I am 24 years old, slim, in perfect shape, and I'm always getting told I'm very attractive. I am friendly, intelligent, professional, educated, confident, in short- I have it all pretty much...However, I only get approached by losers- whether it be at work, school, or out. I don't meet any nice guys. All guys that approach me approach me for one reason only- sex - which they don't get. I have quit jobs over this. Girls approach me too. Even my girl friends say when they see me all they think about is sex because of the way I look physically (when I asked them for advice that is what they responded). So what can I do to stop attracting this type of attention? I have already changed my style of dress, but as I am slim, fit and really curvaceous, everything just hangs on my curves- even baggier stuff. Help!!!! as my love life is in ruins...and I would love to meet a nice guy to marry someday...
2006-07-18 22:31:43 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm serious- I really have this problem. I happen to be very cheerful, happy, energetic, bright...you get the picture...Physically I have long legs, big blue eyes, chocolate brown hair, light skin, tiny waist, big hips, latina...u get the picture...I have a BA and am currently in graduate school...I also know various languages. So while I'm not really "searching", when I get approached I get the losers- (def- only approach me because they think I will put out). So how can I make myself approachable by guys who actually respect a woman for her mind and are not only interested in her for her ***....
2006-07-18 22:49:10 · update #1
You shouldn't change. Be yourself and dress how you want. The type of guy that does approach you is too into himself to care about your personality and probably wants to make you another notch on his bedpost. The nice guys tend to think you'd never give them a chance, so why ask? Find a nice guy and YOU approach him. Let him know he definitely does have a chance. As far as the losers go, well, just politely say no and leave it at that. They'll still try, but so you have admirers. Be happy people find you attractive.
2006-07-18 22:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by shynomore 5 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Everyone should have your dilemma! It is very hard for an attractive female to find quality dates and have a normal love life. You just have to keep trying. It seem as though you have the right approach by warding off and staying away from the riff-raff. The only thing though, regardless of who you meet, they all will be trying to get into your pants. The thing here is to let your instincts be your guide. You want to keep an open mind...so you can continue to have fun along the way. Try and find a small circle of friends you can go out with...ones you can depend on. When you are attracted to someone, be cautious and continue to be cool as you have been.
You might want to try looking at types other than the pretty, glamor boys. Start noticing average guys that you come in contact with. Here you may find that honest, appreciative, hard working intelligent one.
At any rate, don't become desperate. Relax and let it happen...it will.
2006-07-18 23:13:20 · answer #2 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the first things is the clothes! The short skirts and 4" heels will nearly always attract men but they will have only one thing on their mind! You said you are already working on this so....
Activities! What do you do? Where do you hang out? If you are hanging out at bars you'll get a certain kind of guy. Maybe your church has some activities for singles? Try folk dancing. Help out at a food pantry. Do something so are meeting some different types of guys.
Dating service like EHarmony are not a bad choice either. I know some guys in them in they are thinking more long term than a one night stand.
Good Luck!
2006-07-18 23:15:58 · answer #3 · answered by paintingj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men think about sex 24/7. It's their hormones. Don't take it personally. In fact, stop taking it personally. If you're looking for nice guys who are interested in more than your body, find men with common interests. Go to church group meetings. Join clubs that pique your interest -- Sierra club, a book club, a political group. Treat men as people instead of males. Sometimes they respond well to that. Sometimes they don't. It's a bit of a crap shoot, but you're young, you can deal with it. Just stop obsessing about it. Get on with your life and your job. Some day you'll be old and sagging and look back at age 24 and wonder why it was so traumatic being attractive.
2006-07-18 22:45:29 · answer #4 · answered by CarolO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats easy my friend, first of all ignore those people and dont let them run your life. Then if you really want a gentlemen, go and join a single's group at a church. I guarentee most of the men there will be happy to just talk to you. You have to go to the right places and I hope you are not working at a strip club or a bar because those nice guys are probably at the gym or doing something productive.
2006-07-18 22:36:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start by changing your image....How you dress gives people the impression of who you are....If you dress in a way that shows off your body then thats exactly what the guys are going to expect from you.
Try dressing a little conservative, but sexy at the same time. Give them a chance to glance in your eyes and talk to you first before looking at your body...
2006-07-18 22:36:50 · answer #6 · answered by Spellbinder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asi es la vida, this is the truth, some guys are just pigs you can't do anything about it but to be strong and blow them off, you have to be you and can't change that just to keep them away. I wish guys would really stop acting like this it makes the rest of us decent guys look stupid. They all just need to think when they are hitting on you "is this what you want to be doing when Jesus comes back"
2006-07-18 23:02:17 · answer #7 · answered by azeagle83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way is to go on an online dating thing. That way you dont see the guy. You guys can talk about your personalities. This way it might work out since if he didnt see you then he would like, imagine what you look like. Its a good way to meet guys that actually likes you for who you are. not for what you look like.
2006-07-18 22:36:46 · answer #8 · answered by ♥uR mY eVeRyThInG♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way you expressed yourself seems to be ur very sexy girl....Never ever entertain any guy or gal as soon as you observe him/her with wrong intentions. Be straight forward and frankly tell them what ur like/dislikes are and don't try to change ur living style for sake of others (afterall its your life) you may even miss ur Mr.Nice guy . Be yourself be cute be sexy be attractive most important be smart.
2006-07-18 22:42:30 · answer #9 · answered by Vikram tHE iNDIAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, a lot of women would kill to be you. i am too old for you and not anywhere near what you want in a guy. i don't know how you catagorize "losers". if it is a mole or a hair out of place, maybe you should give them a try. a frog might be the prince you want. good luck, babe.
2006-07-18 22:39:29 · answer #10 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋