me and my boyfriend broke up 2 weeks ago after a year of going out. anyways the reason why we broke up was cos he was always over powering me, always choosing my friends, choosing what should i wear, how i shouldnt talk to the opposite sex etc etc. and so stupid i was i actually chose him over my friends and now that we are broken up i have no friends to hang out with. i'm so bored and depressed. i seriously dont know what to do.
2006-07-19 00:38:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
contact ya friends tell them you realised you made an error in judgment about choosing him over them. Or get out and make new friends. get active , join a gym exercise it will help you from being bored, you will make new friends and have stuff to do. do things to increase your self esteem so that kind of thing doesn't happen again and forgive yourself and promise yourself you will not let other people take away your power and manipulate you like you allowed the last boyfriend to do. It's about self worth and value, do a course in self esteem it will help you in the future. good luck with what ever you choose to do
2006-07-19 00:49:15 · answer #1 · answered by clarissa l 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First things first, don't be depressed over losing that loser bum. If he was that way, then he was no man and he was not worthy of you. Believe that and take that to heart. Also, if your former friend were true friends, then go back to them and fire up conversation with them... they'll understand. True friends, like family, will always understand you and why you did those things.
Also, this is a good life lesson for you. Don't be stupid and follow and have your life guided by one person. To enrich your life, you need the relationship and interaction of family and friends, not just your significant other.
Good luck and worse comes to worse, make new friends at wherever you are.
2006-07-19 07:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same spot.. but we where together 1yr and 6months and we broke up a couple days ago.... just keep busy, go out with friends and show the world who u r and dont let another guy do this to you, its hitting me now and stuff but hey its life. just move on the best you can and NEVER think of urself as low! you did what you had to do. get a new guy and enjoy life!!
2006-07-19 07:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go talk to those friends. I'm sure if you talk to them, they'll 'take you back'. Do not go back to the boyfriend! If those friends decide that they still don't want to be your friends, go find some new ones. Go to a quiet place where people hang out and find someone to strike up a conversation with. :]
2006-07-19 07:41:45 · answer #4 · answered by a_digitaldreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing for you to do is stop feeling sorry for yourself and get back out there meet some people and try not to letpast experiences put you off.you will find that people are willing to accept you for who you are not what you were.People can easily forgive and forget but what you have been through is going to be with you forever.It will always be a reminder that there are some people out there who will always think they are better than anyone else.
2006-07-19 07:44:51 · answer #5 · answered by flying_eagle_72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were only going out with him for a year...your friends are still there, all you have to do is pick up a phone and apologize for allowing your ex to control you. Your friends will understand and forgive you...that's why they are your friends. Hopefully you have learned from this and not allow any man to control you again.
2006-07-19 08:48:00 · answer #6 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You turned your back on friends...thats a hard pill to swallow, because in their minds you could do it again. If you really want to get back with your friends, you shoud contact them and apologize. Its worth a shot. Don't expect it to work in your favor though. Hip! hip! for getting rid of the control freak.
2006-07-19 07:43:20 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join something.. a gym, a class, a volunteer organization. Go read to blind people or elderly people at a senior citizen's home. Find a hobby.
2006-07-19 07:40:52 · answer #8 · answered by sahel578 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry honey! go out and try to do some good work. People will automatically come to you.
If you can't do anything else then go some charitable society n do some social work, then whole world is yours. (including ur BF)
2006-07-19 07:42:18 · answer #9 · answered by sainisuman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friends the whole story and how wrong you were for choosing your ex over them. If they are good people, they will forgive you.
2006-07-19 07:41:39 · answer #10 · answered by Liadan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋