Im engaged, supposed to get married in May. Thinking about going to City Hall on Monday and getting married.?

Question

Still going to have ceremony for family and friends in May. What do you think? Should we wait or just go for it?

Been thinking all morning. Decided to wait till May. Dont think I'll be happy going to City Hall. I want to be a princess that day. So Im going to wait. Thank you to everyone for your advice and well wishes.

Answer 1

It depends on why. If you're still going to have the ceremony...why get married now? I understand that you're eager to get married, that's a great thing - but if you do it, you should understand that your ceremony in May is just not going to mean the same thing. If you're looking to share this day with your friends and family...I'd say wait. Those vows are really important and I wouldn't have wanted to take them in a random room with a random judge or whatnot.

Also you'll have to take into account that your friends and especially your family might be really hurt that you chose to do it that way. I know that makes it seem like they're selfish but it's hard especially for parents to let go of their children and they need time to deal with it and get to a point where they are just happy for them.

But if you have a reason that I haven't thought of and you really think it would better your life between now and then...you should go ahead and do it - nothing wrong with that!

Answer 2

I guess it depends on the reasons for wanting to go to City Hall and tie the knot. If there's some pressing reason to be legally married right now, then it's understandable. I've known people who have had to do this, and most of them felt like the second ceremony (the big, pretty, public one) was almost a joke.

For me, getting married is that one defining moment where we stop being two individuals and become a unit, recognized by family, friends, congregation (if religious) and the law. Having two ceremonies, even if one is simply the nuts and bolts of things for legality sake, takes away from that moment. It would be like having two graduation ceremonies from high school.

Bottom line is that whatever you choose is fine, but you and your fiancé should be clear and in agreement as to why you are doing it the way you choose. (Personally, I would wait for May.)

Answer 3

Depends on how you and your family feel about the religious aspect of it - if you have no desire for there to be a church involved - then make sure if you do - you invite your parents to the city hall wedding - you would not want to rob them of the joy that seeing you get married will bring to them

Answer 4

I would say go to City Hall and not have a ceremony at all.
My friend did what you suggested and it all seemed kind of "fake". It was a waste of money and we clowned her a lot in the process.

Answer 5

DO IT! I wish I had eloped!!! You'll have so much less pressure. I know it's easy for me to say, though I really don't know if I had the chance to do it all over again, that I would have.

Answer 6

do what makes you happy...if you go ahead and marry now then just have the reception in May

Answer 7

You should wait. it really isn't that far away. Why not wait?? Why get married now? What's your rush?

Answer 8

it's about you and him. if you don't care about a church wedding do city hall and just have the reception .congrats. and good luck.

Answer 9

It's up to you and your mate,if it's what you both want,why wait!And congrats to you both!

Answer 10

if that's what you want then go for it