My son has had a tiny willy since birth. He had a bit of trouble with a tight foreskin but this is now much better. He is quite talll for his age, but i noticed that my friends and sisters boys all had bigger willies than him. Even my sisters baby has a willy the same size and he's not even 1 yet!! The doctor says just to wait as he hasn't finished growing yet, but it hasn't even really started to grow in the first place. Even the health visitor admitted it was unusual for it to be so small at this age but said that it was the doctors decision whether or not anything can be done. She has asked on a couple of occasions whether there could be an underlying problem, but he is reluctant to investigate unless it is affecting his bladder control.
Its really hard to toilet train him as he wants to stand up and wee but can't hold it properly. He gets really frustrated and i feel so sorry for him as i know how cruel other children can be when he goes to school. Has anyone else had this??
2006-07-18 20:33:29 · 34 answers · asked by cuddlymummy 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Hey, thanks for all the abuse - i knew i'd get some anyway!!!
I'm not really worried as such, i just wondered if it was normal. Also, its my son who is getting frustrated with standing up weeing. when he sits on the loo the wee tends to go everywhere as he can't hold his willy down properly. I don't want to intervene with surgery, etc. I just want to make sure that there aren't any other issues down there for now! If he needs/wants it enlarged then he can have it done when he turns 18!
2006-07-18 20:55:13 · update #1
TO THE MOMSTER. I AM NOT A PAEDOPHILE, I AM NOT WORRIED ABOUT THE SIZE OF HIS PENIS REGARDING SEX - WHAT DO YOU THINK I AM. ITS THE TOILET TRAINING THAT WORRIES ME AND WHETHER OR NOT IT IS BORMAL TO HAVE A SMALLER WILLY THAN EVERYONE ELSE AT THIS AGE! WHY DON'T YOU JUST FUC.K OFF!
2006-07-18 23:25:07 · update #2
CAN I JUST MAKE SOMETHING CLEAR HERE. IT WAS MY SISTER AND MY FRIEND WHO BOTH HAVE 5 BOYS BETWEEN THEM THAT BROUGHT THE SUBJECT UP IN THE FIRST PLACE. IF IT WASN'T FOR THEM I WOULDN'T BE POSTING THIS QUESTION ON HERE IN THE FIRST PLACE. I AM NOT PERVERTED, I JUST WANT WHATS BEST FOR MY SON. I AM NOT PUTTING ANY PRESSURE ON HIM AND HAVEN'T EVEN SPOKEN TO HIM ABOUT IT YET. I AM DOING MY BEST AS A MOTHER AND I WANT TO MAKE SURE HE DOESN'T HAVE A MEDICAL CONDITION. MY HUBBY HAS A SMALLER THAN AVERAGE PENIS AND I AGREE THAT SIZE DOESN'T MATTER WHEN IT COMES TO SEX. MY SON IS STARTING BIG PLAYGROUP SOON AND I HAVE TO PACK HIM ABOUT 5 SPARE SETS OF CLOTHES AS HE IS ALWAYS WEEING ALL OVER THE TOILET SEAT, HIMSELF AND HIS CLOTHES. NO-ONE ELSE I SPEAK TO HAS THIS PROBLEM AND MY HEALTH VISITOR AGREED WITH ME THAT IT IS UNUSUALLY SMALL. IT HASN'T GROWN AT ALL IN THE PAST 2 YEARS SO YOU CAN SEE WHY I'M WORRIED!
2006-07-18 23:41:25 · update #3
FIRSTLY IGNORE THE SICKO'S GIVING YOU ABUSE!!!! im a qualified nursery nurse does that make me a sicko tooo???? boys and girls come in all types of shapes and sizes and i remember having a case similar to yours whilst i was training. Dont worry he isnt the only one i promise you.
2006-07-19 21:26:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
You are right to think about other children's crulety. Children can be so hurtful and you dont want him to grow up with a unhealthy feeling towards his penis. I would definitely consider consulting another doctor - one who can tell you whether there is anything you can do. Even if he not in medical danger, he may be in phycological danger and you must make the doctor realise that this is important to you. If there is anything you can do, you would want to do it as soon as possible..... If he had a tight foreskin which was never properly seen to, it may have been the cause of the lack of growth and should be mentioned to the doctor or urologist.
As for toilet training - my son is a real neat freak. He does not hold his penis to direct the flow of the urine - he presses down on the area directly above the penis to change the direction. You can master this technique by making him wee in the garden and trying out different methods which work. He will have this problem even if he sits down to wee, so training him to find another solution is a good idea.
Prepare him for possible teasing. Dont tell him that he will be teased - it can make him into a self fulfilling prphecy. But a good healthy attitude to his body and penis will go a long way to helping him garner respect for himslef (and that might start by calling it a penis and not a willy). Watch out for teasing and make sure to talk about it openly and honestly. Tell him that while it is smaller, it is in no way less than what others have and will fulfill the same purpose (weeing for now) as others. He will need to know that other people can be cruel sometimes but that it is not necessarily true.
Open lines of communication will help you both deal with the inevitable taesing. Good luck!
2006-07-18 20:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by Leah S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all it is NOT the doctor's choice to change the size of your son's penis. That is your son's choice when he is old enough to make it! Sorry, but this is one of my huge pet peeves. The idea that doctors have some right to decide how our body should look, regardless of the patient's wishes. You son isn't old enough to make that decision yet. This is a bigger problem for you than for your son.
Second, many boys have a growth spurt when they hit puberty. If he is 3 years old he is not even remotely close to being done growing in any part of his body. Doing something about it now would be foolish and probably detrimental (for example, loss of sensitivity due to scar tissue).
Third, he's 3! What is he standing up to pee for anyways? He just has to suck it down and sit on the potty until he learns how to control it better. All little boys get it everywhere when they're learning.
2006-07-18 20:42:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are all of u people so worried about a child's willy being too small? i have a 6 year old and have never compared his willy to anyone's or even wondered if it's "big" or not, he's my child for god sake and the size of his willy doesn't matter. so let your son worry avout the size when he gets old enough to realize it's small, i don't think in kindergarden he will be too worried about it's size of his willy and as for the peeing, he's only 3, give him a change to learn how to control it first, my son still misses the toilet every now and then and i think it's due to laziness and being occupied with toys and trying to hurrry and get done so he can go play more than anything. try making him sit until he gets used to peeing standing up. good luck
2006-07-19 03:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by Mz. Tanning Bed Junkie! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry to much about it right now. If it's not affecting him urinating it probably isn't going to be a problem.
As for unkindness just look at the answers here and that's a start.
Doctors don't like to mess with something that isn't broke.
If he can't hold it to wee then encourage him to sit, either way is acceptable at 3. If he insists on standing *like daddy* then he will find a way to make it work!
2006-07-19 03:05:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 the toilet training have u tried a special toilet training seat? it fits in the actual seat 2 make it smaller, also it has a raised part at the front so that no wee can escape. i've encouraged my boys 2 sit rather than stand as they're all small and difficult 2 hold at that age.
2006-07-19 02:17:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about this now. It will only upset your son.
I also have a son. Not quite sure what size willies must be, but
I am not stressing. Listen to the doctor. Your son is still growing, maybe he surprises you with a bigger one than all the other kids. It's like breasts. They grow on their own time.
2006-07-18 20:39:14 · answer #7 · answered by natasha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nothing for the moment, jeeze you will give him a complex before he's even made it to school changing room for PE!
I recon small willie, and a complex is worse don't you? You will have many more issues to come, so don't go creating any. He could possibly not want it anyway, an in later life have it removed! So I shouldn't bother worrying, he'll sort it out himself, so long as you don't mother him too much.
2006-07-18 21:00:24 · answer #8 · answered by abbey4eddie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 08:07:53 · answer #9 · answered by belschner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you are getting such rude answers. If you have a urologist where you are, take him there. They will be able to help you. My son who is also 3 has a smaller penis, but I don't know at what age they do start to fit more to their bodies. If you are concerned do not stop until you get answers.
2006-07-19 00:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by always_auds 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so concerned about the size of your 3 year old son's penis? There are a lot more important things you should be concerned with regarding him. You sound like you are sexually perverted and need to see a therapist and don't waste any time finding one. Do this for the love of your son! Or he may be taken away from you if someone who knows you personally finds out you say these things. They may accuse you of sexually abusing your child.
2006-07-18 23:07:43 · answer #11 · answered by Brenda J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋