This really upsets me. Why do spouses or significant others (some) only want you to be aroung married friends or gay people. They say they trust you, but if you are not allowed to be around single people or people of the opposite sex, I believe that is just insecurity and hypocrisy. If your mate has never given you any inclination whatsoever of cheating, what makes this right or just proper? I think it sucks. You lose your innocent freedom just to feel good and not argue about what you want to do. That is just so unfair, but maybe I am just selfish?
2006-07-18 19:25:16 · 11 answers · asked by just julie 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Many associate single men as being wolves and inconsiderate oafs and are protecting you from their former selves. It is former selves because most people cannot imagine other people as being better behaved or smarter then they themselves are. To change such prejidice would be to make sure the single men you introduce them to are above reproach.
2006-07-18 19:36:57 · answer #1 · answered by Marcus R. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't say if the spouse is with a group of people or having dinner with one person. I don't see a reason for jealousy in the group situation, but a married person has no business going on a date, unless it's with the spouse.
2006-07-19 02:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by Nosy Parker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you decided to spend some one on one time with a single person and your spouse did not like it.
If you are spending time with a single person of the opposite sex you are acting like an idiot and essentially putting your marriage at risk. If I were you I would apologize and change my ways.
2006-07-19 02:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by Today is the Day 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right it does boil down to insecurity, but if it really bothers you talk about it and get it sorted, because you're right if you trust each other and have given no reason for them not to trust you why shouldn't you have friends that are single..
2006-07-19 02:30:21 · answer #4 · answered by waggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
healthy relationships have a balance of time together and also spend with personal friends. You alone will know in your heart your motives and if your pure in your intentions or vise versa then it should be a matter of simple reassurance then a good innocent time by all and happily shared to the partner when together
2006-07-19 02:32:05 · answer #5 · answered by Donna B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to be with single friends when you should be with your spouse most of the time?
2006-07-19 02:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are naturally attracted to the opposite sex. It's hard to even trust yourself. Depending on your culture, it is just customary to stay away from people who are single when you yourself are taken. Also, what do you really lose by staying away from them? I'm sure you lose nothing.
2006-07-19 03:39:49 · answer #7 · answered by TarasBoutiqueAtEtsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not being selfish. i am in the same boat. and it is not right and it is not proper but if you love someone you learn to give up things in life. that's the way it goes no one ever said life was fair
2006-07-19 02:31:56 · answer #8 · answered by over the top 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have that problem myself. We've been married 18 years but he does not mind me going out with the girls. Why should he?
2006-07-19 02:56:15 · answer #9 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u totally right.
ur spouse cant chain ya like that !!
i think its very bossy and possessive of her/him.
2006-07-19 05:46:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋