I just dated this incredible girl and we had nothing but an awesome time together. She used to date this guy (who was also her first boyfriend) who was controlling and verbally abusive. Everytime they broke up he said he was sorry and that things would be different this time (yeah right). They broke up about 3-4 times over. Her friends and parents hate him. She always used to tell me about how she could never be friends with him again (unlike me) and how she hated so many things about him. Now we've broken up and they're friends, however she isn't dating him nor really hanging out with him that much. She's basically shut me out of her life, although she really wanted to be friends and still hang out. I still get the feeling she really misses me (she has to!).
So now what? Move on yes, but should I leave her alone & let her come to me? Should I try to be friends? I think confessing my feelings will only drive her off...wouldn't it?
2006-07-18 19:35:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is not a person to trust in. I think it is better you to stay away from her before she hurts you badly.
2006-07-18 19:39:03 · answer #1 · answered by tapsev 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What did you do? If you hear he has hurt her don't be a prat who stands and does nothing while she is getting hurt, RING THE POLICE. Why did you break up? If you think that she might think n anyway shape or form that you done somting wrong then send her a sorry card and emails. Become friends with her friends other than this other guy who sounds like a nasty piece of work.
2006-07-19 02:41:36 · answer #2 · answered by Jensen Ackles Girl (I Wish!) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must like abusive men that is why she has nothing to do with you a women that has been in a abusive relationship sometimes feels that that is all she deserves and ends up pushing the good guys away. Leave her alone she may end up telling that abusive x that you are bothering her and want him to take care of it. I ts not worth it.
2006-07-19 02:48:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would encourage you to entrust the decision of returning to you into her hand. Let her come to you when she feel she should. You don't want to convey an overbearing image. Try being her friend for a while and see how you feel about. If your emotions towards her have not altered at the end of this predesignated time then let her know of your sentiments.
Good luck!
2006-07-19 02:54:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take care of yourself is foremost! You have planted an emotional seed now step back in the shadows and let it germinate.. You can't predict the future. She has to make the final cut with her boyfriend. Patients usually wins out.. Don't set around home and pout, go out with your friends and enjoy life.......
2006-07-19 02:54:44 · answer #5 · answered by Kit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love something, set it free.
If it comes back it was meant to be.
Once a liar, always a liar. Personally I think she was just stroking her comfort zone, and she chose you to help her with that.
I've also lost the love of my life (who promised to come back after six months). We are currently friends and can talk about anything. It hurts like hell, but at least he knows I care about him and I am there for him. I am married to his worst enemy, but still he accepted that. Just be there for her when she needs a shoulder to cry on.
2006-07-19 02:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by natasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give it time k she no's what both of you guys are like k im sure she will no the rite chice you just cant push her all she wont want to n you at all. or you could ask her something like do you still want to be friends and if she says yes remember you are just friends and not to get to offensive if she hangs with other ppl.be patiant its her choice okay just take it steady. you dont want to hold her to close other wise your b struggerling to get over her to be friends. kk i hope i helped you
2006-07-19 02:47:01 · answer #7 · answered by ditsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is hung up on him, you know the old saying "you never forget your first love:" you need to make her realize this guy is trash, it sounds like you really are not interested in being friends, you want her to be your girl, confess your feelings, its gonna be hard, but in the long run will save you a lot of frustration
2006-07-19 02:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by ♫jmann♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't confess. Don't go out of your way to give her attention, however when she is around be really nice, in a positive "all is cool with the planet" kinda way.
2006-07-19 02:41:21 · answer #9 · answered by jodeeo1029 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is seriuosly a girl that wants to make use of guys. dont fall for it, coz i have and leave her alone. if she really wants to be sorry just be friends. dont be her boyfriend ever again.
2006-07-19 02:44:19 · answer #10 · answered by voodoochild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her go. You are making excuses. hang out with some friends for support
2006-07-19 02:39:49 · answer #11 · answered by ric_ozz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋