I am with a married man. He said he will not get a divorce, but he will not leave me.?

Answer 1

Don't care if he is married or what.If you really love him,stick to him don't leave him.he already said he will not leave you,what's there to worry about.

Answer 2

You know at least he is being honest and telling you he is not getting divorced, now you have to decide to be honest with yourself and state what you really want. It is always trouble to get involved with someone already married, cause:

1. Either they wont get divorced (even though they sometimes say they will) and you are stuck 45 with no one.
2. They may get divorced, but then you will always wonder if they are not doing the same things to you.
3. Their wife finds out, take them for everything they have and you are stuck with a broke man.

As my grandfather use to say it is time to S**t or get off the pot. Decide what you want and make it happen for you. If you want to get married this is not the guy for you.

Answer 3

The statistics I've seen from American studies show that in the USA only about 5% of cheating couples, like in your case, ever end up married. So you need to ask yourself, is this what I really want, an excuse to never be married. This is a perfect excuse for women who do not want to move on to adult life: marriage and children hopefully.

"But I LOOOOVE him!" In the USA if you are not married FOR THE FIRST time before age 30, statistically you have a better chance at being hit by lightening, than at ever getting married.

He does not LOOOOVE you and never really will as long as he is with his wife.

Another thing to think about: "Do unto others as you will have them do unto you". I could never on purpose hurt another person like you are hurting this wife. No matter what this dude says, she is hurt on some level. Bad karma.

Answer 4

We have an old saying up here in South Dakota that really pertains to your situation.

Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free?

He's not gonna get divorced, because his marriage is his safety net & an excuse.

If you told him you were done with him, it wouldn't make any difference, he'll just go find someone else to play his game with.

If you're in this relationship for the sex, that's one thing, but don't count on him leaving his wife for you.

Answer 5

It is a worse crime to know and still commit. Perhaps those who commit crime do have second thought!
You are so guilty by your self examination. However, a way to make it right is to embrace Islam. In Islam, you are free to marry him and be his legal wife without any qualm. You are so scared of manly law and you are going to sacrifice your loveline for that. How funny are we human, that when God allows, we give in to man who disallow. If you want to go it Godly, embrace Islam and marry him for good. If you want to remain in this self crucifiction, then sacrifice him for the law of the land.
Though if we have to give you a verdict on the moment, you are simply flirting with this man. Better to walk straight and in the light than in the dark.
Think this and Islam awaits your conversion.

Answer 6

UR Mad!
Go find a Man that's free 2 love U not 1 already spoken 4!
U deserve better than some other womans cast-offs.

Answer 7

Have you heard the expression "to have your cake and eat it too"

That's exactly what you're letting that man do to you. He's selfish and whatever self-respect you still have for yourself, you need to take it and run. You're allowing him to have a family and a mistress, with utter disregard for everyone, but himself. You say that he won't leave you, it's not his choice, it's yours. I think you need to ask yourself, why you got involved with a married man to begin with. Take back control of your life and start having one. There are a lot of available men out there, that aren't married. We all make mistakes, next time be wiser. You deserve a fulfilling relationship. Don't settle for someone that's already taken, it's unfair and never works out.

Answer 8

.....What'd I tell you guys? What woman goes out and actually INITIATES or chooses a man to approach and attempt to meet/date ? NONE of em do. Which is why you see this type of $hit so often. Men everywhere need to realize -again- how much control they have in choosing which woman they want, when they want. 'SHE IS NOT GONNA GO OUT AND ASK SOMEONE'. Men have all the say as to what relationships are formed --- tell me if i'm wrong! And yes, I commend this man for playing you like the game should be played

Answer 9

This was your choice to be with a married man.. You will be alone alot and not be able to do things when you want to with this man because inevitablely he will have something to do with his family when you want to do something..
You are better off moving on because nothing good can come out of this. unless maybe he is paying your rent and buying you all kinds of good things and you like to be home alone alot..
There is someone out there that you can enjoy being with that is single.. When i was single i like married men because they wouldn't follow me home.. Made life very easy. One thing about him you won't have to worry about getting anything unless he is fooling around with others too..
This is a very selfish man you are with.. If he is cheating on his wife what do you think he is going to do to you when he gets tired of you too..? I wouldn't want someone that when leaving me is going home to someone elses bed.. don't make you feel really to good does it.. think about it and do what you think is best. It is your happiness that is important at this point and time.
been there done this..

Answer 10

So that doesn't mean that you cannot file for divorce, and a restraining order if necessary. Just because he doesn't want to do something doesn't mean that you have no rights in this matter. Check with a lawyer, there are many things you can do.

Answer 11

Why would he leave his wife? Why would you want a man who would cheat on his wife?

If he will cheat with you-------he will cheat on you.

You are nothing more important to that man than a rented piece of furniture; he can use you or not use you. You'll still sit in the corner like a good little chair.