2006-07-19 01:26:40 · 21 answers · asked by lholhoza 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, no...
2006-07-19 01:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK is isn't normal for him to still sleep with him after you came into the picture but I'm sure you can ease the boy into his own bed. My 9 year old slept with me until I got a new boyfriend. Now people this is not sick my son and I slept together because that is when HE felt the safest. Imagine a little guy losing one parent don't you think he is going to want to be close to the one he has???? Of course he would. What I had to do was make it fun for him to sleep somewhere else. If he doesn't already get him a cool bed set, I don't mean a bed I mean sheets and pillow cases and blankets. Don't force him into anything because then he will resent you. Talk to him about it. Kids are smart, tell him that he is a big boy and they get their own beds, tell him about decorating his bed and he may be all for it. Don't listen when people tell you it's not right they have obviously never had a child who wanted to sleep with them. I can't tell my boy no now. He has been in his own bed for 2 years now and he loves it. Just give him time to adapt and if he still needs to come sneak in bed once in awhile LET HIM. He needs to know that his Dad isn't picking you over him which is what this could feel like to a little boy so make sure you make this fun. Make a day of going and getting his bedding. I wish you the best and good luck. Enjoy your new family......
2006-07-19 01:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by Kookie M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No at 9yrs old that boy needs a bedroom of his own. If that doesnt change i wouldnt be staying the night there anymore unless the boy has at least his own bed. Theres gotta be something wrong with that.
2006-07-19 01:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by Marcia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy you are in love with his your boyfriend? you live with him, now?
he has a 9yr son? and both of you and his son in same room and bed?
and you want to know if this is normal?
did you share your bed with your mom and dad at 9yr old?
why would you want to? what time would you have alone with him? with son in same room?
2006-07-19 01:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by cats3inhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It's a burden on your physical relationship and a 9 year old should be sleeping in his own room.
2006-07-19 01:29:37 · answer #5 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think sharing of same bed is usual even in married couples.But full precausions must be taken
2006-07-19 01:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by vivek s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that those not tell me anything to answer this question properly if it is that this is the only bed in the house then I'll say no it is not normal but if it is because he is afraid to sleep by him self then I guess it is okay depending please give us some more details
2006-07-19 01:36:48 · answer #7 · answered by playful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very normal.. later in life. youll be playing his mother-role.
Getting close to him now is good. and veried in growth. youll find that the child wont be close to you.. if you arent close to his daddy and he has to see that. if your boyfriend is confortable with it.. then.. he would like for you all to sleep together. but alot of times. it depends also on How many rooms are in the house. his dad just wants him to feel Confortable. i think its normal. i mean is just sleeping. You love him.. and you love his son. it all depends how confortable you feel.
2006-07-19 01:32:03 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_poetic_fire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. He needs to start allowing his child to develop a sense of independence and self-reliance. What he's doing is incredibly unhealthy for both of them.
2006-07-19 01:30:10 · answer #9 · answered by mark r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how on earth could you accept that? if he can't find a solution of the situation, dump him and find someone who will love to take you into his arm without any reservation because his son is in the middle!
2006-07-19 04:07:58 · answer #10 · answered by Corad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went thru the same situation, its o.k for awhile, but remember kids are sharp, they pick things up fast. dont let this child see, or hear anything that might make him feel uneasy, or scared.keep things "safe" and remember theres a right time and place for everything!!
2006-07-19 01:31:21 · answer #11 · answered by olivia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋