Why do people think they have the right to identify sins? isnt that gods job? shouldnt we leave that to him?

Question

I am white and have an african american boyfriend yet my religous family refuses to accept that fact. They refuse to even talk to him because of his color but he is the most intelligent, sweet person I have ever met. It makes me think that if, for example, i was homosexual, that i would be ripped apart like him. My thoughts are that it Jesus died for the forgiveness of our sins not the power to identify sins, and as long as it is not physically hurting anyone else then what gives us the right to judge anyone else. We are not the judge, god is....if im wrong please let me know....

Answer 1

We don't really have a right to judge but God gives us authority to see what spirit or fruit that individual is bearing. That's why he tells us to not be unequally yoke with sinners. (Not saying this in your case) You must understand that God gave us a visual book of do's and don't's for a purpose to identify ourselves and others but unfortunately,we do have people who misuse or abuse it! My brother is dating an white Caucasian and her parents are very against him. You must stay focus on love of your life and that don't allow others to intervene. Pray for family. Don't force the issue. They will realize that your happiness is first priority.

Shalom

Answer 2

First, it's not a sin. The Bible says there is neither Greek nor Jew, free nor slave, for we are all one in Christ. The only thing that should matter is if he is saved, the Bible says we should not be unequally yoked. I know how you feel, my grandmother confesses Christ, but is in complete denial that my cousin and I both date african american men. She has let go of some of her hate but it is still wrong. Blessings and curses can not come form the same place, just like sweet water and bitter water can not come from the same place.
Second, the part about judging is half right. God is the ultimate judge, but in 1 Corinthians 5:5-10(or close to that), it says that believers should judge each other so that if any one is doing wrong they can be corrected, but we are not to judge sinners; that is only for God. In this case, your family is wrong. Be blessed and i hope everything works out.

Answer 3

You are not wrong at all. I am a Latter Day Saint ( christian
denom ).

I do not know where in Christs teachings it says that its
okay to be a racsist.
Your parents are in the wrong here.

Also it depends on the degree of the sin whether someone
ought to speak up or not. I dont like the word sin as
much as just saying someone is making mistakes.

If someone murdered someone hell yes i would speak up.
So wouuld anyone, athiest or not. same with stealing,
and cheating on someone etc etc.

Howver it is not okay to Hate preach to someone
just because they have different beliefs. I do not
believe in this, and i see more division between
the christian denominations than the athiests and
the christians, which is really sad.

Ignore your parents their eyes only go skin
deep. Also let your boyfriend know not all white
christians are so ignorant. I am LDS ( mormon)
and we have several Black people and hispanics
in our church.

However my church is certainly not immune to
racsism, the leaders of the church withheld the
priesthood to blacks for more than a century.
I find it sad it still goes on today and that
it happends in other religions as well.

Answer 4

There is a bit of a difference between dating someone who is a different color and being a homosexual. One is not wrong at all, and one is clearly wrong and forbidden. There is nothing wrong with dating or marrying someone whose skin color is different from yours. I'm sorry that anyone still feels that way.

You state that we (in your opinion) don't have the right to judge whether someone is sinning or not?

So you wouldn't do anything about a neighbor that is molesting the little girls in the neighborhood? You wouldn't "judge" him?

What if he argues (as some in academia now are (like a female professor at the U of Minnesota) that adults should be having sex with little kids, and if they don't then the little kids are missing out on some great experiences.

I guess it's ok for her to spout that stuff and your neighbor to molest little girls, right? (what if the little girls say they enjoyed it? Is it ok then? Do you not turn in your neighbor then? And if you do turn him in, why? Haven't you judged what he did to be wrong?

So some sins it's ok to judge as wrong and others it's not?

Answer 5

I do not believe in God/Jesus or religion in general but I do believe in tolerance as I believe the bible attempts to teach. It should not matter what colour, faith, nationality or any other discriminating factor your partner may have. If they are the right person for you then that is the end of it. I can not suggest turning your back on your family as they are important to you but you must try to make them understand how you feel and if they can not accept this then you have some very hard decisions to make. Sorry!

Answer 6

You are not wrong. Your parents are bigotted is all and if you choose to be with this man then you will have to deal with that bigotry.

I'm sure if you were gay you would be disowned. Some people just have a harder time getting past the predujices that they grew up with.

Love them is all that you can do. But if this is truly the right guy for you then stand your ground too.

Answer 7

I believe this plays on the same issue as a question earlier today regarding Ghandi's apparent dislike of Christians despite his professing to love Jesus.

Jesus wouldn't be condemning you or your boyfriend for your relationship ... he would encourage you to both love and respect each other.

And the same applies to homosexuals ... Jesus would encourage them to fill the world with good, rather than condemn them.

But many Christians only seem to remember the teachings of Jesus when it suits them.

Answer 8

That's religion for you. Just another exscuse to put distance between each other. I'm sorry your family is like that, but everyone faces hardships, this is just yours. Keep loving him. Perhaps some day your family will understand your love, and forget their prejudices. Still, it makes no sense. Would they be happier if you were with a boyfriend who was white and abusive?

Answer 9

Of course we have to "identify", or discern sins, otherwise we'd never know how to keep from commiting them. Don't you mean, "Why do people think they have the right to judge other people?" And you're right, they don't. As long as you're happy in your relationship, and you both have faith in God and are obedient to Him, then that's what counts. Ignore what the "holier-than-thou's" are saying.

Answer 10

the bible says do not judges lest you be judged but it does say rebuke your brother if you see him doing wrong. but it sounds like you church family are extriml;y biggeted and not at all christian we must love all and even sinners but the colour of some ones skin is not a sin or even there fault