im 16 i have never asked a girl out. i want to but for some reason i never can. i know a lot of girls i want to ask out and when im not around them it sounds so easy but when im near them i can never do it. im not afraid that they'll say no or anything im just incapaable of asking them out. please help.
2006-07-18 19:20:01 · 7 answers · asked by chaseredbat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have those problems to but you just need to look yourself in the mirror before u see them and tell urself i can do this if i get turned down its not the end of the world then wen you see them say (persons name) i need to talk to you in private then shell say wats up then u say well ive been thinking and......i really like u and it would mean the world to me if you would go out with me sometime and if she says no then just walk away casually but i am 99.999% sure that she wont u just need to be confident and believe in yourself
2006-07-18 19:27:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I am a 28 year old woman, not a teenage boy, so I feel as though I have more of the answer you are looking for. My answer is: Relax. You are not asking her to marry you. You just want to have coffee? hang out? Watch a movie? Tell her that you are just wondering if she would like to hang out with you. If she says no, or makes an excuse, Don't assume you will be dead from embarrassment. Nothing is really lost. You could consider it practice for the next girl you ask out. Maybe start with some girl you would like to hang out with, on a casual basis. Be cool. If there is too much pressure, it's not fun. Be fun. That's what girls want.
2006-07-18 19:36:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to MAKE TIME with the girl first, don't just ask them out on a DATE. GIrls are afraid of the word DATE b/c it puts too much pressure on them. (Girls don't like to hear the word DATE until they're 35 and the clock is ticking and they don't have time to play games anymore.) Start off with group events like parties and be sure to talk to her a lot at these group events. Then start asking her to hang out on your own, but be careful not to make it sound too DATE-ish. All along, you need to read her and look for signals. Then after 3 or 4 months and you're still stuck in the FRIEND gear, pop the clutch and tell her you LIKE her and want to know if she would be interested in dating you. If she says NO, it's not the end of the world. And remember it's all good practice.
A word of advice: If you really like this girl after all that, and she says NO, do NOT be friends with her. Just slowly (and maturely) stop talking to her. Drift apart. But do not be friends b/c you will always want more and it will kill you inside.
And you never know, YOU may not like HER either. But there's only one way to find out.
2006-07-18 19:32:28 · answer #3 · answered by Mister_Shhh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being a girl, i cam answer this. You know how everyone says "be yourself?" this only works for some people. Everyone who says that means, "Be you if you're already an extremely hott awesome dude. If not... be the you that you WOULD be, if you were that kind of dude." So, don't push it, act natural, and compliment girls. When you get a girl, hug her all the time, and if she says she doesn't like something- LISTEN. As for the actual asking out- No pickup lines. We hear them, we think- "OMG, dork alert."
2006-07-19 20:11:52 · answer #4 · answered by cheesey 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Damn man i got the same problem, you plan it all out sounds like you got the best plan then you go and you cant ask them
2006-07-18 19:24:13 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not that hard coming from a person who use to be just like you just keep practicing and don't be afraid to be embarrassed just knowing that u still tried would make u feel great!
2006-07-18 19:30:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
man u sound so much like me !!
get over it !!
use the option DO or DIE !!
it Helps ...
2006-07-18 19:27:33 · answer #7 · answered by Elmo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋