my Grandmother owns like 4 houses that has been converted into apartments, and she is letting me stay in one rent free. however, she has many rules and regulations about what can be done and what can't be done in the apartment. ie no sitting on bed spread, no eating outside the kitchen, keeping doors closed at all times, taking of your shoes when u come in, and no sleeping in your clothes. isn't that alot? how can i tell her i'm not interested?
2006-07-19 01:40:45 · 16 answers · asked by jh_smith_jr 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she has her key and can enter at any time . i do pay some rent, but it isnt much, but i also have to pay for gas and electric. any attempts to but diffrent locks on the door would result in her having a heart attack and calling the police out to break down the door. which means she has unlimited access.
2006-07-19 02:04:12 · update #1
Go to her and tell her that you're on your own so that you can make mistakes and learn about being an adult. You think that the only way you can do that is if you get an apartment of your own where you have to pay rent, and be responsible for yourself. Tell her that you love her, and that you are thankful to have a Grandmother that will allow you to live in her house rent free, but you need to be on your own.. and that means your own place, your own rules and your own mistakes.
2006-07-19 01:50:17 · answer #1 · answered by Imani 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u dont like the rules u need 2 move out. b straight w/ her. Look 4 a new apartment and have everything planned out when u talk 2 her. Then tell her about how u want 2 thank her for taking care of u but ur a man & she cant shelter u forever. Tell her u need 2 learn how 2 care 4 urself. Make sure she understands and tell her when ur leaving. Show her ur plans so she knows u r cerious.
2006-07-19 01:47:08 · answer #2 · answered by brooklynkimep 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with Isadora's answer. You are an adult. I mean my goodness not sitting on the bed spread! That is a bit much to ask. Maybe a compromise can be made. For instance, You can eat in front of the TV if you use a TV tray. You will take your street shoes off if you can wear a pair of flip flops - stuff like that.
2006-07-19 01:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by scalegoddess2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will she actually be there when you break these rules? Can she just unlock the door and come right in? If so, you need to put a latch on the inside, so you can let her in when you're there. When you're away just keep it tidy. Rent free? I'd have to bend a little.
2006-07-19 01:46:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that`s great! that you dont have to pay rent. I wish that i was the grand daughter of you grand mom. Thats nice look this way, Just following the rules she pays you. You save lot of money by living over there for free honey.Whats harm in those rules .just think properly. you know what i have those rules for me too, but nobody tolds me to follow. But when you cant then just show infront of your G.mom that you are following her rules, those few mins when she visits or checks you. I think she is not around u for 24 hrs.
2006-07-19 02:09:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those sound like rules you would be likely to follow had they not been mentioned to you anyway .As long as you take care of the place they would not be noticeable to granny anyways unless perhaps you get unannounced visits often. On the other hand , you may be called upon regularly for unexpected chores and the like especially if in one of the buildings she may occupy. So if you have decided against it give her a polite thank you and just tell her you would like to take care of things on your own as you wish to gain experience at being independent , a quality granny should admire.
2006-07-19 01:55:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your grandmother clearly appreciates strong rules. Following them may be a small price to pay compared to paying for and maintaining your own place.
If you are dead set on leaving, be gracious. Thank your grandmother for her generosity allowing you to live in one of her apartments rent free and explain to her that it is time for you to be responsible for yourself and move on.
Make sure to clean up well when you leave and don't leave junk behind - that would be rude. Your grandmother may be strict, but she obviously cares about you and wants you to grow up to be a proper adult with good habits.
2006-07-19 01:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by LovingMother 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way she will know is if you move. Count your blessings. You don't have to pay rent and that is so wonderful. You can deal with it if you put your mind to it. It will also make you a better person and you will have more money to do other stuff.
2006-07-19 01:43:32 · answer #8 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it does sound like alot and odd too.
Give her a big kiss on the check and Say "I love you Grandma and I appreciate the apt that you've provided for me........can we talk?"
and then tell her that you are a man now and the rules make you feel like a child who needs supervision...and you will keep the place clean but the rules make you feel like your apt is not a home but someone else's place.
~~Good Luck..........
2006-07-19 01:49:34 · answer #9 · answered by Moma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.. that is more than enough.., that just isnt right.. lol your grandmother is trying to control you without making it obvious. Tell her. you dont think its right that you arent paying rent. and you wont except it and Thank you grandma.. for her help and tell her your not interested.. and look for somewhere else.., That isnt doing that. theres always low-income apartments. let your grandma down easy tell her you appreciate trying to help but you decided not to do it. She should understand.
2006-07-19 01:45:45 · answer #10 · answered by sweet_poetic_fire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋