Am I just stupid or what?

Question

I like this guy on my swim team who's two years older than me, making him sixteen. He's asked if I need a ride a few times and always says hi to me when he sees me. But I'm always either nervous and shy around him or playing hard to get. I don't get to talk to him alot since we don't swim in the same age group and I havn't gotten to REALLY know him. I've never flirted with him since I'm shy and whenever he asks me a question like "How was your weekend?" I always give him a dumb answer like "It was good." What do I do? I'm really not a boring person but stuff like that always happens.

Answer 1

No you're not stupid! You're just shy, and I know how you feel. I've experienced the same situation you have. I used to get really nervous talking to guys and I'm still a little shy. It really does take a great deal of effort to talk to a guy you like; however, if he shows signs of interest, it can make it easier on ya. From what you say, seems like he may be interested since he's always talking to you and offering you a ride. So that's definitely a plus! Now here's the problem, if you continue acting shy or show lack of interest, he'll eventually stop talking to you and you wouldn't want that. What I suggest is that you start talking to him every time you see him. Don't just answer his questions, maybe ask him how his day went and whatever other questions you can think of that will get a great conversation going. What you want to do is get to know him really well and obviously the only way to do that is to TALK to him. I know it's tough but think about it...do you really want to get to know him or do you wanna be left wondering what he's like? If it helps, write down some topics that you think would be interesting to talk about before seeing him, so that way you won't be left speechless when he approaches you. Then when you see him, you can remember the stuff you wrote down and start up a conversation that way. It may sound dumb, but at least it'll have you prepared for a conversation and no one has to know. I hope I've helped and good luck! Hopefully it'll work out for you.

Answer 2

I say, rehearse. Figure out something interesting about your weekend, or a question to ask him, or a funny story, or whatever, before every time you might see him (until you overcome your nerves.) Try saying something to him first, to let him know you're interested, even if it's just, "Hi!" and go on your way. Also, are you at least accepting the rides home??? That's the real ticket to getting to know him better!!! The next time he asks you, accept, and then cancel your other ride or just deal with the consequences of standing up your other ride. Greater things have been done for love!

Answer 3

I think you should just try being friends with this guy. Guys and girls think totally different. I know your at an age were you look at guys differently, but you need to know who you are , and what you want before you start thinking about relationships. 9 times out of 10 a guy is not thinking about anything but one. and I bet you can guess what that is. He is also older than you, and has more experience. Take it from me a mother at 15, You really don't want to go there. STAY YOUNG, STAY STRONG.

Answer 4

Aw man! That happens to everyone. Don't stress. Try focusing on what he's saying instead of what you're going to say next. For instance, if he asks how your weekend was, you could elaborate on something you did and ask him how his weekend was. Then ask him all the questions you can think of that relate to what he just said. The more you worry about how you look or sound, the harder it will be to think of what to say. Good luck!

Answer 5

try talking about him. ask him about what he likes. what are his goals. elaborate on what he has just said. tell him about you. etc.open up the door a little, let him into your life. trust me he will start to like you more if you can break the ice. some guys like it when a girl breaks the ice. you have to get over your fears now if you really like him. go the extra mile because he must be a shy guy as well. nothing will happen unless you make something happen.

Answer 6

First you are not stupid. You may be a little shy, but you are young and that can change. OK, when he ask you a question like "How was your weekend" you say "not bad, but it would have been a lot better if you were in it." When he says "hi your name I hope" you will say "So how was your day his name?"

Answer 7

You should talk to him because if you dont you will more likely screw up any chance you have with him. If you dont actually try to conversate he will think that you are not interested. Try asking him questions for now on so you dont have to worry about having a dumb answer.

Answer 8

tell him what you actually do on the weekends - short replies means lost conversation time.... get creative with your weekends - find fun stuff to do - so you can have a decent conversation with him. Don't ride with him unless your parents approve and always tell someone you are riding home with someone else---

Answer 9

You are blowing it for sure. You don't talk to him, you don't accept his rides, and you play hard to get? He is going to give up on you. A man only fishes in a pond for a period of time before he reels it in and heads to better waters.

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Answer 10

You're just nervous try to relax, write him a note, email him, call him talk to him in an environment you feel more comfortable in and eventually you'll get comfortable talking to him in person.....it's natural don't sweat it.....