a result of immature parenting, bad attitudes in the family or other negative influences on the kids that causes rivalry and jealousy instead of (natural) friendship and loyalty? What has been your experience with rivalry?
2006-07-18 17:48:27 · 3 answers · asked by jimrich 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
in my experience, rivalry was taught and/or encouraged by our ignorant parents who probably got a 'kick' out of my 1 year older brother and me fighting when we were little and it didn't harm anyone (except us). it's a sorry thing that our parents could not have trained us to love, stand by and befriend each other and our 4 years younger sister. we all deserved a better and happier upbringing but our parents just weren't informed or up to the task of communicating love, etc. i did learn a little about love and respect from folks outside my own family later on after many horrible relationships and hostile encounters.
2006-07-20 20:01:36 · update #1
I see it and most of the time I think parents have something to do with it.. Other times it is the fault of one or both or if there are a number of kids.. than more than 2 .. some kids are just going to have rivalry with siblings and say friends too.. just their nature..They want to be the center of say the attention..
It is really bad when a parent only gives attention to one child and ignores a child. I have seen that before... Or if one child really excels the parents go over board praising that child, while the other(s) go un noticed. Not Fair!!
My children do not have it.. the Rivalry .....TG!!
I feel sorry for the families that do..
But.... all kids say.. Mom you love so and so more and Dad loves so and so more.... that hurts...
My children are opposites.. born that way... so naturally they are not going to see hardly anything the same..
We try mostly me.. the MOM, try to be FAIR but their personalities are so different and that makes it very difficult at times..
2006-07-18 17:55:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very good question. Felt like I wrote every bit of it. Sadly, I believe I have seen my mom cracking a smile, or, seem to get excited at times when my sister and I were fighting/arguing. I remember thinking, she's just so glad we're too focused on each other to realize what a WAY loser she was. She was a single-parent, and, an idiot at that. Could been worse, but, could been a lot better. We REALLY suffered from bitterness. Only solution was to AVOID each other. I really believe my mom fostered problems between us, bc she was so afraid of us liking each other, . .and, not her. Of, -her- being the "odd man out", as she was in her primary family of 3 girls, and, being the stupidest one who was made fun of. So, . .my suffering under the angry insecurity of my older sister, angry insecurity that was planted (perhaps?) and instilled (certainly not negated) by my mom, was not necessary, and perhaps not the natural course of things (genetics/personality) of my sister, but mymoms.
2016-05-06 18:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by elizabeth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fight with my step-brother. He's younger and annoys the crap outta me. I'm 14 and he's 11.
2006-07-18 19:07:24 · answer #3 · answered by roxy81492 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋