im engaged to a guy that i really love and he loves me but he tries to flirt with other people in front of me. i want him to stop but he said he isnt doing anything to stop so i want him to break up with me but he said no so how can i get him to and not feel guilty?
2006-07-19 01:02:55 · 34 answers · asked by deamon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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Okay. Do you love him? Completely love him? Soul mates territory? If you do, then why would you want him to break up with you? The only reason I can think of is that you want him to stop flirting and that will be the only way.
If you just don't like the dude, then quit waiting for him to leave and just go! The more I type the more confused I get, actually. Because if you don't like him, then why wouldn't you just dump him yourself? And if you DO love him, then why break up with him??
I myself am a huge flirter. I am with a guy that I know I'm going to marry, but I still flirt. It's just in my natural behavior to act like that. It's meaningless, natural, and I don't even realize I'm doing it. My boyfriend told me a few times how much he hates it so I stopped doing it around him and tried toning it down when he's not around, too.
You need to tell him how much you hate it, and how much it hurts you. It's natural for him to initially just get angry at your 'accusations,' but if you really show him how much he hurts you, he will change, if he really loves you.
2006-07-19 01:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by Brackalicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a bf for 3 years.. He claimed he loved me and that hed never let me go. Then all of a sudden he just broke up with me.. OUT OF THE BLUE!! And I was devastated for a long time. So yeah 1 boy did break my heart. Now I'm going out with a guy who again claims he loves me. He hasnt done anything to upset me or to make me mad and we have been going out for 5 months. As my best friend says... "Many guys will like u a lot and break ur heart but the ones who LOVE you will never ever hurt u." Also, learn to trust your bf. If you cant trust him there is no reason for you to be going out with him. A non trustworthy relationship will only end in tears, Sista!
2016-03-16 01:50:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation I would definitely say you should suck it up and dump him sis. If it bothers you then there is something wrong. Do you see other guys acting that way? I also feel that you might want to look into ways to boost your self-esteem.
The way your question is phrased I get the impression that you feel powerless in this situation. You are not. It is your life and you should make yourself your first priority. I am not saying you should be self-centered but rather self-protective.
Guys look. Girls look. They will always look, and it is natural for people to flirt a bit~ but~ it is completely disrespectful to do it in front of your significant other. It is a very hurtful thing to do, but you know that because I bet it feels like a small part of your heart is dying when he does it. Then you wonder what is wrong with you or what could be better about you so that he won't do it anymore. Right?
Remember this: IT IS NOT YOU. He is a creep. Guys like that look for girls who have a lower self-esteem. That is because they know they can get away with acting as they please and the girl will treat them like a king for it because she is frantically trying to make him like or love her more. Frankly, guys who do that also tend to cheat as well.
It will be very hard for you at first to break the ties with him and it may feel like your heart is broken but you will get through it. You will even be stronger for it. Go to the support of your family, friends, pastor whatever~ just get your self out of this situation before it gets worse and start realizing your true value.
There is no reason to feel guilty. If anything you should feel sorry for the poor girl that will get him next.
2006-07-19 01:29:52 · answer #3 · answered by oushiyasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are twisted in love girlie. You have too much pain and heartbreak to think straight. Why would you want HIM to break up? You think you are too weak to walk away. Either way you are setting yourself up for more heart pain. You need to communicate him and possibly sit with a counsellor. What gives? You are wanting to break up with your flirt. You are headed for self destruction. You need pure undadulterated love sweet thing. Have courage and do what you want. You want to blame him and be victimized. Take control and power girl! Take control of your life! Somebody needs a smack and maybe its you, maybe its your man when he flirts...take a break, get to discover yourself better and make a move. Marry him, then what? He might not be the right one for you. Be carefull Mamma.
2006-07-19 01:08:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very simple. The next time he starts to flirt, you leave without saying a word. He should respect you and the love you have for him. When he asks why did you leave, what's going on, simply say, I will not be a part of your flirtation anymore. Hold your ground and do not give in.
2006-07-19 01:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by teelow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love each other, then why in the hell would you break up? Just accept this from him and move on. Besides he's just testing you to see if you are gettin jealous. Clearly you are failing the test. Relax and stop pms'ing
2006-07-19 01:06:23 · answer #6 · answered by Lite Boi Fresh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont really understand why u said that ur guy loves u but he still tries to flirt around in front of u!? i think he dont really cares abt u at all.. he just wants to show off himself in front of others..
i would suggest that u break of with him & find someone really truly love u before u get into deeper..
Dont be soft hearted to him as u will regret next time!
2006-07-19 01:21:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety, this is somthing which can be resolved if u speak with him...I don't think u should break up with him for this small reason...Y do u girls always speak about breaking up..r u kind of a girl who just want to hit and split...Its possible for u to change him if u really have true love and affection towards him...Plz don't break up ..wat if u don't find anybody who loves u truly in future...Its for u to decide now...all the best...sweety..don't break up...it will be very difficult for the guy to digest somthing like that if he loves u truly...
2006-07-19 01:08:57 · answer #8 · answered by bryan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the mature thing would to be to tell him that you have warned him about his actions in the past and he ignored your concern so he left you no other option but to break with him. but you need to ask yourself this question.....why do you really want to break up.....because of an action or because you think it would be a mistake to make a lifetime commitment to him.
2006-07-19 01:06:48 · answer #9 · answered by answering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Carleen. You didn't do anything wrong, he is the dog. Break up with him and move on. You are too good to be treated that way.
2006-07-19 01:06:15 · answer #10 · answered by jagerchick80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋