The groom and his fiancee live out of town--they have never lived in this city, so the shower would be for family only. It's a very, very small wedding with only one attendant (the bride's sister.) Does it look tacky if we host a shower for them? To add to the mix, the groom has a debilitating disease.
2006-07-18 17:46:33 · 10 answers · asked by BuckeyeMom 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It is acceptable, according to proper etiquette since the attendees will only be family. If there were friends of the bride attending, then the shower should be hosted by a friend of the bride or by her attendants. "Back in the old days" it was improper for the family of the bride to host a shower as it appeared "gift grabby".
The fact that the groom has a debilitating disease has no bearing on who should host the shower.
2006-07-18 19:40:42 · answer #1 · answered by Just Jess 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In reality it should be her mother to host the shower, however in this day and age the shower can be hosted by anyone who knows and cares for the couple. I think it's very sweet to help out and it shows you care by doing so as well as the fear you have of breaking some unknown taboo. Don't feel like you're stepping on toes, you can make others feel like their helping by delegating duties to those who want them, simple things like pick up the bride or please cut the cheese into small squares. Anything is helpful and it's all about showing love and compassion, the only way it could be tacky is if you act high and mighty about it, as though you doing them some grand favor. Which I doubt you would do since you're so nervous about it. Good luck and my hope for happiness and health to the couple.
2006-07-18 20:43:52 · answer #2 · answered by Kellie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course! Anyone can host a shower for the bride. No one bothered for me, and though I didn't really want one I was disappointed no one bothered to try to arrange one. I'm sure the bride will be touched!
2006-07-18 18:02:08 · answer #3 · answered by mishmush 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. It's a nice gesture towards the bride to let her know that she's included in your side of the family. I had two bridal showers when I got married - one with my family and friends in my hometown and one with my (then) future in-laws and friends where we were living. It's not at all tacky to me.
2006-07-18 17:52:41 · answer #4 · answered by jengirl9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not really up on my etiquette, but I can in no way see that as socially unacceptable. Unless, her mother/sisters/bridesmaids are planning a shower as well and there are overlapping guest lists. I would then relinquish hosting the shower.
2006-07-18 17:54:04 · answer #5 · answered by eeyoreshunni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea why it would not be. I know people who have 3 showers--different families and friends. So that is normal. At least she is getting a bridal shower and knows that someone cares. That should be enough.
2006-07-18 19:11:53 · answer #6 · answered by just julie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly okay and very nice of you. Anyone can host a shower. Best wishes to the future newlyweds.
2006-07-18 17:52:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at present, it is gradually extra functional for moms, sisters, or different kinfolk individuals to throw bridal showers. extra brides and grooms live in cities except the single the position they grew up, and their attendants may nicely be in nonetheless yet another city. in the adventure that they are having the marriage of their position of beginning yet not one of the attendants stay there, it is unrealistic to assume a maid of honor in Seattle to plot a bath in Chicago with none help from the locals. So it is typically mom or Sis who can truly coordinate the bathe plans. faraway bridesmaids and honor attendants are surely pitching in yet further and extra, mom is transforming into social gathering crucial and there is no fake pas in that. (in truth, showers thrown by using kinfolk individuals are rather a lot the norm in some areas of the country.) And even as it comes each of how right down to it, the bathe is about presents, no count number who throws it. It appears like your mom only must be a component of your very special occasion. That is smart - she loves you and needs you to be at liberty! because you factor out that she isn't financially able to host yet another bathe and also you'll favor that she no longer contribute to the bathe your MIL and SIL are throwing - imagine of techniques that you'll be able to make her experience major and valued. - Have a particular position of honor for her to sit down down in the course of the bathe, ideally next to you. possibly the MIL and SIL can reliquish some duty in the course of the bathe - like writing down the presents as you open them - on your mom to do. - Spend the morning before the bathe (or evening after) with your mom for some one-on-one time -on the bathe, supply a small speech to thank your MIL and SIL for information superhighway hosting a superb bathe - take a 2d on the top to thank your mom for being supportive and valuable in the course of the stressful making plans time (and for the length of the completed existence) i am hoping this enables. Congratulations on your engagement. savour this time - it flies by using!
2016-10-14 22:55:22 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesnt matter who hosts the shower all brides deserve one, i had my young sister doing that for me, my older sisters were too jealousy and full of hatred to do that.
2006-07-19 01:20:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all brides no matter what deserve a shower.
2006-07-18 17:51:09 · answer #10 · answered by CHAEI 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋