They are 7&3 yrs.old.The older one has autism and I have been his security all his life. My daughter has lived with us off and on over the yrs.I took a leave of absent for 3 1/2 month to get him evaluated and started him in a special education class.
The mother has 2 other children, 20m & 9 months, a husband(stepfather of the 7&3yrs) in and out of jail & a very unstable relationship.It is getting to the point that I don't want to talk or be around her with all the drama in her life. I need to do this for the boys
2006-07-18 18:55:58 · 15 answers · asked by Dee S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My daughter has signed the papers giving me rights for education and health for them.She said that she would share custody with me and sign papers, but that is something she never has time for
2006-07-18 19:34:56 · update #1
that is simple....
just go to family court in your county and apply. If they dont show up, or dont disagree then you got it. If they do disagree fight it, surely you will win, they lived with you more then a year.
2006-07-18 18:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that most courts will side with the parents unless you have reasons of abuse, etc. And fighting this could cause more strife with your family.
I think you need to come together and work on this. These kids need to know all of their parents and you really have no right to take them away from their mom. Just like you should be talking positively about her. The kids will grow up and remember all good and bad things that come out of this.
There must be a reason why the kids don't want to go home but you never specified this. Sounds like you may be hiding the fact that you are standing in the middle and not helping the mother, just the kids. These are not your kids and you must do what you can to help your kid be a better mother. Even if you have to work out a custody arrangement of some sort. But letting this go to the courts will damage the kids who are NOT resilient. They see and know more than you give them credit for. And you would hate for these kids to grow up and hate you for holding them back or helping their mom along the way also. We all lose our path sometimes, help her back on it or get help for her.
2006-07-19 02:05:46 · answer #2 · answered by NVgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consult Child Protective Services in your area, and make them aware of your situation.
Basically, you will have to prove that the mother is an un-fit mother, and that is very difficult to do.
I applaud your willingness to make a very difficult decision, and your realization of doing what is right for the children. Although, don't forget about the other 2 kids as well, they ARE your grandchildren, too. Regardless of what you may think of their father.
You will probably have to take the un-autistic child to a psychiartrist, or psychologist, to get a "professional opinion" regarding the well being of that particular child. It's a long, drawn-out process, but remember that everything that you do will be for the benefit of your grandchildren.
You may also want to involve a private investigator to monitor your daughter's activities to prove that she is an un-fit mother (abusive, neglectful, etc . . .). This way you have proof if/when you have to go in front of a judge.
2006-07-19 02:45:09 · answer #3 · answered by GottaGo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am no expert, but I would think that you could go to a lawyer and have him draw up some papers for your daughter to sign. She would be appointing you as guardian, giving you the right to be the decider of things important in the boys' lives. (What schools, what Dr, surgical permission if necessary, etc.) If you want her to have no say in things, the papers need to reflect that. However, she may be less likely to sign them. If you want your daughter totally out of their lives, or without any parental rights, or without any say in the boys' upbringing, that's probably an issue for the courts to decide. It's very hard to terminate parental rights, especially if it's not voluntary.
But if she volunteers, that's all the better.
But the first step is an attorney, preferrably one with experience in custody issues/family law.
2006-07-19 02:06:39 · answer #4 · answered by woodsygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you file for guardianship of the two boys through an attorney, I would think the Department of Social Services would be called in to investigate whether or not the younger children are being neglected.
Do you just want the boys or do you want all of the children?
2006-07-19 04:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact your state Child Protective Services, Catholic Social Services or any adoption/foster care agency in your town. They can arrange what is called a kinship adoption or foster care for you to keep the children in your home and have more control. They do a lot of these.
2006-07-19 02:02:19 · answer #6 · answered by _me_ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your local family service department or even the state services can give you some help.
I don't know where you are located. There is help for you if you just make the call.
It will be the best for all.
2006-07-19 02:06:06 · answer #7 · answered by getit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, the biological parents can simply sign a paper granting you guardianship. If they refuse to do that (or one of them does) you will probably need to take it to family court.
2006-07-19 02:00:12 · answer #8 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teach the kid to take care of himself so that he will be safe with or without help. If you teach him to do stuff on his own by letting him help, he should eventually learn to be alright alone, but he could help you one day so raise him right and with safety. I don't think you want him to get hurt.
2006-07-19 02:01:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have them.... talk to her and tell her to sign over gaurdianship/ iof she refuses then go threw the courts.. with her history and the kids with you already the courts will surly give the chiildren to u good luck :)
2006-07-19 02:00:41 · answer #10 · answered by Kittie_Nash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋