family problem?

Question

my sister she has a boyfriend(she 's 19 so is him) . he lives in our house . my mom and my sister alow him to live in the house my mom cook for him .my sister cleans his cloths.i hate that but i accepted that coz of my mom and my sis.one day he made sandwich to eat and asked me if i want one he would made it for me i said " i 'd love to . thanks " then my sis got very angry and yelled at me'you are so rude ! why dont you get it your self ? he's not your servant' i am so upset she doesn't care about me . i did nt mean to use him like that really.i tried to live with him all the time
we had really big fight ! and then everything came out my mouth .
i yelled to my mom and my sis ' why you adopt a pimp?' my mom said ' you are immature' they apologised that boy for me and tell him to live in the house happily . so i ran out the house and live alone . but i still hurt everytime i think about it .why dont they even care about me? i am so dissappointed? i am so sad.

i am 22 still in college and it s normal in my country to live with family even your are over 18

he doesnt pay anything he even borrows my mom sometime

Answer 1

same problem here. My sister and his hubby also lived in our house. They make mom do the laundry, taking care of their child, cook, iron and leaving mom alone with the baby until 3 am in the morning because they watched a midnight movie. They also borrowed money from mom to pay the debt. I cannot stop them since mom always OK with all the torture.

Makes me feel sick and so sad, so I do feel for you dear...we're at the same club here...I also run out from home.

But you know what? I become more independent as a woman and also a stronger person. I can finished school at time, get a nice job, married a nice guy and now a mother of a baby girl. I do it all by myself without family support since I still sad just to come to my house. Now I am 31 years old and a proud mother.

So be strong girl, and good luck !

Answer 2

Look at the bright side of things. God took you out of a bad situation, because he has something better planned for you. If you stayed there he couldn't show you new things and premote you to a new level in your life. The reason your sister yelled at you, when he made you a sandwich was because your mom and her are always doing things for him; but when he chose to make you a sandwich she got really jealous. She felt he was starting to like you, So she responded by yelling at you. But God has shown favor upon you. Just forgive them and Just know that God is with you. That house was probably crowed anyway.

Answer 3

It was wrong of them to treat you that way. Hopefully it can be worked out. Family should be important and there for you. Was the boyfriend paying rent or any bills? Are the expenses all on the mom? She gets the say about who stays or not if she's paying all the bills. She is the one to talk to about how you feel.

Answer 4

awe come on. cheer up.

things will happen. I'm not saying what is going on is right. infact, it truly is not. it sounds like a co-dependent relationship. almost like a drug addict, your mom/sis need to have him around for some odd reason. they are hooked on him. charms?

depending on your age/financial situation, I would go to a friends pad and move in or to a relative's home. do you have other siblings to help out?

i would walk away. fend for yourself but do not touch the subject. seek some counseling if you need. whether it be a friend, school couselor, teacher, co-worker or professional talk about options.

let us know if you need ideas. you can email me. good luck. i'll keep you in my prayers.

Answer 5

take all that rotten family behavior and try to make a better, healthier life for your self elsewhere. they've given you some vivid examples of how NOT TO BE, so go to work on making your own life better than the filth you saw growing up in that horrible family.

Answer 6

This guy sounds like a bum and he's using your mother and sister as his meal ticket.

Try sitting down with your mom and telling her (calmly) how you feel. If you're hurt then you need to tell her....don't just keep it to yourself....things don't get resolved if you don't communicate.

Answer 7

hey im 22 too! (-:
ohw...... sad to hear that .. )-:

first of all, that guy is sooooooo stupid! HE IS SO IRESPONSIBLE!..
a guy should be the one who'll provide shelter for his family or girlfriend/wife!.....
And about the story you posted! i can say that your sis is another STUPID there!!!!!!
LOVE IS BLIND, right..! She's free to that i mean to be slave of her bf!!!! FREE BUT NOT RIGHT!
but she doesnt care about the love that her sis needs.......)-:

if i were you, just ignore THEM......
prove them that this guy is so STUPID, LAZY..whatever!
your mom and sis will realize that in the end.....

Answer 8

It is not your fault - so don't feel bad. If they want to screw up their lives, it is just too bad. Atleast you tried. Now get on with your life.

Answer 9

But if you are able to live on your own, why were you living their?

Answer 10

i fell your pain man so get rich and forget about them let them rot together