here it is..
i've been searching for my x-bf for like months now..the reason why im looking for him is that we have a kid and i'm the one sending my son to school..he doesnt even support me..all i want is for him to tell it straight to my face that he doesnt care for his son..we talked on the phone last year and he told me he's willing to help me out..but now, he changed his cp number..he doesnt reply to all my mails..he said he's engaged...but what about his son..do you think i have all the right to fight for my son's rights?he's treating me like am a mistress well to think that i am his first girlfriend. do you think i should stop hoping that one day he would realize and make things right for me and my son?it's unfair that i'm the only one working so hard to support my kid and he doesnt even do anything about it..i mean, i love my son so much..my son always asks me where is his dad and ask me is he has a dad or not..it's so hard to answer..help me plzzzzzz
2006-07-18 22:09:20 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Quit searching for him and let the court system do it for you. He won't change and he'll keep letting you foot the bill for your son. I'm sorry your son's father is such a jerk. Move on and find someone else your son can one day call "Daddy".
2006-07-18 22:14:48 · answer #1 · answered by shynomore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he 's a moron but anyway.. You should get a lawyer if u can afford him and take ur ex bf to the court as other ppl said.. I really think that you are not the one who should be paying all the expenses for the kid.. after all he's the one left u pregnant .. where are his responsibilities?Your son doesnt deserve such a father but you cant afford everything by yourself.. just tell him that u need help for your son and that there is nothing else u want to have with him.. dont even talk to him actually..have your lawyer arrange everything.. i could be ur lawyer for free but its gonna take 4 years hehe i really think u should do the best for your son.. and ur ex is the least he can do by helping u financially.. he's not even there for his son so its really the least he can do..
2006-07-19 06:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy isn't your kid's Dad - a Dad is much more than someone who happened to provide the sperm.
Do you have any decent guys (brothers, uncles, friends) in your life who can show your son how to be a good man? His 'father' doesn't sound like he will be much use.
However, do not bad mouth this loser in front of your kid. The child will work out soon enough that he's a loser. Let him look to good men for role models, not this guy.
2006-07-19 05:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by Trish D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right it is not fair. Maybe you should try the legal route to force him to support your son financially. But as for emotional and practical support, it looks like it is all down to you. Don't see it as a negative, I know that is hard. Yes you are doing all of the hard work, but you are also getting all of the joy and love that your little one has to offer. When all said and done it is your ex that is missing out. Leave him be and focus on creating a happy life for you and your son. (But get his cash though!!)
2006-07-19 05:19:23 · answer #4 · answered by bexik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry girl unfortuantley he is one of those deadbeats dad. how sad it is to watch a guy turn his back on his kid. yes ur r doing it alone but he needs to get hit by goverment. he owes u money bottomline so get a hold of childsupport and they will find his but. my mom ex bf he had 5 daughters and didnt suport them. well guess what the ex did she got him for child support and he will be paying till they are all 18. so get that guy he owes it to u. wither he needs to decide be there for the kid or just pay. so do that girl. there no reason u should be struggling alone.good luck
2006-07-19 05:19:57 · answer #5 · answered by SLICK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. But I think it is waste of time and energy to find your ex. Since this is about your son future, you should search for alternatives, don't depend on that irresponsible man, you will hurt again and this time your son will get the impact too.
Good luck and God bless...
2006-07-19 05:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by nike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god. I'm so sorry. I think the best thing to do would be to move on. I'm so sorry. Hopefully you'll find someone nice soon and then you can tell yoru son that THAT'S his father, since his biological father cannot be considered his real dad anyways. His biological father is an ***, and I'm so sorry for you.
2006-07-19 05:15:18 · answer #7 · answered by ;; dirty little secret 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your ex bf is a loser, he obviously doesn't want to help out and probably only says he will to keep you happy and from nagging him.
Just do your best for your son, thats all you can do!
When your sons old enough you can tell him what happened to his dad and he'll see him for what he is!
:-)
2006-07-19 05:16:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him to court for child support payments. Even if he doesn't want to be a part of your sons life he has a duty to help pay for the child he helped bring into this world.
2006-07-19 05:14:49 · answer #9 · answered by Tuppence 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he wants out of your life, there is nothing you can do to make him in. he made it very clear that he wants nothing to do about you or his son and you are right to be depressed and frustrated because it is unfair that you are taking care of your son alll by yourself but he will do nothing and he will only cause you and your son more pain. forget about him and live your life. you did all you could do. let it go
2006-07-19 05:18:01 · answer #10 · answered by messy_missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋