Is it right to pass judgement on someone you don't know?

Question

From asking a few simple questions people are making vast assumptions on my life. How is that possible... They think my name is simon for goodness sake. They become hostile and abusive very quickly. Are they not at peace with themselves? Do they have some crazy internal battle that they project into the world? Is this rudeness and insults really required? It is a good thing that I choose who I associate with.

Answer 1

you shouldn't' pass judgment at all on anyone.

Answer 2

First of all, the answer to your question has little do do with "wrong" or "right." Because of the vast amounts of sensory information we are required to process, we have developed mental shortcuts or "schemas" to help us categorize similar groups of information into larger groups. Some schemas are based on actual personal observations, while others are based on second-hand information as well (such as stereotypes). Time is also a factor in the development of schemas. We briefly interact with hundreds of people throughout our lives, but we only have time to get to know a small portion of those people, for whatever reason. Because humans are thinking creatures, we naturally wonder about the people we meet---even briefly. Questions that we have no time to ask, or don't want to ask, are abandoned and replaced by assumptions.
Secondly, I am curious as to what kinds of questions people are asking about your life that would cause them to become hostile and abusive when you answer them.
Thirdly, I do believe that hostile and/or abusive people are not at peace with themselves...that should be obvious to you. Also, like most people, those people probably do have some kind of internal battle going on within themselves.
Lastly, of course rudeness and insults are not required...ever. However, because of various combinations and interactions of stress, anxiety, inward/ outward anger, and defense mechanisms, some people are and will be rude and insulting.
My advice to you is to not answer the questions that have proven to cause a negative reaction toward you from other people. Or, you could attribute their rudeness and/ or insults as products of their ignorance, and excuse yourself from the conversation.
If you are above the age of 5 it should be evident to you that there are "mean" people in this world. If you want less stress, try to avoid them.

Answer 3

no it is not right
but when i make mistakes its not right,or make stupid answers or questions,
but people will pass judgement,without even wearing ones shoes for a day,
i have health issues that renders my thought or judgements at times, not being crazy,well wait a minute i guess i am crazy,lol,
but alot ppl will pass judgement
for i guess they are perfect and expect everyone else to be perfect
now some ppl they are no excuse for them they are the low life vermon that prey on other peoples emotion,the racist being number one.
we are all equal
we all make mistakes
we all feel
we all have cried
we all will die in the end

so i say just do not worry about them,for one can make part of the people happy part of the time but at no one time can one make all happy at any given time

Answer 4

People have to make assumptions. It's impossible to avoid that "first impression" feeling with people you've just met - how else would we interact? The difference is, people shouldn't necessarily ACT on their premature assumptions until they've given you the full benefit of the doubt. That said, if so many people are being "randomly" rude to you, I'd double-check your premises - people aren't, on a whole, rude to people they don't know. So what are YOU doing wrong?

Answer 5

No it is not right to pass judgment on anyone, based on anything. You are the only one in the position to judge you. Sometimes people can be inadvertently callous when they don't have to look into someones eyes when they are speaking to them.Try not to take it personally. When you are the best person that you can be, no one can tell you any different. Remember that.

Answer 6

Yes and no. I know that that isn't a good answer but it is true. Many of the previous answers echo the right thing about passing unfair, unqualified, uninformed judgment. But..I didn't actually know Hitler, I don't know bin La din (sic) but I have definitely passed judgment on them.

Answer 7

It's only right to judge someone in a court of law

Answer 8

we can't judge others based on first impressions. i have found the first impressions are usually wrong. a few simple questions can give us a hint but we really can't judge others so quickly.

Answer 9

their judgements are likely residual anger over repeatedly losing "simon says" as a child.

Answer 10

u shudnt make decisions based on the judgement you made without knowing a person......and if u feel something wrong abt a person .....keep that to urself....dont whisper it to people around you.....

Answer 11

Sure. I don't know Jeffrey Dahmer but I've passed judgment on him.