I've never done this, but I've heard people who do. When invited on a date, the person who's NOT paying ends up ordering lobster or some other very expensive item on the menu. And if you really wanted lobster, would you just order it , or would it prompt you to ask the person who's paying first? What do you think is the best way to handle that awkward situation?
2006-07-18 21:30:58 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
for a first date i would take someone to a place within my budget that way if they order the most expensive thing i wont be caught short of cash.. lol... If they do order the most expensive thing there wouldnt be a 2nd date. Now what I honestly do is I wait for a clue... like he might say, i think im gonna have this.... i look at it on the menu see the price and order around that price range... if he dont give a clue then i ask him what he his getting... and go from there... ordering the most expensive thing is taking advantage and showing a lack of respect to the person who invited you out. Keep that in mind if they cant respect you, then you dont really need their company
2006-07-18 21:40:10 · answer #1 · answered by monie99701 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Ordering Lobster
2016-12-18 15:53:27 · answer #2 · answered by sheryl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were being treated to dinner, I would generally take my cue from my host and try to order something similar, particularly if it were a date on which I was keen to make an impression.
I love lobster, but I would love to make a favorable impression more - lobsters are easier to get hold of than good dates, after all!
In some high quality restaurants, the person in whose name the table is booked is assumed to be the host, and their menu will be the only one with prices.
If you find yourself with a menu without prices, you can try and infer how much things cost from their principal ingredient, or you can always ask your host for their recommendation.
If I'm taking someone out to dinner, I would likely order something from the more expensive end of the menu in order to give them more freedom to order what they like (and as a noble excuse to pamper my taste for lobster and tournedos Rossini, etc.) :)
The situation isn't necessarily very awkward, especially if you are on a date with someone you are likely to get on with anyway. The fact that you've given the matter some thought would imply that you're probably in no immediate danger of making a social gaffe.
2006-07-18 21:42:20 · answer #3 · answered by Charles K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't eat lobster so I wouldn't order it. Unless my date is a complete azz. So i guess if you're gonna order lobster or the most expensive thing on the menu then you're doing it to screw the person who is supposed to pay for the meal. If the shoe was on the other foot and I was the payee I would simply pay for my meal and tell my date we're going dutch! When the check came of course. Why try to save face when the person you're with is trying to screw you??!!
Now, this is not always the case. You only do that to a person if he's really obnoxious and thinks cause he paid for the lobster you're gonna put out.
2006-07-18 21:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by itsmeee2006 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're a lobster eating kind girl then order the lobster. keep it real! theres nothing worse than ordering a burger then 3 dates later your guys realizes your high maintenace and expensive! if you love lobster and are sensible offer to help pay the tab. BTW..who wants to go out with someone who would trip off paying for lobster on a first date?!?!
2006-07-19 11:06:17 · answer #5 · answered by mamimia80 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you' re paying, go right ahead and order lobster. If you're not paying, be tactful, and order something else. The person who's paying might find it wrecks their budget to pay for lobster. I personally wouldn't ask the person who's paying about it because pride and embarrassment would probably make them insist that you have it!
2006-07-18 21:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by survivor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't eat lobster- the poor things are boiled alive.
And, if I asked a guy on a date- I'd pay.
If he asked me, he's paying.
However, if I had an insane craving for something that happened to be expensive. I'd probably get it. Unless I knew he didn't have much cash, in which case I'd wait to see what he was getting and order something of equal or lesser value.
2006-07-18 21:35:13 · answer #7 · answered by Karmically Screwed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be prepared to pay for whatever's on the menu of any restaurant you go to. If you think it's going to be more than you can afford, there will be an awkward moment, but you should speak up and tell your date that you don't have enough money. It will be embarrassing, but it must be done. If someone else is paying, I always order something modest.
2006-07-18 21:36:37 · answer #8 · answered by Jack Nicholson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, if I think that particular person wouldn't mind.
Actually yeah, I would just order it.
Asking first is too awkward.
If your worried about it, bring $30 or $50 so dollars.
Tell them your dying for some lobster, watch their face, if they make a bad face, tell them you brought SOME money.
2006-07-18 21:42:56 · answer #9 · answered by lilith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you decide to take her somewhere expensive, you should be prepared to pay for something expensive. If you don't feel that you want to spend too much, take them somewhere with a less expensive menu. Dating can be expensive, but don't blame her for not knowing your financial situation. Don't make you date responsible for accepting your dinner invitation.
But cheer up... and find other fun ways to spend time together!!!
With a little imagination, you can not only make some great memories, but save a little money too.
; )
2006-07-18 21:36:14 · answer #10 · answered by boxergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋