We don't speak the same language...should I pursue this or no?

Question

Hey y'all! Okay, I work at a sports bar with this guy. We are both 20 and he is the sweetest guy I have ever met and he is so kind and caring. We have an insane connection but the only problem is we don't speak the same language. He speaks Spanish and I speak English but I speak a little bit of Spanish. We try to communicate as much as possible. He is also currently learning English and I Spanish. When I walk into work and we see eachother he makes eye contact and our eyes just lock for longer than a few seconds. He smiles and jokes a lot and is always helping me. Could he possibly be interested and if so should I pursue him or just move on?? My friends think I should go for it and my family on the other hand thinks I'm being silly and unreasonable. It's weird cause I connect better with him than I do with most guys that speak English :) I know the reasonable thing to do is move on, but the connection is hard to move past. Any suggestions? Thanks and God bless!! :)

P.S. I am not interested in a sexual relationship because I am waiting until marriage. :)

Answer 1

Moving on?! No way! This is a perfect opportunity! Imagine: you can have bilingual kids, then! You, the parents, just have to become bilingual now... and if you both truly feel the same for each other, go for it! Just wait a little until both of you can really talk in the same language to go through everything you need to before marriage, okay? You're not going to let a simple language problem ruin a chance with who may be the man of your life, are you? 'Course not! You're going to learn Spanish, he English and both wil probably be great together! Good luck and God Bless both of you too. If it works between you two, may both of you lead happy lives together and future genrations born from your love... :)

Last thing- I appreciate the fact that you're waiting for sex after marriage- congrats!!

Answer 2

It sounds like your having a lustful connection. This means you could go ahead and sleep with him and most probably be very well sexually satisfied. If, on the other hand, you are hoping to form a deep and meaningful connection with him, you are just kidding yourself. Imagine getting tired of having only sex for around 12 hours, and you want to ask him what he thinks of life, politics, religion, work, the latest movie or song you've seen or watched- your communication barrier will obviously affect any type of conversation you might want to have. Even so, with the basic communication exchanges, you will no doubt one day get tired of his constant mispronunciation, verbal confusions, and how every other woman he meets is turned on by his 'Antonio Banderas'-type drawl.
Appease your loins and move on. Forming any other type of relationship is doomed from the get-go- believe me, I'm half-Spanish and I've had quite a number of these experiences. There is even a poem that sums it up, but I cannot recall if it was Pablo Neruda or someone else who wrote it that states: What drew you to him/her in the first place is what turned you against him/her in the end. Like finding a certain tick or habit endearing at the beginning, after a year you'll wish they could stop doing that "stupid" thing! And the eye-contact thing is a very Latin thing to do- we always look deep into a woman's eyes to try to see the window into their soul, but most English-speaking women take this to be a spirtual connection of some sort. I even dated a girl I made eye-contact with on an escalator going in different directions- I caught up to her thinking she knew me from somewhere and she was breathing heavily because she thought we'd "clicked". "Of course we did!" I said- the rest is history.
Be careful you don't get hurt. Have some fun first, then see what his intentions are and how you truely feel for him.

Answer 3

I'm a believer in going for a relationship when there are signs you have found your soul mate. It's seldom we find him/her, so why let language be a barrier. If I were you, I'd run, not walk to Spanish lessons, and if he feels the same way, he will run to English lessons. Of course we must speak the same language eventually, but sometimes it seems we are speaking "Greek" even when we both speak English, so see, if you are speaking with your hearts and souls, you will never know if you don't give it your best shot. If I were your mother I'd be wary of the fact that he doesn't speak English, but I as your mom would also go out and learn English if I thought my daughter had found her soul mate. I might also get a background check on him to make sure you and I weren't wasting our time, but then you might meet another Spanish speaking man. And lessons are never lost when learning foreign language. I think everything happens for a reason, and you've met this man for a reason. Best of luck to you! Here's a Spanish to English to Spanish dictionary for you to type in words to get the matching word to say to him, and him to you.

http://www.freedict.com/onldict/spa.html

http://www.hud.gov/buying/terms_eng-sp.cfm

this one has audio pronunciations!
http://www.spanishdict.com/

http://www.ultralingua.com/spanish-dictionary.htm?affiliate=google

Answer 4

From what you have said the only thing to do is to pursue it with him. Don't worry about the language differences as it seems like you're both intelligent enough to get round that. At this stage, where you find it difficult to communicate, because of the language you rely on more basic inate, emotions and I think that is really great. Then you are listening to your heart rather then leting language get in the way. Call my a stupid romantic, but you know when it is right and you should grab those sort of opportunities with both hands. Good luck!!!

Answer 5

I'd say go for it. Why not? You can learn more Spanish and he can learn more English and after a while communication will become easier. If you feel like you really connect even without the language I don't see why you shouldn't give it a go. :)

Answer 6

Why make language a barrier, it is something easily worked through. Let him teach you spanish, while you teach him english. Take a spanish class or get program for your PC and learn. Even if he's not interested, you've taught yourself something useful.

Good luck!

Answer 7

good thing u r learning spanish & he is learning english. that solves the problem. if both of u love each other , nationality ,language or religion should not be a problem/. u can adjust anything in this world if u r with your loved one. isn' it ?but see that u really love each other . please don't go only for sex. there r so many other things beyond that. in life to enjoy & be happy.

Answer 8

The reasonable thing is to move on...?
Since when?!

Communication is very important, but who says you have to speak the same language to communicate?
It's a very silly reason to let something like that go.

Answer 9

Can you think of a better reason for you to learn Spanish? :-) You two could even teach each other's languages...

Answer 10

Take some Spanish classes, girl!