around me and show me how I really need to be treated. I like him alot because of who he is, my problem is that when I am alone with him I get nervous and scared, and start to think of bad things that can happen, my best friend tells me not to worry it's just that I am not used to someone who is so respectful to me. So what I would like to know how can a woman who was so scorned by infidelity and abuse actually make it with someone who is so good to her.
2006-07-19 01:53:50 · 7 answers · asked by mscaramel318 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Seek therapy.
You're going to have to get over this some day or you'll be alone forever. Do you want live your life OR do you want to be afraid of everything and wind up doing nothing?
You have all the power. If you want to change you can. Where there's a will there's a way. If you're happy being alone and scared, then do nothing. If you want to make a change, just make an effort to stop worrying and let go....open your heart and give this guy a chance.
Part of life is being loved, loving, being hurt, and loving again. That's just the way it goes. As they say; What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
So, stop playing the victim and move on. You deserve to be happy. Don't let the last asshole be the one that 'broke' you. Be strong woman!
This is too large of a problem to be dealt with on Yahoo Answers, you're going to need a support group (ie friends/family) and therapy.
PS. If you play the role of a victim, people WILL victimize you. You'll need to find yourself and grow a backbone. Get some selfesteem and don't let people abuse you.
2006-07-19 01:56:13 · answer #1 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to relax and realize that ALL MEN ARE NOT THE SAME. I full heartedly believe there are good men out there and I NEVER take bullsh*t from a past relationship interfere with a current relationship. I know its easy to say and probably hard to do but you have to take people for who and what they seem to be UNTIL they give you reason to think/feel otherwise. If not, your the one that could be missing out on something good!
2006-07-19 09:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go wit it if hes such a good friend to u then he wont do anything to u wen yall are dating so go for it try it i kno it can be hard to get over abuseive relationships but if he treats u this way while yall are friends hes gonna treat you the same way wen yall date just go for it dont be afraid cuz not all guys abuse woman so you should be fine and just dont worry about it just go wit the flow i wish u good luck
2006-07-19 08:58:48 · answer #3 · answered by jenna s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gril just think this way
u r very lucky
may be its hard for u to belive but u r
he cares and that good
lot of women will kill for a guy like that
may be all the hard time u did paid off
and now u have him
i hope for the best for u
cheers
2006-07-19 09:09:47 · answer #4 · answered by ghost13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't force yourself to do anything you are not ready for tell the guy what is holding you back and if he is such a great guy then he will be understanding and help you through it
2006-07-19 08:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by javajunkie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont blame every man for your last one...
2006-07-19 08:58:34 · answer #6 · answered by velvet b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time. you'll learn to trust him.
2006-07-19 08:56:51 · answer #7 · answered by boo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋