once we got back together, my bf lied to me about kissing a girl while we were on a break. what do i do?

Question

We have been dating for 3 years, he needed a break b/c we're young and he wanted to experience being single, but we were pretty sure we were going to get back together at some point. During the break, he called me constantly and just seemed unable to live without me...but at the same time, he was "trying to get to know" another girl. I was aware of this (thats why we took the break, afterall), but what i was unaware of was that they kissed. He lied to me for a month, and always said he never even touched her....this isn't the first time he's lied about major issues. i broke up with him for lying, but hes begging for me to take him back. (After the kiss, he realized i was the one he wanted to be with). do i take him back?

Answer 1

If you love him enough it would be smart to straiten things out, but if he does it again then he abviously like someone else more than he likes you. He should know that kissing someone else means getting in trouble and possibly lossing a relationship. If he wants to risk that then he must not know "love" or love you. He may have been set up so make sure you know all the facts. You may lose someone you may have someday married. Be carefull.

Answer 2

I can only go on what you’re telling us. I can also think back twenty plus years to what I was like when I was “young.” I too stayed in relationships with women that constantly broke my trust and lied to me. On the other hand I did the same thing to quite a few women. Chalk it up to youthful inexperience and the ridiculous fear that I would spend the rest of my life alone if I left this person.

Thank God those days are long gone. If somebody keeps doing something that I strongly disapprove of, I simply leave them.

The bottom line is this, I would rather be single than be in a relationship with a woman that abuses my feelings.

Answer 3

WHY are people surprised when a liar lies?? Like all of a sudden they will stop? Please! A kiss is a simple thing. Your not married, you can't claim ownership just yet. People especially young people should try on other people to know they aren't making a mistake. If you cage someone, all they want is out. Let them be free to decide on their own and they come running back. He kissed another and thought of you? Pretty good sign he did the right thing to me. Good luck!

Answer 4

Be understanding and forgiving, but confront him and let him know firmly that you will not put up with further lying. Of course, there is some sense in the saying, "Ask me no questions and I'll tell you no lies." People often experiment with other relationships during a separation.

Answer 5

Come on. In my opinion you are taking this very seriously. First of all you guys had decided to break up so whatever happened during that time is not important at all and you are not obliged to explain about. However, I understand that he lied probably he did not want to hurt you. It shows that he probably loves you because we men usually brag about sex and exaggerate.
Please take your time and base your judgment on facts and him individually not on what took place when you were apart.
Don't rewind. Pause and think. BYE

Answer 6

Shouldn've broke up if you wanted to keep him. Let it go. If you dwell on it, you'll break up again, and he'll be kissing more girls. Figure out what you want, and don't nag about the past. It's the worst thing you can do to a man.Just work it out, leave it in the past, or leave him. It's the only fair thing to do. Oh yeah, don't try to change him either, it won't work.

Answer 7

NO u dont take him back, after all yes you did agree to the "BREAK"..and agreeing and giving him permission to do as he please as if he is single..so its like he was "single"..so he got to do whatever he wanted to do..but the worst part of it is that he lied..and why be with someone who is going to lie to you and disrespect you?? and if you keep taking him back thats going to say (((you keep doing these things and im going ot keep taking you back)))) you see what im saying? a man only does what you let him do..hes lied before and hes doing it again..u let that happen..by taking him back making it seem as though its okay..so show him you wont tolerate it.show he you wont take him back...babygurl i know its easier said then done trust me i know..but it looks like to me you need to find someone else..why find someone that is with you for 3years and then says "okay i need a break"???...why are you with someone..that lies repeateadly??? are you with someone thattttt...you see where im getting?? find osmeone that makes you happy..find someone who doest keep doing these things to you..theres someone out there that will respect you and want the same things you want..looks like he is childish and he doesnt know weither he wants you or not..just because he comes back doesnt mean u have to take him back..im sure he was showing you signs in the beginging you could dropped that dead beat along time ago..but u know what..show him how u made him feel..im NOT saying do what he does..but just move on..or just find a new person to make you happy...and give him a break..i think he needs someone to get himself together..its not fair for you to keep sitting around until he descised to grow up..hope i helped good luck

Answer 8

THIS IS THE WAY I LOOK AT IT SWEETHEART.U SAID THAT U HAS LIED TO U NOT ONCE BUT TWICE.LOOK THEY ALWAYS SAY THAT ONCE A LIAR ALWAYS A LIAR IT SEEMS TO ME THAT HE SHOULD HAVE BEEN DONE REALIZED THAT UR THE ONE HE WANTS. BUT LOOK SWEETHEART IF U NEED TO REALLY SREACH DEEP DOWN IN UR HEART AND FIND THE RIGHT ANSWER AND U ARE THE ONLY ONE THAT U KNOW IF U SHOULD GIVE HIM A SECOND CHANCE OR NOT.AND I THINK U SHOULD REALLY THINK LONG AND HARD ON THIS.AND LOOK REMEMBER FOLLOW UR HEART IT WILL NEVER LIE TO YOU.

Answer 9

You two were broken up, so he was free to do what he wanted. Just like if you dated another guy, and kissed him, he wouldn't have the right to be upset.
As for taking him back, that is totally up to you.

Answer 10

If this happened while you were taking a break from each other, what are you complaining about? Wasn't the idea to get to date other people? It's rather selfish of you if you want to hold against him what he did when you weren't together. Heh, you asked my opinion.