OK... guys please answer, girls too I suppose. is this a good relationship?

Question

i was just asked out today by a guy i've been crushing on for a few months. he's incredibly smart and i really like him. well the problem is... he's 3 years older than me, and he's a virgin. (he's a science nerd, what were u expecting? and he only JUST had his first kiss in April!) well i'm not a virgin. and he knows that, i know he knows that, he's never expressed having a problem with that! but should there be... i know he is looking forward to losing his virginity, we've discussed it and he was the one who said he wanted to take it very very slowly. do guys have problems dating girls younger than them who arent virgins when they are... please give me feedback here! i am dieing! and, i know i know this is kind of super sticious... but today my hamster died... of no apparent cause... coincidentally the same day he asked me out... i dont know what to do...

i'm not worried about rushing btw, thats totally fine with me!

i have made him feel very comfortable about him not being a virgin also, and i have only had sex with 1 person and we were 2gether for 1 1/2 before that! and if anyone, i am very consious about pregnancies and stds!!! and btw i am a straight a student always have been always plan to be! so im not letting it get in the way of school!

we have been best friends for 7 years.

Answer 1

OK, I really doubt that asking you out had anything to do with your pet's untimely demise, so relax.

Secondly, Yes. Guys can and often date a few years above their age, or below their age, often with little or no problems.

Age is just the number of times you have been sitting on a giant ball of dirt, that is swinging around a really big hot ball of plasma. See how much it matters in the scheme of things? :-)

As for the virgin questions, so what. If the both of you want to date, and the both of you have feelings for each other, then live life and have fun. Worry about the future in a little while, enjoy the now with each other and see what happens.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Here's a guy answer. If I was a virgin and I was dating a girl who wasn't I would want her to get things started first to ease me into things. I would want her to make me comfortable and show me what makes her feel good. In a way we are all virgins when it comes to someone new. Sure we already have an idea of what it feels like to be with someone but everyone is different and has different needs. Help the guy out and set it up for him. You two will build trust, learn more about each other, and will probably be headed for a strong relationship. Don't forget though ... you were just asked out today. Don't rush into sex with him. Build a different kind of bond first. Develop a friendship. If you don't the relationship will just be based on sex.

Answer 3

Sorry to hear about your hampster. I do not believe his life ended as sone kind of force of nature to stop you from going out with this guy. I think it was probably just a sad coincidence. In the universe it sould be looked at as one beginning and one end.
If you were a guy you would not even be asking this question. A guy would jump to get a chance to have a virgin.
Since he wants to loose his virginity and he has apparently chosen you as the one who wants to loose it too it is understandable that he wants to take it slow so it can be special.
Obviously since he does not have a problem with you not being one it doesn't matter what other people have done.
It sound like wonderful oportunity to give someone a beautiful first time experience.
You are very lucky!

Answer 4

Well, if both parties feel comfortable and happy, then yeah, it's a good relationship. And, most guys date younger girls, virgins or not. There's nothing wrong with having a boyfriend older then you, just as long as there's not too much of an age difference...example, 20 years apart LOL. Don't ever rush people to open up to you, it'll cause problems. Rome wasn't built in a day.

Answer 5

Although he said he wants to take it "very very slowly," that might have been an attempt to give him the "im a nice guy" look. It does work, and it sounds like you want to do him. So I would say do it! You can be the first person to make a memory that will last forever for him. And who knows, maybe he's "the one." You said he is kinda geeky...geeks make all the money. If you are a minor, 3 years difference is pretty big. But If he's cool with it, go for it!

Answer 6

Jeez, enough with the drama and teen angst. So your hamster died. So did alot of other things. So, you call him a nerd. Very nice. He might just want try sex. Or on the off chance that he really wants to be with you, why are you in such a rush to have sex again? It doesn't sound like you're mature to handle the consequence of it, such as STD, HIV, and yeah, unwanted pregnancies. Focus on your school work, dear, not your hormones.

Answer 7

Go placidly amid the noise
And the haste and remember
What peace there may be in silence?

As far as possible without surrender
Be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly,
And listen to others,
Even the dull and ignorant,
They too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
They are vexatious to the spirit.
If you compare yourself to others
You may become vain or bitter,
For always there will be greater
And lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as
Your plans, Keep interested in
Your career however humble;
It is a real possession in the
Changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs,
For the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you
To what virtue there is;
Many persons strive for high ideals,
And everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself, especially do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
For in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
It is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years gracefully
Surrendering the things of youth.

Nurture the strength of spirit to shield you
In sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself
With imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue
And loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline,
Be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe, no less than the
Trees and the stars: You have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt
The universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you
Conceive him to be; and whatever your labours
And aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life,
Keep peace with your soul.
With all its shams, drudgery and
Broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

Answer 8

I'd recomened an immediate replacement hampster. Also, quit drinking things you find under the kitchen sink. If you are under the age of 20 I find you mildly entertaining at the very most. If you are over 20 perhaps you should marry this man and absorb the full brunt of his repressed sexuality.

Furthermore; 'superstitious' is only one word. Enjoy a Coke!

Answer 9

Stop, relax and take a slow breathing. You are over thinking. I do not think men have a problem dating any gal they had asked out. My suggestion is just let fate take it course. Do not rush stuff and over thinking normally tends to cause disaster. Go out with him on the date and see what happens. Consulation am sure he is as nervous are you are?

Answer 10

well i dont think that u not being a virgin should be a problem, ur past is ur past. I hope he doesnt want u only to loose it with you because then he probably thinks ur easy. But if he wants to take it slow and not think about that then he's probably a good guy