submissive boyfriend?

Question

Ok so now my other question has been answered thanks to the helpful people who read questions like this... Id like to know if anyone has any helpful websites about how to deal with your submissive man... By the way,

I think it is worth a mention that he has not mentioned that he wants me to be in control, just now everything makes sense tho, all the times i said "you wont have an orgasim tonight" and how he just said "you're mean" but then didnt push it farther or how he asked me to treat him like scum/dirt... this is usually only in the bedroom he asks for stuff like that, but he has acted semi submissive outside the bedroom but not often... I want to nurture his needs and any real help would be much appreciated...

I have been to http://www.aroundherfinger.com that was real good. I got heaps from that!!

Any more? :)

Thanks in advance

Jo xoxox

Hes a muscline type guy and very much in control of himself and work. thought that was worth putting in so you know he's not a push over..

Answer 1

I just answered your previous question and much of what I wrote there applies here. I will reiterate that a very crucial aspect of your relationship needs to be discussed in an open, honest conversation where the wants and need of both you and him are hammered out. Motives and urges need to be explored and examined. I doubt that you will be able to get any real information about his nature from just observation alone.

Of course, once you have had this discussion, then observation of his actions is important. If he knows what he wants, his actions will conform to what has been expressed. If not, then it's not exactly lying, but he may still be trying to work things out himself.

In terms of websites regarding how to deal with a submissive man, there are plenty to choose from, and you'll be able to find them from a simple web search. Of course, nothing beats real-time experience. It might be useful to chat with other women with the same situation and discover what they do in certain circumstances.

Ultimately, this is about your relationship with him, and that is going to be defined by the synergy that the two of you have. It's going to be a learning experience, but then anything worth learning fits that category. Well wishes!