Could someone please help me? I need someone who understands. Please. I'm gonna die, if I don't get help.

Question

I divorced my hubby, who emotionally mistreated me for years. I started seeing someone when we were separated.....when I finally realized it was over. After that, I found out I had lupus, lost my job, and my boyfriend.

My mom tellls me that it is Gods way of punishing me for the divorce. She thinks that now ex hubby has seen the light, the past is all erased.

I want to die. I have no one. Let me rephrase that. I have no one who cares to take care of me. But , lots who want me to take care of them

Please, God......let someone tell me something.....that will prove to be a miracle falling from the sky. I do believe in miracles.

Answer 1

Easier said than done, I agree, but we all have our own shares of miseries and sorrows in life. we all live and learn. God sent us to the world to play a to designated role in life. Think of people with lethal cancers and no one by their side. Imagine plight of people with bigger miseries and sorrows. Reconsider your own situation and problem.

For every ailment under the sun, there is a remedy or there is none. If there is one, try and find it. If there is none, don't mind it.

The two most likable words in English dictionary that I found are "things change!"

Things will go your way, if you hold on for just one more day. Take very good care and good luck.

Answer 2

Divorce is a dreadful thing, no one is a winner and everyone is a loser, emtionally and financially. The truth is that we are all going to die - sometime! So yes you are going to die, as we all are.
God does not punish you for divorce, you are probably feeling very low right now as does everyone after a divorce. Looks like you rushed into a relationship with someone else far too soon.
Give your self time to be on oyur own and find out WHO YOU ARE again. When you are married you are someones wife, then someones Mum, but now you can learn to be you again.
it is hard to start again, but try going to some classes where you can do something that you enjoy doing, this will give you confidence and a pride in your self again.
seems like you are also calling out to God, do you have a Bible? You can borrow one from the local library, read it and learn what wonderful plans God has for your life.
Perhaps you can learn to forgive your ex? Perhaps there is no way you will ever be able to live together again and it really is over. Only you know that.
There is a God of miricles, and you will find Him when you search for Him with your whole heart. Jesus loves you enough to die for you, seek Him out and find Him and you will have found a most wonderful treasure. If you come to Jesus and repent of your sins, He has promised that He will NOT condemn you.
Romans 8:1 You are still hurting very much, bet the pain will get better, it will ease. It will ease much quicker if you have Jesus in your life though.

Answer 3

God never never gives you something you can't handle. It may seem that all is hopeless but instead it is when you hit "rock bottom" that you basically start over again. Do you really want to die? I think not because if that were the case you would not have asked for help. Look into yourself and give yourself permission to forgive yourself for making the mistakes you seem to be punishing yourself over and over for. It's an illness not a death sentence. Learn to fight it and at the same time appreciate life more. Do the things that make you happy and associate yourself with people who will lift you instead of bring you down. Also tell your mom that she is wrong for condemning you for the divorce, tell her you deserve better. It will get better one day at a time. Good luck and god bless you.

Answer 4

First this is not your fault. It is not god punishing you for the divorce. your mom is just overly religious.
from what i have just read you may have had this disease for decades before it was finaly diagnosed. read this the wikipedia description i found on the subject lupus. i don't know if this is the primary form that you are suffering with, but as you will read it can often be elusive to diagnose.

"Systemic lupus erythematosus (SLE or lupus) is a chronic, potentially debilitating or fatal autoimmune disease in which the immune system attacks the body’s cells and tissue, resulting in inflammation and tissue damage. SLE can affect any part of the body, but often harms the heart, joints (rheumatological), skin, lungs, blood vessels and brain/nervous system. Lupus is treatable, mainly with immunosuppression, though there is currently no cure for it.

The standard treatment has been a limited group of drugs (primarily corticosteroids and chemotherapy drugs). In 2005, the immunosuppressant CellCept (oral mycophenolate mofetil) became accepted [1] for lupus kidney disease, replacing IV cyclophosphamide.

Research into more modern treatments has recently begun and is accelerated by genetic discoveries, especially mapping of the human genome. SLE is known as "the great imitator", as its symptoms often mimic other illnesses and because they come and go unpredictably. Diagnosis can be elusive, with patients sometimes suffering unexplained symptoms and untreated SLE for years. Increased awareness and education about lupus since the 1960s has helped many more patients get an accurate diagnosis and made it possible to estimate the number of people with lupus. Lupus was previously believed to be a rare disease. In the United States alone, an estimated 270,000 to 1.5 million people have lupus, making it more common than cystic fibrosis or cerebral palsy. The disease primarily affects young women, although men can be diagnosed with lupus. World-wide, a conservative estimate states that over 5 million people have lupus.

SLE was called lupus (Latin for "wolf"), perhaps due to a crude similarity between the facial rash that some lupus patients develop, and a wolf's face, although various explanations have been proposed.
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why would you want to die? with the right imuno suppresent drugs you should be able to live a virtualy normal life.

any guy who loves you would love you for you and would be with you no matter what, even with this autoimmune disease.

I know what it's like to be alone and it's not nice. but it's not worth wanting to die over.
forget your ex if he let you go without a fight then he was not truely in love. if he was ever abusive towards you then stay away from him as once an abuser always an abuser in most cases.
girl. if i was in a fit state to take better care of my self i'd offer to help you out emotionally. but sadly i'm in a bind medically myself. we could always join forces i may be able to do things you can't and you my be able to do thing i can't. lets make a team and work together?

seriously though there is going to be one or more guys out there who will want to be with you no matter what.

good luck.
and if you wish keep in touch (message me via my profile).

Answer 5

Lupus doesn't have to be a defining factor in your life, check out the Lupus Foundation as they do wonderful things and research.
As for family and friends all I can say is try to find a lupus or chronic illness support group either online or in person as it helps to hear and talk to others in similar situations. I have a chronic illness and it can be very lonley as no one quite understands what you go through so it is easy to critisize or ignore. I'm here if you need to "talk" just look me up on yahoo. Remember God is forgiving and he does not hold grudges, he is not punishing you as you have done nothing wrong. Good luck and God Bless from someone who cares!

Answer 6

You're mother isn't supportive at all! What can you do if you lost your husband. He mistreated you after all. Mothers want to see their daughters married even if they are unhappy. They don't get it. So... put her aside.
Youhave tool the decision to divorse at a certain point of time. AT THAT TIME it was the right decision. It turned to be a wrong one, doesn't mean that it's a failure. If you had to redo it you'd have done the same thing.
Today, you feel miserable and you're at the downward cycle of your life. I tell you this: Eveything happen for a reason and har time will go away. You have all the rest of your life ahead of you. You'll pick it all up and restart again. You'll love again and you'll be loved. Give it some time and don't let others take you down

Answer 7

Your Mum is full of crap. God is not punishing you at all, your going through some hard times, maybe you made a few wrong choices, but we all learn from our mistakes. Don't feel alone, because your'e not, don't feel unloved cos' your not. Do things to pamper your self and love your self, do something that you would'nt usually do. But you must find the root of your problems. We all attract the thing's we want and the things we fear. observe your thought pattern and say NO to unwanted thoughts. You don't have to agree with any one. You choose your own life, don't let any dictate it to you. You must reclaim your personal power and say NO. Follow your heart to what ever it desires and life will be easy. Find the beauty all around you in your home, sun, wild life, birds , trees etc. Also, don't take things personally. Good luck, lots of love.

Answer 8

The first thing you need to do is to get some help in dealing with the problems that you face physical with the lupus that you have and help with your emotions you have and depression. Then you will learn that you have to love yourself before any one else can love you. The first step is helping yourself and feeling better about yourself the rest of life is just taking tiny steps one day at a time.

Answer 9

Oh honey, I am sorry to hear of your troubles. I once also left a man tha treated me badly. I am so thankful that I did leave him, I can be myself now and enjoy my life. He was very controlling and emtionally abusive. I felt that at one point close to the same way that you are feeling, I was just about to give up on everything and then I woke up one day and told myself that I was not going to let anyone, or anything have that much power over me, I was going to live my life the way that I wanted to and be happy with it! It has not always been easy without the supoort of my family and being on my own, but then I come across people like yourself, I like to help everyone out before I help myself, and you seem the same way. You have a HUGE heart and I admire you for that! Please feel free to e-mail me at [e-mail] (yeah it's missing the R in board, I wa typing really fast when i set my e-mail up...hahaha) anyways, really you can e-mail me, I wuld like to help you in any way that I can!!! God Bless you and you will be in my prayers!!

Answer 10

Hey, God is not punishing you. If anything, if there is a God, he either doesn't see you or doesn't really care about your problems. That, though, should not upset yet: it should relieve you. You are OK. Relax. Wait. At some point you will find someone who does care about you. In the mean time just know that you're going to make it.