2006-07-19 00:33:48 · 57 answers · asked by emma c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think the fact that you're even asking this question tells you the answer. When you feel ready to have sex, you won't need to ask whether it's the right thing to do. You are not ready at the moment. Your boyfriend should respect this and should not pressure you into doing anything you don't want to do. If he tries to apply pressure, he's not a nice guy and you should think seriously about the future of the relationship.
2006-07-19 00:40:07 · answer #1 · answered by Lou 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you aren't ready to have sex yet. If he loves you then he will respect your decision.
Don't let him push you into anything that you don't want to do. It's your body, it's your virgintiy and it's your choice. Don't let anyone take that away from you. Remember that you have the right to make this choice. If you give your virginity away without really wanting to it loses its meaning and value for you. The first time should be with someone you have a real commitment to and great love for and it should be completely consensual.
If your boyfriend says he will dump you if you don't or tells you that you're frigid he has revealed his true colours. You don't want to be with someone who is unwilling to compromise and only cares about himself and not you. You will know you have made the right choice and you should leave him. If he agrees that you should both wait, then wait until you're ready, he may or may not leave but at least you know you have done the right thing for yourself.
2006-07-19 00:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until marriage. Right now it may not seem like such a big deal, when you get married it will. To be able to give yourself to your husband and say I am yours only and always is a wonderful thing. It creates a trust between you that pre-marital sex destroys even before marriage, as extra-marital sex destroys after marriage.
If he really loves you, he is thinking about a future life together--married life together. Otherwise what he is thinking about is mixed up with his physical urges. And no matter what a fellow
says, he often loses respect for a girl who gives in. It could destroy the relationship you have now.
2006-07-19 00:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say no. It's your body. Tell him to go pleasure himself. You're not ready, and that's a decision he should respect. If he doesn't respect your decision, he doesn't respect you, and therefore has nothing to offer you. You shouldn't be with someone who can't love you for who you are.
Talk to him and tell him what you are comfortable doing,a nd what you are not comfortable doing. If you are only comfortable kissing, tell him as much, and tell him that if he doesn't pressure you and ontinues to be loving and affectionate, you will eventually be ready, but at your own pace. It's not something you want to regret, and he shouldn't want you to have any regrets either. If he loves you he will understand, and if he doesn't, you shouldn't be having sex anyway.
Never let anyone pressure you, it's something you have to live with, so make sure you always make the right decisions here.
Be true to yourself.
2006-07-19 01:29:54 · answer #4 · answered by old_but_still_a_child 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that, and most importantly, explain why. Anyone who respects you won't try to pressure you into doing what you don't want to. On the other hand, he may decide that he can't be in a long-term relationship with you if there's not going to be any sex. That can be hard (I know), but you have to make your decision. And if he decides that he does want to stay with you, it may bring you closer together in ways that sex wouldn't.
2006-07-19 00:39:48 · answer #5 · answered by Caritas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowledge and good intentions. Together they ensure continued success. A
fine intellect wedded to a wicked will is always an unnatural monster. A wicked
will poisons all perfections; helped by knowledge it only ruins with greater
subtlety. It is a miserable superiority that only results in ruin. Knowledge
without sense is doubly folly.
2006-07-19 01:49:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever have sex unless you really want to. If that means the boyfriend leaves, then you have not lost much. If he stays with you, and respects your wishes, you've got a winner.
2006-07-19 00:39:00 · answer #7 · answered by Delora Gloria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you make it clear to him that you don't want to have sex and he still pressures you, then he isn't respecting you. A healthy relationship is built on respect and trust and if he isn't respecting your wishes, then he is not a good boyfriend. I would dump him if he doesn't shape up, no matter how much you love him. This is how abusive relationships start.
2006-07-19 00:37:58 · answer #8 · answered by Naomi P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not cave in to peer-presure!!!!
If your boyfriend honestly loves you then he'll understand you're not ready and wait and not pressure you in the mean time.
If he does continue to pressure than, maybe, you might want to consider if you're with the right guy.
Whatever you decide, think it over carefully before you take any action. Make sure your decision is right for you :-)
2006-07-19 00:43:57 · answer #9 · answered by fojo81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your NOT ready, then you already know the answer. Tell him NO, end of story. I know this is easy for me to say, BUT if he truly loves you, then it should not be a problem. And if he doesn't accept this then he doesn't love you and in this case you shouldn't be having sex with him in the first place. PLEASE, PLEASE don't rush into these things. You sound smart enough to understand what I'm saying just make sure your ready. Good Luck.
2006-07-19 00:39:04 · answer #10 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋